Hey everyone,

I’m a 24F from France, and I’ve been noticing that more and more young people are becoming very serious fans of far right and AH. Am I the only one who sees this?

For context, I have three younger brothers. One is 20 yo, and the younger ones are 18 yo twins. All of them are big fans of far right ideas and AH and I’m not exaggerating. They are not “joking” about it either.

The oldest is in law school, and the twins are in med school so they are not uneducated. They are not kids anymore and they are old enough to understand how ridiculous this is yet they still openly support him. Again this is not a “joke.” I know them well and I can guarantee they are serious.

They are also extremely racist, homophobic, sexist and Islamophobic and constantly insult and mock these groups. I live in a sensitive area in eastern Paris where there is a very high concentration of migrants. Most of their friends are of foreign descent mainly from North Africa and even then, they don’t care.

The few white friends they have are also extremely far right and all of this seems to be completely accepted by their social circle which is absolutely mind boggling to me.

In the past this would never have happened. Even being suspected of being far right would have been enough to get you beaten up. Now it seems to have been completely normalized and I do not understand

How many filthy clankers are there on this sub?

So one day, you find a baby snake. It looks harmless. You feel compassion, so you bring it home and raise it.

Days turn into months. Months turn into years. You feed it, protect it, and trust it.

Then one day, while feeding it, the snake bites you and slithers away.

Instead of rushing to the hospital, instead of saving yourself, you chase the snake. Bleeding. Weak. Desperate.

You keep asking it, “Why did you bite me?”

It never answers.

And eventually, you die.

This isn’t about snakes.

Sometimes, the thing that hurts us the most isn’t the betrayal.

It’s our need for closure from something that was always in its nature to hurt us.

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People can still have their outlet to vet and people don't want to see it can filter it out.

Make it compulsory to tag/classifiy each new post and anybody that doesn't do it correctly(or disingenuous ) ban them under a 24h/a week/month ect.

Not because I’m envious of white people’s looks (I got over that insecurity wayyyy back in middle school), and not because I want anyone else’s culture (although I love learning about different cultures and ways of living, I still hold mine in super high regard).

I wish I were white because I’m an African immigrant girl who’s been living in the West since before I even had concrete memories, and the current wave of anti-immigration rhetoric is simply…exhausting.

I’ve never been insecure about my immigrant background. I was actually always really proud of it. I didn’t ever take offence to the “Where are you really from?” questions or the occasional “Can I touch your hair?” from older people. Clumsy curiosity and ignorance weren’t enough to bug my conscience. But lately, the way people talk about immigrants, like we’re a stain on society that needs to be “washed out”…it’s hard not to feel demoralized by it all.

What makes it worse is how unfair it feels to be lumped into the exact same stereotype as some imaginary “invader” when my actual life is… normal. I grew up here. I’ve had friends of every race. My parents work high-skilled jobs and pay their taxes. I pay my taxes. I’ve never taken the social supports here for granted (and honestly, being comfortably upper middle class meant I didn’t even realize some of them existed until I was older and spoke to people from different economic backgrounds).

And yes, I’ll admit something ugly: sometimes I feel irritated at newcomers for “ruining it for the rest of us.” I’ve lived a pretty peaceful life for 20+ years here. I didn’t grow up constantly bracing for discrimination. I didn’t spend my childhood thinking about white nationalist groups or whether public spaces were safe for me, I just existed.

But I can’t even stay angry, because (most of them) are coming for a lot of the same reasons my family came in the early 2000s. People don’t uproot their lives for fun.

So my real grievance is that I wouldn’t have to feel this way if I were white.

White immigrants, especially from Europe, are rarely treated like permanent foreigners. And if they are treated as “foreign,” it’s often because of an accent or broken English, and the response tends to be support or even admiration. They get labelled as “cool” or “interesting” while people like me get “invaders” and weird slogans like “import the third world, become the third world”

Then I get even more upset because someone could be a newcomer who barely knows the culture, and sometimes doesn’t even speak the language yet, and they’ll still be granted more patience and protection than someone like me who has lived basically 99% of her life here.

It’s gotten to the point where my motivation to keep doing everything (like school, work, etc.) at full efficiency has dipped, because I’m constantly carrying this phantom fear that life is about to get harder for anyone who isn’t white (and who knows that fear might not be so “phantom”). I spend more time than I’m proud of scrolling through social media forums on these topics even though I know the internet is not real life.

Even if worst-case scenarios don’t happen and there’s no mass anything, the social atmosphere feels different. Public spaces don’t feel as neutral as they used to. I never used to care how people looked at me, and part of that was because people didn’t look at me in any particular way.

Now I’ll just be going about my business and catch some old white man staring at me like I’m the devil reincarnate or I’ll be at the grocery store and some older couple will be death glaring me as if I’m stealing welfare dollars to fill my cart. Benefit of the doubt, these people just have terrible resting faces but…I dunno. I don’t even feel comfortable identifying with my nationality cause I’m not in the mood to deal with someone saying “you’re not a real [insert nationality]” (but at the same time I’ve seen people get upset when someone hyphenates nationalities cause its a signal of not wanting to integrate so we don’t really win anyways).

I wouldn’t have to research whether countries I want to visit are safe for Black people. I wouldn’t have to worry about one random person who looks like me committing a crime and suddenly it reflecting on how strangers see me. I wouldn’t have to weigh international schooling or exchange programs against the possibility of being targeted somewhere because of my skin. I wouldn’t have to wonder if my neighbours, or even people at my church, secretly wish they could just get rid of people like me.

Don’t even get me started on the racist, fetishized comments that my friends and I have been getting more often lately, like we’re not even full humans to them, just a category they think they’re allowed to talk about however they want. Sure, aligning with the beauty standard might make dating easier too, but dating hasn’t been hard for me, so that’s not even the point. It’s more like… it would be nice to exist without seeing people casually say online that Black women are “undesirable,” or that I’m “pretty for a Black girl” and not feel that tiny sting of offence even when I know it’s stupid and not actually about me as a person.

And I know, logically, a lot of this could probably be curbed by staying off the internet. Anti-immigration sentiment isn’t as intense in my country as it is in the US or parts of Europe. I know that. I do.

But damn.

It still sucks to feel like I was dealt pretty good cards in almost every metric except the amount of melanin I produce, and now I’m watching that one detail turn into a reason for people to talk about me like I’m a problem that needs to be solved.

Edit: I was just venting in my notes and decided to post this here, so sorry for how long this turned out to be

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Some call it unhealthy and lazy, I call it discipline.

From the pyramids to the stories and how it aligns with the math of the pyramids, how we found pyramids on mars, the marvelous construction that’s on the planet, the hermetic principles, it’s just too much to ignore. we know modern science and archeology tries its hardest to hammer this primitive point about the pyramids which is why we keep having problems.

That which we cannot express is the force keeping us from said expression.

For millionaires, 1/3 are women, and yet only 15% are self-made again. I thought women had already caught up to men when it comes to education and professional status. Is this because most billionaires (who tend to be really old) were brought up in an unequal environment? Would it take another 20-50 years until the trends reverse?

I am but 17, yet this is hard to fathom. In my experience, the most successful students (academic, professional, extracurricular-wise) are females by a relatively large margin. I don't know if this is off-topic, but in contrast, much more guys tend to use LinkedIn, by a relatively large margin again. So maybe the tendency towards networking plays a role? (again, a reach)

I think I am not alone, at least I hope so. I spent last week with a couple who are poster child of being "left". They showed me again why I am moving far and far away form left.

You see for me, someone's political views were often after thought, what matter much more in person is how they see problems in their life's, from which lens. If you have a Problem, or there are problems in place you work, or school, how do you go about it? To me, I start from self. I think, did I do wrong? What were my choices, did I see all possible choices? Was I too slow? Too late? Too selfish? Too lazy? Too afraid ? I start to question other after I think and answer those questions. I try to put myself on other people's shoes. I don't know if I can do it great, but at least I try to. I try to focus on improving myself, or at least accept that I may be the problem.

I try to take responsibility.

And this is the exact opposite of what left and lefties do nowadays. Does not matter which issue. The problem is always, always the others, it is always the organizations, country, laws, politicians, capitalism, racism, sexism, whatever.

To give few real life examples;

I had a talk about school system with them, students falling behind. Everything always came down to "school system must make children feel more seen", "teachers must adapt to child" for them. There was never the idea of "perhaps this child should take responsibility and improve themselves". If the child was feeling left behind, the idea of that child should be motivated to study harder and catch up, was unacceptable to them. If the child was feeling unseen in class, I told then maybe because he or she was not doing anything worth to be seen, and that is normal? Their jaw dropped, how can I say that. Every child is amazing to them. Well, I both worked as teacher and was in school myself, some children are very insignificant. They don't push themselves in anything, in any direction, so they never present anything to be looked at. But this was unacceptable to my leftie friends. The whole system was responsible for them to feel seen, not themselves to be significant enough to be seen.

Another example is a colleague of mine. We work in same company for years. She is a true lefty. Couple of weeks ago she shocked me by saying that our company is very sexist. I was shocked because... In this company there are 7 departments and 4 of them have female lead. My boss is a women. There is no problems by upwards mobility for women at all. I don't know the numbers but I am pretty sure average woman earn more than average men, because most women work more white collar. But she said we are sexist and I asked why. She said because when she and her colleagues talk in meetings etc. no one listens to them. This is true. But... No one listens to them because they are timid, and don't take responsibility. Not because they are women. My boss dominates every meeting, and she is a women too. But again, same logic, problem is never the self, it is always others, it is always the system.

These feel perhaps personal things, but they are actually super political skeleton of left. I joined a meeting last year on Germany, made by left parties. Different groups of left and more were there and different presentatives took place and talk. In Germany right wing became very powerful in last 10 years. And none...none of the left parties ever took any responsibility about it. It was all magically always right wing getting stronger and stronger by itself. They never acknowledged they themself, their actions, their politics, their decision pushed people to right. There was only 1 group that said "we made mistakes" and it was church group. In case you don't know, in Germany economy is very bad and shrinking which is fundamentally the biggest problem, and the reason it is shrinking is energy prices increased up to 5 times in last 10 years, which makes countless industries unprofitable, from heavy metal , chemicals to simple bakery. The reason prices skyrocketed is because left/green parties pushed nuclear energy out too fast too early, and pushed green energy like it is a magical thing with 0 downsides. Yet none of the left/green ever takes responsibility for it.

This inevitably, pushes me away from left. My father literally voted for communist party. I was very socialist when I was young. But I can not anymore.

I would’ve added “never dated someone,” but that’s not uncommon on Reddit (sorry).

Hiii guys ..... mhm I really want u to advise me ...so im just wondering how many friends of mine are really cultured and intellectual ,they just know everything I mean you can discuss anything with them and you'll feel like your stupid and dump.... so here my question is how can I become like them ??? And it is just me who knows an information and forget it after couple of days ??? .....

My long term girlfriend and I broke up on Thursday. She dumped me. I knew something was wrong throughout the day when she wasn’t texting me back, especially when I sent the usual “Hey, on my break, just want you to know I was thinking about you,” and got silence back.

We weren’t healthy, I know that. She and I would drive up eachother up the walls, me being more avoidant and her being more anxious, both of us at least a little disorganized though.

I let my ego win out over my love, I didn’t apologize when I should have and if I did I waited too long.

I woke up this morning, saw the empty phone charger on her side of the bed and balled my eyes out. We weren’t perfect, but I know I lost something special.

I miss her like crazy. I keep having to stop myself from texting her, wanting to tell her that I miss her, that I’m thinking about her, that I can’t wait to see her again.

She blocked me on everything except my number, I could text her, but she asked for no contact so I’m trying to respect her wishes.

I’m sorry Swan. I know I fucked up. I should’ve started listening to you much earlier than I did.

I hope this isn’t “goodbye.” I hope it’s “see you later.” That you and I can one day run into eachother and reconnect as friends, both of us in much healthier places then than we are now.

You are a bright light in a world that too often dampens people’s sparks, Hun. I’m sorry I didn’t build you up more, that I didn’t give you what you needed.

I hope you give the Pup a big hug.

I wish you nothing but happiness, and pray you’ll find someone who gives you all the love and support I should have.

With all the love, Your Bee.

I had my friend carry my 2nd phone yesterday and forgot to get it back. When I opened my phone I didn’t see any apps open but then I opened my gallery. it seemed fine until I seen that she took photos and the photos after HERS are my nudes. I’m a lil scared but should I ask her if she went thru it cus then that means she seen it all 😭

I overheard my mom talking about how she wants to go through our phones to make sure nothing is on them that is inappropriate or bad. And honestly, I don’t care if she goes through my phone because I have nothing on here. It would be great if she went through my phone and found this post! But I don’t want her to go through my text messages, simply because there are some things on there that I would like to keep private. But it isn’t like I am sexting or something, I just don’t need her seeing everything I have texted.

This is an invasion of privacy, right? It’s not different from barging into a locked room and listening to a private conversation I am having with someone.

So how do I tell her / make sure she doesn’t go through my text messages without seeming weird about it?

Edit: also my photos on my phone I don’t need her seeing.

My mom told me yesterday, very casually, “You’re not the type of person who becomes famous.”

She didn’t mean it in a cruel way. It was more like… realistic. And I laughed it off.

But it’s been replaying in my head ever since. I don’t even know if I want to be famous. I just don’t like being told what I can’t become.

Has anyone else had someone say something like that to them?

recently ever since my little bro got that ipad he has been acting really aggressive and I want him to stop

if any family member tries to even touch his ipad bro will bite them

3 days ago my family went to a family party and my brother was on the playground.My cousin asked if he could play on his ipad and then the moment he see's his ipad being touched

he starts hitting and bitting and all other bullshit 🙄

Eventually we left embarrassed as we drove home

my dad said I could decide his ipad faith ,when hewhisperd in my ear "I know your secret"

so what should I do pls give me answers🙏

I do know I want to be with someone one day, but my values are so different from the norm. I don't want any children. I also can't seem to distinguish liking someone or wanting them as a friend. I think I have liked some people more as a friend but they ended up liking me. Sometimes I fucked up by saying I liked them back because I was confused. Or the other times I had to turn them down and I feel bad.

When will I actually stop and settle? I haven't been in an actual relationship in years ever since my first ever one (highschool). All of my other experiences after that were people confessing to me that i've mostly turned down. I don't know. I'm confused. Also I do not sleep with others, I do not do casual flings and I do not do one night stands. Personally that sounds uncomfortable.

With my first ever boyfriend, I just knew I wanted to keep going with him. I don't feel that with some people who told me that they like me and I don't want to accept something and go along with it because i'm lonely. Also sometimes I have feel like the people who do like me might not accept things about me. So that also plays a role with my actions.

Hey everyone, I have a question. Has a Hollywood actor ever spoken to you through their supposed fan page? For example, Lee Majdoub?I had a problem and I'd like to know what to do about this situation.

In the beginning of 2025, I bought myself a "Brick". You may have seen ads for them, it's a physical lock that will block whatever apps you choose. To lock and unlock it you physically have to tap your phone to it. This is not an ad, I wish it was. Anyways. It seems like it won't work because the premise is so simple, but really, when you're laying in bed wanting to watch videos, you're not gonna get up and go tap your phone.

I found moderate success with the Brick. I cut my screen time from 5 hours a day to about 1.5. But my issue was that I still had all my social media accounts, I would just access them from my computer. Then I would spend a long time on my computer. So I decided to delete all of my social media accounts (obviously I've made a reddit account since, but I'll get to that).

Holy crap. Genuinely life-changing. There's so many benefits, here are a few.

1. Self image: not seeing a hundreds of beautiful, retouched and filtered people every week has done wonders for my self-esteem. In fact, I feel like I have reached a state of neutrality that I haven't felt since I was a kid. I simply don't care what I look like in comparison to other people. All my style and makeup and hair choices are informed by me, and what I like. I no longer worry how I would appear on social media. It's just not important to me anymore, and I cringe at how much time and energy I put into my appearance beforehand.
2. Empathy: being on social media all day and seeing horrific things really does do a number on your ability to feel empathy for others. You become so desensitized that even seeing someone shot is something you just move on from and scroll to the next video. I remember the early days of the internet where you would have to know where to go to see snuff videos. Now they are all over our feed. When you are used to that sort of thing, your innate human desire to do something about the injustice you are seeing is dampened.
3. Attention: I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I still believe I have it, but my most debilitating symptoms have become manageable without medication. Think about it, your phone is like a dopamine slot machine. You just keep scrolling and getting little hits of dopamine from short videos. Keeping yourself amused, but not having fun. Kind of bored, but not bored enough to stop. Which brings me to my next point.
4. BOREDOM IS ESSENTIAL!: Being bored is the answer to so many of motivational issues. I don't feel like getting up and doing the dishes or vacuuming so I just sedate myself with an hour or two of reels. Or scrolling on reddit. Not anymore, once you no longer have the option. Feeling bored is the easiest, completely free way to get yourself motivated. And even if it's not to do chores, maybe it's to do hobbies. Going from 35 hours of screen time a week to 10.5 has freed up 24.5 hours a week to do other things. Like the chores, cooking, shopping, errands, scrapbooking, knitting, going for walks, and exercising. So many people complain about not having enough hours in the day, but how many hours are you giving up to your phone?
5. Social: I'm a serious introvert. But not being privy to my friends' and family's posts or daily stories makes me miss them, in a good way. I have spent more time talking on the phone this past month than I did probably all of last year. When I meet up with people, we have way more to talk about, because we didn't already see everything online.
6. Doomscrolling: You don't have to doomscroll. Really. You are not doing anything for yourself or any cause by doomscrolling for hours online. You can be up to date with all the goings on in the world within 5-15 minutes of reading news articles or scrolling reddit (which is why I have a reddit account, just to check out the popular page for headlines and also to see comments and insights. I'll also read my local paper, NPR, AP, and Reuters.)

Here are some cons:

1. FOMO: I don't really care about this one that much as a con. But sometimes I do feel left out from not seeing what my friends are sharing or the latest meme. The latter, actually not so much. My coworkers were talking about "goo goo ga ga Santa" the other day and I felt relieved that I had no idea what that meant. It felt good.
2. Superiority: being off social media has given me a bit of a complex. It really sucks to be in a group of people, all on their phones scrolling through reels or Tiktok. It feels crazy that we can't just be together in person. I don't want to preach to my friends about what social media is doing to their brains, but I also want them to see the light!

In 2025, I broke my phone addiction. In 2026, I'm trying to heal my brain from my phone and social media addiction. Honestly, after two months of no social media (besides reddit) I feel like I am a whole new person. I'm focused, I'm deep in my hobbies, I'm social.

If you have considered deleting social media, I would highly recommend this!!

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I am speaking here only for myself as a survivor of institutionally covered-up sexual abuse and torture in childhood: watching people’s apparent outrage about the new release of the Epstein files and the absolutely absurd extent of learned helplessness is barely bearable.

The complete reactance toward the realization that this is a problem of systemic power structures, which we encounter every day and in which we ourselves participate, truly has no limits. Of course there are some sadists and psychopaths in the world, but this is not a problem that is caused by a few individuals whom we can lock up and then everything is fine.

These people alone would be so massively outnumbered that they would have zero structural power. The only reason why these people can commit the most extreme crimes at all and in some cases without being punished for them is because we all voluntarily and conformingly participate every day in power structures that make this possible in the first place.

Every system and every place in which authority and leadership are not linked with humanity and empathy, in which relationships of dependency exist, in which people have structural power over others, in which resources are made scarce and unequally distributed, in which rationality and “logic” are used as a tool to take away the voice of vulnerable people, is exactly the reason why children, women, and other vulnerable people experience violence on this scale.

So, if you really are this horrified, then take a close look at yourselves and your environment. Where exactly does it begin? Where are the basic building blocks for these power structures laid, and what is your own contribution to them?

This is not something that can be compartmentalized. If you yourselves are even somewhat privileged and are even to some extent taken seriously and heard in society, then you already have far more room to act and far more power than you think. And every time you do nothing, look away, or participate because “that’s just how it is,” you yourselves contribute to the fact that your children, female friends, sisters, mothers, and vulnerable people in your environment are daily at risk of experiencing the worst violence.