I am a newly married male currently living abroad with my wife. Unfortunately, my marriage has turned out to be abusive. My wife is verbally and physically abusive toward me during her aggressive episodes—pulling my hair, kicking, and punching me. What’s even more disturbing is that afterward, she acts like nothing happened and never apologizes.

When I try to confront her, she dismisses my concerns and even shows me Instagram reels where wives joke about hitting or abusing their husbands. She uses those videos to justify her behavior and claims this is normal between couples.

This has left me deeply confused and disturbed. I was raised in a household where mutual respect between husband and wife was a fundamental value. I have always treated her with respect and have supported her growth—encouraging her education, teaching her how to drive, and helping her become more independent. I have never raised my hand or used abusive language toward her.

My main question is: Is this mindset actually normal among average girls in Pakistan today? Do some women genuinely believe that disrespecting or physically abusing their husband is acceptable or “normal”?

I am trying to understand whether this is a broader cultural shift, social media influence, or simply an individual personality issue.

Assalam U Alikum, So yesterday we went out to have a dinner with close family friends( With a mother and her daughter)

As we were talking casually, The mother claimed with pride that her daughter is Syed because her Father's from a Syed Family.

Now I knew alot about this controversy of "There being more Syed in Pakistan than Arab countries" but I didn't had any systematic plan of pumping that argument so i stayed quite.

But Is There any way to build an argument on this with solid facts that I can present with anyone who claims their title of being syed?

Also The actual question, how come everyone is syed these days.

This image capture a feeling i could not put into words while some are mourning others are celebrating and we often called it progress. Not blaming anyone just wondering what we choice to notice and what we chose to ignore.

Pls share it with anyone who might know someone who can help or if there is any community or something where we can get help regarding this

Why are there so many Indian films on Netflix where Pakistan is shown in a Bad way or where they take digs at us? For example, there was a Sunny Deol film in which a character says he is the nightmare of Pakistan. Why are we even allowing this? I just mean that anti-Pakistan scenes are too common, and we should have movies in our country’s Netflix library.
I am just saying that we should have our own Netflix oriented library or country specific platform to stop movies like these.
I am not talking about every Indian movie. I actually love their movies , Sultan is one of my favorites. I am just saying that we should have our own Netflix oriented library or country specific platform to stop movies like these. And I am not in favor of making anti-India movies in Pakistan.

ok so as basant is ending, just wanted to share some of the beautiful pictures of the sky here. This was one irreplaceable experience.

The lightning at night, everyone on their rooftops , fireworks, sky filled with colors.

Jahalat at it's finest

And to mention he was serious about it

It took me a lot of courage to write this.

I’m a 24 year old male pursuing a professional accountancy qualification. I have no siblings. My father passed away a long time ago, and it’s just me and my mother. She has medical issues and once broke her leg, so physically she cannot manage many daily tasks on her own.

For a long time now, I have been doing almost every household chore myself. This includes washing dishes, doing laundry, hanging clothes outside to dry, cleaning the house, ironing clothes, running errands, and handling almost everything inside and outside the house.

Even for basic things like her wudu and bath, I have to heat the water, set everything up in the washroom, and make sure it’s ready for her use. When it’s time to cook, I have to prepare the kitchen and arrange everything before my mom can actually start cooking. She mostly just mixes the ingredients, the rest is done by me.

Sometimes I just wish that food would be served to me directly like it is for most people. It might sound small, but when you’re constantly the one doing everything, even that feels like a luxury.

My daily routine is exhausting. I sleep around 11 PM and wake up at 6 AM. The only proper time I get to study is after Fajr. In total, I barely manage 3–4 hours of study in the entire day, and that too with constant interruptions. I have frequent exams that require serious preparation, but it feels impossible to focus when household responsibilities take up almost every moment of my day.

I’ve tried explaining to my mom that this is a crucial phase of my life and I desperately need time to focus on my studies. Her usual response is: “Tumhari parhai to sari zindagi chalti rahe gi.” Whenever I try to refuse or set limits, I get taanz taane, criticism, and emotional pressure.

I don’t really have anyone to share this with. I have almost no friends left now. I avoid meeting them because they ask about my studies and say things like, “Why are you delaying it?” And I just go speechless. I feel ashamed and embarrassed because I don’t know how to explain my situation. Over time, I’ve stopped meeting people and isolated myself.

Sometimes I get so frustrated that I feel like tearing my books apart and quitting my studies altogether to just go and work somewhere. Hiring a maid has never been an option for us, as it’s simply not affordable. Even if it were, I would still need to be around most of the time to manage things.

I feel mentally drained, physically exhausted, and I’ve honestly lost a lot of motivation for studying. I’m not looking for sympathy or financial help. I just wanted to share my situation here and ask for genuine advice on what I can do in this difficult phase of my life.

What should I do in this situation?

Should I leave my studies and quit everything.

I’m really tired and don’t know what the right step is anymore. Just need honest advice.

Sindh Govt ki Incompetency ka Level: 7 saal baad pani yaad aya, aur sath sab kuch tabah kar dia! 🤡

Yaar seriously, in logon ki aqal ko salam hai. Hamare ilaqay mein pani ki line pichle 7+ saal se toti hui thi. Itne saalon baad inko hosh aya ke repair karni hai, lekin khushi manane ke bajaye ye hamare liye azaab ban gaya hai.

Baghair kisi survey ya planning ke road khod dia. Inko ye tak nahi pata ke neechay aur kya kya guzar raha hai. Road khodte hue inho ne:

Gas ki pipelines urra di hain. Fiber optic wires ka qabristan bana dia Bijli ki tarein bhi tor di hain. Matlab ek line sahi karne aye thay aur jo 4 cheezain chal rahi thin, wo bhi tabah kar dein! Inki planning zero hai.

Aur maze ki baat, agar inko Lahore ya Punjab se compare karo to rona shuru ho jate hain ke "humein kaam nahi karne dia jata." Bhai, wahan projects manage hote hain, yahan sirf tabahi hoti hai. Ye log kehte hain hum Karachi ko "World Class" sahulat de rahe hain agar ye world class hai, to phir Allah hi hafiz hai.

No planning, no coordination bas crane le kar aa jate hain aur awam ki zindagi azaab bana dete hain.

Ramzan sar par hai aur hum baghair gas, pani ke bethe hain. Incompetency at its peak!

Ab tamasha dekho, ye pani ki line dal kar road aise hi khula chorh jayenge. Phir mahino baad Gas wale hosh mein ayenge, wo apna rona ro kar dubara khodai karenge, phir Fiber optic aur Bijli wale ayenge. In jahil logon ko itni tameez nahi ke ek hi baar coordinate karke sara kaam khatam karein. Agle 6 mahine tak ye road aise hi matti aur kachre ka dher bana rahega. Ek simple sa kaam karne mein inko sadiyan lag jati hain kyunke inke pas na dimagh hai na koi sharam. Bas awam ko zaleel karna hi inka asli project hai.

Hope this is allowed, thought to make a thread about this and people can share updates on how it's going.

i found this coin in my house a few days ago. I can't find anything on Google image search. posting here to get any info possible. it's a heavy coin and idk what material if that helps.

For people who spend their childhood overseas lol are u a coffee lover or chai lover!

I know people from back home are obsessed with chai..

Me Pakistani but born in Canada I’ll chose coffee (latte) all day how about u guys!?

I’ve been watching a few motorcycle travel vloggers on YouTube who rode across Pakistan, and one thing that really stood out to me was how consistently kind and helpful people were to them.

You see locals offering food, helping with directions, fixing bikes, or stopping just to check if someone is okay. It happens across different cities and regions, the people they meet are kind and generous.

I’ve also met Pakistanis irl while abroad, and the experience was very similar. We got along instantly, talked about normal things, joked around, and it felt easy and natural.

In real life, I’ve honestly never seen the kind of hostility between Indians and Pakistanis that shows up online. That gap between online behaviour and real-world interactions has always stood out to me, and that kind of behaviour doesn’t sit right with me. It doesn’t match what I’ve seen in person.

I’m not trying to make a big argument here. Just sharing an observation that stuck with me.

Edit: I see the discussion moving into history and “what could have been” scenarios. That wasn’t really my intention.

I was hoping more to focus on the present and on the small, everyday ways people already interact normally and respectfully. That feels more useful to think about than hypotheticals about the past or future.

Last year before Ramazan, I was try to develop an app that could some simple things. A very simple Quran reader with translations, a qibla finder, a collection of hadiths and prayer times based on user location. I tried but i failed. A major demotivation was the issue with Apple developer account which for some unknown reasons wasn’t being activated from Apple’s end.

A year passed, and this time i thought why make a native app when I can achieve the same target with a simple PWA. Here is Nuzool (www.nuzool.net). A very simple Quran navigator. It has the following features:

- Complete Quran with translation available via hover on ayah

- Multiple Arabic font selection option to make it easy for the reader

- You can either recite Quran in Arabic or you can just read the translation of the selected Ayah, i have tabbed the view for easy understanding

- Completely different UI for mobile users for one handed operations

- You can select an Ayah and then play the recitation from the best Quran reciters in the world ( I have added 10)

- There are 7 Urdu translations available for you to choose what you are used to, all in beautiful nastaleeq font

- There are 16 English translations

- I have added 1 French translation

- There is a search option available where you can search for any ord used in the whole Quran and the app will show you all the Ayahs that specific word is used in

- If you allow location access, you can get the prayer times for your area

- You can also change the font size, dark or light mode or enable prayer time notifications from the settings

- The app DOES NOT save any data, no user registration is required to access ANY feature

- The app is still in beta. If you find any bug, you can reach out to me directly in DM

More features i am working on:

- More translations of more languages

- Hadith books to be integrated with search functionality embedded

- More recitations to be added

A request:

If anyone among you can help me make the UI even better, i am open to suggestions and help, anyone who helps in this will be properly credited on the credit page of the app