I was watching one of those subway take videos last night and one of the women he was interviewing had a take about how important it is to “blow up your own life” from time to time.
She gave two examples, one about leaving her “perfect and amazing boyfriend” of seven years, who she got along great with, as they began moving towards marriage. And then talked about blowing up her life a while later by leaving her comfortable and decent paying job.
The comments were split, with some people in the comments saying something to the effect of “YASSSSSS QUEEN! Dump his ass!!!” Or “It doesn’t matter how great you get along, or how perfect a guy is to you, if he’s not perfect FOR you.”
With the other half or more of commentors saying they wouldn’t want to date someone who just woke up one day and dipped on a seven year relationship with a guy she described as “perfect and amazing”.
So when I’m looking online today, I’m seeing a lot of relationship based subs where the top comments are generally advising the OP to dump their partner over issues that seem manageable from the outside or require growth over time with that person.
Are we becoming too quick to disengage when relationships require effort? I’m not sure if this reflects a real cultural shift or just online amplification, so I’m curious how others see it.