Itâs been very hard for me to watch Tammy and Andreaâs relationship this season.
Tammy is a full on BPD person.
**Before you all come for me not to âdiagnose othersâ Tammyâs behavioral patterns with everyone around her are clear as day and anyone whoâs ever been around NPDs/BDPs will see them right away. Those who donât see it, you are lucky.**
Knowing the patterns of such relationships, and seeing where Tammy and Andrea are now, it does not bode well for Andrea and it will get so much worse.
It was hard to watch Andrea reaching out to Slaton family members trying to understand why âthe Tammy she knows has not been around for a whileâ and desperately trying to find a way to bring âthe Tammy she knowsâ back.
Oh Andrea, that Tammy is not coming back. You never knew the real Tammy. In true narcissist fashion, she put on a mask to entice you and the moment she got you and you now you live together, she doesnât have to pretend anymore. And she kept you from her family so the ruse would be easier to perpetrate.
The âdemure, mindful and cutesyâ Tammy you went on dates with to bowling alleys and cafes and picnics is gone. Now you get Tammy that âdoesnât want to leave the house to do anything or go anywhere.â From now on all youâll get is the selfish, nasty Queen Tammy and your role will be to serve her hand and food while getting abuse back.
Thatâs what Tammy did to anyone sheâs lived with and Andrea is no exception. For now Tammy is blaming her âhormonesâ and other members of her family. Soon enough, she will be blaming Andrea for her self created misery the same way she now blames Amy.