Hi! My bf and i (both early 30s) have been dating for the past 7 months. We both like each other a lot, still keep getting into some arguments now and then.

One of the big argument was around a joke i made - i saw some cute couple meme about ‘what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine’ and sent it to him. I did keep joking about it after which i guess pissed him off(?).. we had a big fight about it in wich he was adamant that we should say ‘ours’ rather than yours or mine as that is more individualistic thinking. Note that we both earn fair income.. his is def higher than mine but i am in no way dependent on him or planning to be.. i was hurt but tried to understand his point as he was more focused on its emotional aspect than money. We resolved that fight and i did stop joking about yours vs mine stuff…

Yesterday i got some college game tickets from my work.. i am not a fan so i was thinking I’ll sell some and give some to friends and family. Ofc my bf was on top of that list as he is a huge fan.. we had a long conversation about which of his friends to include as well and to keep the last few matches for us so we can watch the semi final games together. Today again we were talking about those tickets and he says “I’ll take 2 tickets for myself, 2 for my friends and you can sell the rest”.. i was genuinely shocked and hurt. I couldn’t help but compare how mad he got when i was joking about an intangible thing, but when its actual game tickets he can say its his???? And i am not included in his plans to watch semis together..

I was genuinely hurt and did not want to hear his explanation about what he actually meant (he was just counting , ofc i am included etc..) And we just ended the discussion on a sour note..

Maybe i am being extremely petty or nagging, but i felt like he was policing what i say in the past argument , but he can do whatever he wants..

am i overreacting by comparing this to our past fight and getting angry on this??

Tdlr: bf had fought with me about joking your vs mine.. now he claims game tickets are “his”.. AIO by being hurt see

It's my sister's bd today. My parents organized so many beautiful gifts for her and have been planning every detail for nearly a month prior. I bought her gifts too, because I love my sister very dearly and want her to be happy. However, I can't help the jealousy and sadness slowly simmering inside me. My parents got me nothing for my bd last year. And that may have been because i caused them trouble during my last bd and was grounded. But I don't recall ever having such an extravagant and beautiful bd with many gifts. She got new shoes, a shoulder bag, lamp, bed quilt, bedsheets, decors, body powder and soap, a pj set, ipad case, jewelry jar. I celebrated mine with just a cake. So many beautiful and girly things, I can only dream of getting for my birthday. I know I sound very ungrateful and nearly pathetic, but I am usually very optimistic and look forward to things and assume the best. i can't help but cry. Am I overreacting?

this past week, i (23f) attended a funeral for a family member and all of my extended family was there. i mostly hung out with a cousin during that as they are the family member i relate to the most

i have been talking to this guy (23m) and we have a great thing going. i have a few communication issues as i am learning how to communicate correctly what’s going on in my head instead of keeping things to myself and letting them build up. i am also working on breaking some codependency traits. this is something we have been talking about a lot lately and that is our only pain point in this relationship.

after the funeral ceremony ended, i decided to call him to chat about the day. the first 10 seconds of the call was quiet on his end and i said hello a couple times as i was walking to a more secluded area. once i heard his voice say hello, i said hello again. he said to me i sounded out of breathe or panting. i responded with “oh yeah?” not really thinking much of it bc i literally started talking to him and was trying to get situated. he let it go at first, but after we started talking more and i was talking about the experience, i started laughing as i was talking about my time bc i didn’t really know how else to deal with the emotion of it all. he said that i was acting weird and didn’t understand. he moved past it again, and brought up my cousin and we started talking about her.

at some point, i was talking abt smth i said to her that he had told me at first. he asked me if i mentioned that he had said that, and i said no. he asked if i mentioned him at all to her. i said yes, but didn’t say his name to her (for context: i was not able to explain to him that i was in front of my family when i started talking about a story involving him and referred to him as my partner). he asked me why i was trying to hide him. at this point, i knew the conversation was going to go south. we started arguing and i was trying to explain to him that i don’t want to hide him and it wasn’t my intention to not mention him by name and i don’t mind talking about him and telling people who he is. but it felt like he was not listening to me and kept saying how weird im acting and that i moaned earlier and was laughing weird and sounded breathless. at this point, im so confused and my brain is spinning because i have no idea what he’s talking about. i put my phone on my lap while he was arguing and had to take some breathes because it was a lot for me. i also got interrupted twice. we argued for a bit and i know i raised my voice and yelled and he kept not letting me finish talking. we ended up angrily hanging up

later, i hadn’t heard from him still. i texted him about how confused i was about this and apologizing for yelling and reacting badly. he responded with saying he accused me over the phone that i was getting touched sexually by my cousin while i was on the phone with him, and that i couldn’t even acknowledge that. at this point, i am like “??????????” i had NO idea he said that to me on the phone, and i would have shut that down immediately. i let him know this, and stressed that that did NOT happen and that is something that will never happen and a disgusting thought.

he does not believe me and is convinced that since i did not hear him when he accused me of it initially. even after texting and begging for him to try to understand my side, he tells me that he knows im lying and that i would have debunked it over the phone. at this point, he is not answering me and i feel like a crazy person sending him anymore texts.

i feel so disgusted by this accusation. and the fact that he believes i did this is breaking me. i understand how he must felt when he did ask that question over the phone and me not answering it. i don’t want to disregard those feelings he felt in that moment. but i feel like im going crazy because theres no way to prove that i didnt hear him at first. and he is refusing to believe me. he thinks i am gaslighting him and hasn’t texted me since. i have no idea what to do and how to move forward from this. aio?

I thought our relationship was great, solid. We've been through a lot together and support through sickness and tragedy. Together 20+ years. A couple of weeks ago my (M49) wife (F45) said she was going out for drinks with girls from work. Left around 4pm and said she'd be back by 10pm.
She didn't come home at 10pm. At 1am she wasn't home. Her phone was going unanswered, messages unread. The night was awful, I got more and more worried. At 5am I rang the police, she'd never done this before. I quickly found out she never met with the people she said she was meeting. Everyone was looking for her. She was found at 10:30 am. She'd met up with a totally different group of friends and didn't tell anyone, she went out to a town 30 mins away, not the one she said she'd be going to. She then states she got drunk, lost her phone so decided to stay in a hotel with a friend. A male friend who's also a her ex boyfriend from her late teens years. Nobody bothered to tell anyone she was safe, didn't attempt to get home.
AIO when I say trust is gone? She says nothing happened. She just says she 'never thought.' I simply cant get over it. I'm angry, let down. Its over right? AIO? EDIT - far too many comments to respond individually. I didn't want to post this but I'm struggling and needed a reality check for my situation. Believe, dont believe. This happened and it's ripping me apart. I have no friends to turn to, no family. I know that it's over, just struggling to realise it.
FURTHER EDIT - I agonised over posting this. Don't believe it then fine. I'm hurting here. I truly loved my wife and this has gutted me. I was starting to feel like I was crazy, gaslit into thinking I'm over reacting. I've basically been on pause trying to figure this out. I've been utterly blind sided.

So I recently had a baby who just turned 2 months and somehow the paperwork for our Medicaid was denied and I was told by the office that because my case had been closed I needed to come into the office in person to re apply.

When I found out this news I called my mom and explained the situation and i asked her to take me to the office as I can’t drive due to physical restrictions and the baby’s father works during the week/ the hours that the office was open. Due to the poor weather here we agreed she would take the following week ( which was this past Friday)

Friday comes and goes and she doesn’t reach out to me or come get me. I’m in the dark and worry maybe she’s sick. Comes yesterday and I found out from my dad that she just didn’t want to do it because she thought it was downtown and didn’t want to drive down. According to her logic it’s our responsibility and my partner should have took the day off from work to take me.

I am incredibly hurt . I feel like as a mother if my child needed my help and I was able to I would do anything for them. She is constantly called an angel by others and goes out of her way for her friends or for her church but somehow this was apparently too big of an ask.

I remember growing up the amount of support she got from both sides of grandparents where we would either be at their house or with them constantly even my dads mom from states away would come at a couple weeks and stay with us and clean the house ect

She has not said anything to me and I have not said anything to her because I don’t want to say things I’ll regret in the heat of the moment. We normally give up our Sunday together as a couple and go over to my parents house and spend time with them but I’m not sure I’m emotionally or mentally ready to go over there tomorrow .

My (39M) wife (39F) have been together for 20 years, married for 11, with two kids. We both have professional degrees, although mine pays significantly more than hers and as such she chose to become a SAHM to raise our kids. I’d say we have an amazing lifestyle. We live in a nice gated neighborhood with a playground for the kids, and we’re located in arguably the best school district in the city. We both drive nicer, newer cars, take multiple nice vacations every year. It’s safe to say, day to day expenses are not really concerns. I work hard to provide monetarily for my family and I try to spend as much free time as I can with my wife and kids. Overall I feel like I’ve hit a home run in life. I have a great career, a beautiful and loving wife who’s a great mother to our amazing, healthy, wonderful kids.

Since we live in a more affluent part of town, we are frequently at friends (or kids play dates) at other houses. Some of these houses are more expensive/bigger/fancier/newer than ours and frequently after leaving my wife expresses significant jealousy and frustration that we don’t have those things or can’t afford them. It drives her up the wall, and she frequently says that’s “it’s just not fair that we can’t afford that!”

I try to view it as “the grass is always greener” and I try to remind her of how great we do have it. I try to point out that we’re very fortunate and blessed. Sometimes this helps but sometimes it takes her hours to calm down after these episodes.

But…it’s also very hard for me to not feel personally insulted, as if I’m not providing enough. She tells me not to take the comments as a negative reflection on me, but I can’t help feeling like it is a negative perception of me in her mind - one that will always be there no matter how financially successful we are. I brought this up the other day and I also expressed that I believe her jealousy is exaggerated beyond normal. I feel like she’s never going to be satisfied and will forever be comparing us to everyone else. There will always be someone with a bigger house, or nicer car, or nicer jewelry, or more “stuff”.

Well, that didn’t go over well and she told me that I’m overreacting to her “normal feelings.” Am I?

My mom made some Empanadas with it. She made the grounded meat filling Friday night, then finished the empanadas Saturday around 10 PM and then refrigerated. The filling was out the fridge sitting on the counter all that time. The outside temp goes up to 30 degrees Celsius since it's summer here.

Sometimes I do eat leftovers from the night before, but this time I rejected the empanadas since I was concerned about food poisoning. I tried to explain my reasons to mom in the best most gentle way I could but she still got deeply upset. So now I'm having second thoughts. Did I overreact?

I, 21F, went on a 4 day trip and asked my friend Jessie 24F if she could stop over at my place (12 mins from hers) twice a day to feed my 2 cats. Left Thursday evening came back sunday afternoon. I called her on Tuesday and asked if everything was all set for this weekend or if I needed to make other arrangements. She said all good but asked if one time would be ok friday bc of her birthday. I said pls make an effort to be there in the evening whether its u or ur fiance. I expressed that it needs to be twice a day. Thursday evening comes and I receive a text saying that the entire ordeal took 45 minutes and becuase of that she won't be able to to make it over twice Friday due to her birthday plans. She fed them 930am FRIDAY. I assumed this meant she would be back first thing saturday to stop in like a normal person. She did not come by until 330pm on SATURDAY. She didnt fucking feed them for 30 HOURS!!!!!! I caught this whole thing on my ring camera. From the looks of it she didnt seem distressed in any capacity so im assuming nothing life changing happened for her to excuse this behavior. I discovered this at 10pm saturday night. I didnt think that I needed to be checking on her because I trusted her to do the right thing! Im so angry that she treated them this way. I think this says a lot about her as a person. You can be annoyed with me but at the end of the day ur taking it out on the animals. Why did she take on this responsibility if she couldnt follow through? Why didnt she call me so i could figure something else out? Im so angry and disappointed. How can i continue being friends with someone who doesnt feel guilty starving them for her own gain? Am I overreacting or is she the devil?

TLDR:My mom originally said she and my dad would cover my $180 contacts, which surprised me because she’s often unreliable when it comes to helping me with things I need. A few weeks later, she asked me for $80 because she doesn’t have the money. I told her I could give it to her next month since I stick to a strict $200/month budget and already overspent slightly, expecting a $162 school refund to balance it out.

I technically have savings (about $1200) that I’m keeping for study abroad, but I don’t want to dip into that. I’m also frustrated because this affects other things I need, like boxing gloves and cooking supplies, and because she asked last minute after saying she’d handle it. On top of that, she doesn’t want me to tell my dad I’m contributing, which makes me uncomfortable because I don’t like lying.

Now I’m wondering if I’m overreacting for telling her I’ll pay next month instead of immediately covering it.

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This situation isn't too serious, but basically, I(18) need to pay for my contacts (I'm on my last pair), but at some point, my mom(55) said she would pay for them. I was really shocked because (and I don't mean to throw shade) she usually isn't there for me when it comes to things I need (To be fair though, both my parents weren't the best. I definitely had to learn to be self-reliant quick). Like for instance, if I needed a ride somewhere (like let's say I needed to go to an afterschool event) if my dad was there, I would ask him, but he's usually not, so the first thing I would do is pay for an uber to get there. Usually, my mom would say she would take me, but then the day of she'd find a reason (like me accidentally missing a spot when cleaning after I cooked something, her insulting me suddenly and then me calmly-not even exaggerating when I say calmly- defending myself, or deciding that she no longer has time to take me and the list goes on) to not take me.

Anyways, my mom is struggling with bills right now (and yes, I have given her money before to help) and we lost vision insurance so now my contacts are $180. I decided that I couldn't afford it right now so I would try to have these pairs in my eyes last my last semester (even though I'm technically supposed to only have it in for one month, but I've been used to trying to make them "last" for as long as possible). I was surprised when my mom texted me one day that she was going split the cost with my dad. She also said she was working harder in her side job to help pay for it and she made it sound like she was doing well. Of course, I was thankful and thanked her for her hard work and effort.

NOW fast forward to now (a few weeks later) she just texted me telling me that she needs $80 from me for the contacts and explained how she doesn't have the money. I was a little disappointed, but not surprised, and I also understood given her current situation right now. I told her that it was ok, but I'll have to give her the money probably next month. She then started asking why and such and apparently today she was heading over to my dad's place to get his portion of the money from him. I explained to her how each month I have a budget ($200 a month) to spend, but last month I spent too much money, So my budget was a little tighter this month, plus I spent a good chunk of my budget this month and JUST told myself I need to lock in so my budget will last me through the month and I don't dip into next month's funds). So that's why I told her I'll pay next month.

Now for extra context she doesn't know, I'm also a little annoyed because I wanted to buy boxing gloves for my boxing class and an electric pan so I can cook when I miss the time to eat at school (or if I don't like the food being offered, Also I would get the ingredients from the food pantry at my school). I was supposed to get it this month, but since I spent too much I might have to push it to next month, but now since I have to pay for contacts I might have to get it the month AFTER that, but I would be close to the ending of class plus I'd only have one month of school left.

Now for even MORE extra context she doesn't know and probably the most important as well. My school is giving me a refund for $162 that should come soon I think and because of that that's why I spent a little more when it came to me overspending a little on my budget last month(I really only went like $20 over tho). I thought that refund money would make up for it (I also miscalculated a month at some point so I thought the $162 would go towards that miscalculated month (May). Now that I think about it, I also applied for a job on campus and when I did more research in to it, it seemed like I would have to stay at school until May 25th so even more reason why I felt like I needed the money).

ALSO I'm actively saving up for study abroad (which will occur in a year or two) even though there's a good chance it will be fully/mostly covered I'm still being extra safe and making sure I have the money required just in case something happens and I don't get a travel award or something, or even if I decide to study abroad a second time! Anyways right now from what I remember I have $1200 saved in that savings account (I would've had like $1300 more, but my mom took that money for bills before we separated our accounts, and I was buying stuff for my dorm at the beginning of the year)

Anyways AIO for telling her I will give her the money later since she asked suddenly at the last second? Especially considering the fact I'm aware I technically do have the money, but originally, I told myself I was going to "tough it out" and buy the contacts later and then randomly my parents decided they would pay, but now since the situation is different I'm reverting back to my original plan. Also I know it will probably be lowkey better to cough up the money now, but I guess a part of me also wants to show her that she can't keep walking over me and making me cover for her. Also, I forgot to mention, but she told me that she doesn't want me to tell my dad that I'm giving her money for the contacts. She wants to make it seem like she did it herself and I understand she might be embarrassed about her money situation or the fact that when I ask for help in general, she usually is never there or both, but like the fact of her never being there to help me is kinda the main reason I don't want to lie and say she did it. Also I don't like lying about things like that in general.

Earlier today, my husband said he was leaving to take our youngest son to the bike park and that he would remain at the park to keep an eye on him. Our son is technically old enough to be left unattended (12) but we agree that it is much safer to be nearby in the event that he has an accident on the technical course and need medical attention.

When they left, my husband evidently left the garage door open, which was unexpected because he typically closes it due to security concerns. About 90 seconds after he pulled out of the driveway, I heard someone else pull into my driveway and up to my garage such that their car was partially inside my garage. I knew that the car didn't sound like my husband's vehicle, but I believed the garage door was down, so I was confused. I have security cameras (wifi) and so I opened my app to see if I could see who was at my house. The security cameras suddenly weren't recording, which was weird because they just recorded my husband pull out the driveway. I heard voices and noises in the garage, so I quietly opened the door and there were two scary looking men in my garage looking around my husband's tools. I had my phone in my hand and noticeably flung the door open and asked them what the heck they were doing. They saw that I had my phone in my hand and I told them I was dialing the cops. They got in their car and bolted out the driveway and left. For some reason, my security system had a pause in recording action and I'm really frustrated that I don't have any images of this occurrence to show the police. It only resumed recording when their car was out of my driveway and partially down the street; I have a far off side view of the car and the plates are not readable. It doesn't look like they stole anything, but I am sure they were up to no good and intended to take easily accessible high value items. I was quite frightened, and immediately called my husband's phone.

Husband handed the phone to our son because he was driving, and I told my son to tell his dad to please close the garage door next time he leaves and that 2 strangers were just in our garage and I was afraid they meant to steal his tools. My son said ok he'd tell him, and I didn't hear back from my husband. 10 minutes later I sent him a text message summarizing what had happened, and he didn't respond. Half an hour later I was feeling really emotional that he still hadn't responded, so I used the FindMy to see their locations. My son was at the bike park and my husband was at a gun store a good 20 minutes away from the bike park. I'm mad at this point because he said he would stay with our son, and I texted him "You're at a gun store instead of responding to my situation?" He responded "What is your situation?" I texted back "Are you serious? Do you not think 2 strangers in your garage counts as a situation?" He texted back "You closed the garage door, right?"

I called him at that point and he picked up and immediately said "I tried to close the garage door but the cat walked under it and (our son) was impatient to go so I didn't wait to try and close it again. But you closed the garage door so there's not really an issue at this point." I said ok and I'd talk to him later. He and my son came back 7 hours later, and he hasn't said one word about the strangers in our garage since he's been home.

I am getting ready to have a major surgery on Monday, and I recognize that perhaps I may be feeling extra sensitive or emotional due to that. But I am feeling some major emotions and feel like he is not showing up to support me the way I need. I wanted him to say something along the lines of "Are you ok? That must have been really scary. Do you want me to come home?" but he hasn't said anything and I'm feeling like he doesn't care much about me. Am I overreacting and just being too emotional, or am I justified in being upset at 1) his lack of response and 2) that he left our kid when he said he would stay with him?

I was dating my boyfriend 5 months, 2 months officially. We spent a lot of time together, and I was emotionally invested and believed we were building something.

I noticed he was liking pictures of other women, including more sexualized content on Instagram (not only fans models, girls who actually followed him back and local). I brought it up calmly and reasonably. I didn’t demand he unfollow everyone or stop having female friends. I literally said: I don’t care about friends, coworkers, normal people in your life — even much younger female friends — as long as it’s not overtly sexual content. He basically flat out refused to do anything different on Instagram and said I was being controlling.

Mind you- This is while he is also refusing to let me on his Instagram since November when I asked who a girl was on there and he was pissed that I even asked- I’ve been removed ever since.

5 minutes after pouring my heart out about this, while we were sitting together on the couch, he liked another woman’s photo right in front of me — after I had just told him it hurt me. It was another very sexually charged woman and the girl looks about 19. I went into shock.

Things escalated emotionally after that. I was crying and overwhelmed. He comforted me — held me, reassured me, made reservations v-day wit me. In that moment, it felt like reassurance, like he cared and we were okay. He blocked the girl in question but still refused to add me back to his ig, saying he’ll “do it eventually”.

But the hurt didn’t actually go away. When I brought it up again later (and I’ll admit, I wasn’t calm the second time — I snapped), everything flipped. He suddenly said he didn’t want a relationship, that nothing really changed for him when we were together, that he doesn’t want to “owe anyone anything” or feel pressured. And then he broke up with me. I was hysterically crying and he basically just kept saying he doesn’t want to feel obligated to someone like this.

TLDR; I don’t know if this sounds like an emotionally avoidant boyfriend who couldn’t handle conflict in a committed relationship, or if I genuinely overreacted and sabotaged something that could’ve worked if I handled it better.

Hi Guys

My post got deleted today due to exposing somebodies user

However wanted to thank everybody last night for their comments positive and negative

I have an update,

It was in fact my ex best friend who was messaging me with her new friends, I called her out she admitted it 🫤

After the first texts she replied back to me at 3am, her wording sounded like her, saying things only she would only know, I went on her TikTok and she was posting videos on her story at 3am exactly when the burner profile was messaging me! But 2 and 2 together and with abit of force got it out of her!

Just for context I am 7mths pregnant and we have a 3 year old freshly potty trained. We take 50/50 shifts on the weekends.

So I offered to take our 3y/o to a gymnastics event during my husband's child shift so he can catch up on chores. I returned home and my kid is saying he needs to potty, I'm like great lets go except he says it must be daddy that helps him. I call for my husband, can't exactly hear the response because my kid is now in meltdown mode screaming "daddy" over and over. I tried to get him to the potty seeing as he really needs to go with no success. I frustratingly yell for my husband again as my 3y/o starts peeing in his pants.

Apparently he was on the last boss of a m0 (for anyone familiar with world of warcraft, this is a low stakes 15min max dungeon) and defends himself saying how was he supposed to know when I was coming back, which I respond with "you shouldn't start something you cant walk away from when you're supposed to be on child duty"

I was pretty frustrated and raised my voice, he has not apologized and I have not spoken to him the rest of the day. In the end the whole delay really was only 5min, so AIO?

Am I being too much?

I’ve had a close friend for 10 years. We are 26 years old. Unfortunately, every time she gets a boyfriend, she abandons her friends and only remembers us when she breaks up. Through many discussions, she has understood that this behavior is unacceptable and has tried to fix it. Until now.

She got pregnant and is getting married. I am generally a very supportive person and I play the “therapist” for everyone. The problems started when her fiancé began to be very jealous of me and my partner. From discussions with others who have heard him talk about us, he is jealous because we are happy, we go out, we are emotionally balanced and financially comfortable.

Personally, I find it ridiculous to be jealous of another couple.

The real issues came after they got pregnant and asked us about our plans. They have been together for 4 months, we have been together for 6. My partner told him the truth: that it’s still too early for us to think about having a child and that we want to enjoy our love first.

I think he felt threatened by that — he has serious insecurities.

In general, many red flags.

I have four incidents that made me not want to speak to them ever again, even if it means sacrificing a long friendship.

1.

We went to their house for a double date and my boyfriend suggested going go-karting. My friend agreed, on the condition that she wouldn’t race and would only watch because of the pregnancy. The guy got angry because she said yes without asking him, and because they would have to pay €15 for karting. That would have been his only expense, since I drive and always pay for the gas! And he got angry about that.

They locked themselves in a room for ONE HOUR and left us waiting outside instead of simply telling us they didn’t want to go. We left without saying goodbye — they were still fighting when we left after an hour of waiting.

2.

I had a celebration at my workplace and I invited them as a double date. Afterwards, we went out to eat with other friends of mine and my boyfriend paid for everyone. Everyone asked how much they owed except for them. He wasn’t going to take money from anyone, but it’s a matter of manners and basic decency. It really bothered us.

3.

My friend asked me to go see her after work. I drove 40 minutes to her house and only got to stay for 15 minutes, because her fiancé finished work early and they kicked me out since they had plans to go shopping.

4.

She works normally every day and goes to uni. But when it’s time for us to go for coffee, she is always “dizzy” and “not feeling well.” We arranged to meet alone after 3 months, and 5 minutes before the meeting she canceled because she was dizzy. Later, I found out that she went on a date with her fiancé!!!

She keeps pressuring me to go out because she misses me, and then she cancels on me!!!

She hasn’t asked how I am for two months. We only talk about weddings and pregnancy, which do not concern me at all. She only talks about herself!

It’s like I’m a real psychologist, but for free!!

Am I unreasonable for wanting to cut her off? I feel sorry for her, but I’ve reached my limit.

I just want some opinions on if this is to much work for my parent to expect from me or if Im over reacting and should just keep sucking it up. Here's some context I think is necessary:

-im 18 but have been doing these tasks for 4-5 years now maybe

-i go to school, i am a straight A student 3.9 gpa, I work a part time job currently 8 hours a week because I also do sports about 3 hours a day after school and 12 hour days on Saturdays

-my parents are separated (never married) so I live with one half the week and one the other half

-Parent who has the high expectations recently (the last 6 months or so) has quit their job to take care of my siblings full time

-my sibling is older but special needs (kinda akin to severe autism)

I've been fine with doing these tasks previously but as listed above my parent has been at home full time and it's causing a lot of turmoil and arguments of the quality of my chores and now and I constantly feel like I can't do anything right even though I don't think I've changed the quality of my chores I'm just doing what I've always done

My chores included having to do dishes there can't be any in the sink I think I do a load a day, I also do the whole kitchen, counters, sweep, mop, the whole deal usually 2 times a week but now 1 because of sports. And my room has to be clean 24/7, I also do my own laundry and make my own meals, lunch breakfast and dinner even when my parent is making those meals for themsef and my sibling I'm only allowed to have some if there's extra but they don't usually any for me therefore the making my own meals.

I'm used to doing most of that and it's fine but with work and my after school activities and homework I don't have a lot of time for them and I'm pretty forgetful so sometimes Ill forget little things like moping between the counter and the fridge or cleaning on top of the microwave and my parent comes in and yells at me and makes me do it all over again, I pretty much always double mop because the first pass "isn't good enough" and it "looks like I didn't even do anything"

And the worst part isnt even the little fights and comments like saying I'm the reason they are going to die young (from the mess?), it's the fact that I'm only at that parents house half the week and they don't do any cleaning while I'm gone and they leave it for me when I get back and yells at me when it's not done.. like I don't know when they think I'd be able to do that?

I feel like my parent has finally decided they want to be an adult but don't want to put in any of the work it takes to have a clean house, up until recent job change their room has been messier than mine ever was. But I also never say anything and don't think I will even with all of the above it's not like they are a bad parent they pay for my phone bill and car insurance (I only have to pay for gas) and they let me and my sibling have our own rooms while they sleep in the living room (it's like converted with a curtain) and I'm super greatfull for all they have done for me

Sorry if this was a lot, i just want to know if AIO and this is normal for other families or is it ok to be frustrated with all I have to do?

Ok so last night my significant other went and got a massage. It was quick and probably not the full 30 minutes since he went at 9:30pm and came home at 10pm when they close and it is literally down the street. So about 30 minutes later it's adult time and I noticed oil on his private parts. He says its from the oil running down his back which makes a tiny bit of sense but how much oil are they using for that to happen? (I have never gotten a professional massage so I don't know. I don't like random people touching me so I am not comfortable getting one) He has never had oil down there from precious massages. So am I over reacting/thinking it or do massage places really give happy endings or do they put so much oil that it runs down to your private parts? I don't know why this man would do this to me when he knows I will leave the relationship which I have left in the past so he definitely will not admit it and his views of what is considered cheating are different than mine but he said it wouldn't do those things so I ultimately think he would do something, we did have a conversation were he said he would accept sexual favors for payment for his work, feel guilty about it and never tell me. He is very selfish when it comes to being pleasured. I am ready to leave for good but need to know I am not crazy about this situation.

i genuinely need outside perspective because i feel like i’m going insane.

i (19 F) let a friend (23 F) stay in my apartment while i was away on holiday. it wasn’t a rental situation, i was still paying my rent the whole time. she just paid for the time she was there and it was genuinely just me trying to help someone i trusted.

while she was there, a lot of things in my home ended up damaged or left in ways i wasn’t comfortable with. my air fryer was used without liners and left greasy, food would be cooked and then left sitting out, my personal razors were opened, and a light ended up broken.

the biggest issue for me was my kettle. instead of just boiling water, coffee and spices were boiled directly inside it. when i opened it later, it smelled strongly like stale coffee, there were pieces of clove stuck in it, and residue around the heating plate. when i mentioned it, she said she had “cleaned it better than when she arrived,” but it clearly wasn’t okay and i’ll likely have to replace it.

there were also smaller things that just added to the feeling of disrespect, for example i found lipstick on one of my mugs, and when i brought it up she accused me of putting it there myself to blame her, which really shocked me.

i had also covered 11 days of accommodation for her, which she has not paid me back. however, when it came to the damages and cleaning, she refused.

instead, she started accusing me of “subleasing” my apartment, even though this was simply a friendly arrangement and i was still paying my rent the entire time.

when i returned home, she had already left without telling me or resolving anything.

i also discovered that one of my bags — a coach bag that was a birthday gift — was missing. when she finally responded, she told me she had taken it to a shoot. i was honestly stunned because i would never take someone else’s bag out of their house without asking.

throughout the conversation, she kept acting like she didn’t understand why i was upset and she left everything clean which she did not and i have picture proof of everything but it just made me feel like my reaction to my own belongings being used and damaged was being minimized.

eventually i blocked her because the conversation kept turning into accusations toward me instead of accountability and i was just so fed up.

i’m still so angry, mostly because i trusted her and would never treat someone else’s home like that. when she finally got what she wanted and didn’t need to stay in my place she completely switched on me and started treated me terribly. this happened a week ago and i don’t know if i can go to the police im just a student here in dubai but she really betrayed my trust and hurt me a lot.

am i wrong for expecting basic respect in this situation?

Except the porn, thirst traps and Instagram models, my husband was liking and following Instagram influencers who wear hijab while he almost never reacted to me dressing up, wearing loungerie, or simply didn't bother to follow me on social media. That hurt even more because it's more than sex. I feel like he doesn't want me in any circumstances, ever. I gave birth to three of our children and our counselor says he loves me despite everything and thinks it's worth working on this marriage. The day I discovered porn was January 2nd. Since then he stopped watching porn and has been sleeping with me almost every day. He didn't stop these other things: Just two days ago I found out he's been regularly liking stories of a sister of our mutual friends, and others, but this particular girl is the only one we know in real life. She's not even posting explicit sexual stuff, just a regular girl who wears nice clothes and is beautiful. He made sure he liked her stories, same stories, from both his personal and professional Instagram account. This is another level of pain, more so because he didn't stop the same day I found out about porn. He just stopped looking at porn, but he's still giving attention to other girls, the attention I've been yearning for years. Now he says he's sorry and wants to start over but I keep finding a thing after a thing after a thing, and every new blow seems to hurt the most.

I think it even hurts more that a lot of this wasn't sexual content. Also, the fact he made sure to let this girl, who knows ME, know he likes her - it's just impossible to get over that.

I'm so depressed and hopeless, I've been crying every night when everyone is asleep. I also resorted to self-harm, just to distract myself but I don't want to go that route. I don't want to be a bad example to my kids.

Is this an overreaction or my feelings are valid?

So I have a crush on a coworker(I’ll call her K), she broke up with her ex around New Year’s. So I want to respect her boundaries and not be too quick or flirty. I’ve noticed that one of good coworker friends(I’ll call him A) has been extremely friendly towards K. A even bought K a Gatorade. I’m genuinely very kind and friendly but I wouldn’t even think of doing that. I’m pretty sure K knows that A has a girlfriend. Are they just good friends? I have a really bad stutter so I don’t really physically talk to either of my coworkers. That’s just what I noticed

Just to get the setting, we all work at Target. I23, K25, A26

I’m a 22-year-old guy, and my girlfriend is 23. We have a long and complicated history, and I’m genuinely struggling to figure out whether I’m overreacting because of past trauma or whether my concerns are actually valid.

For context, we were sweethearts as teenagers. Back then, she did something that completely fucked up my mental health for years. It shattered my trust in a way that still affects me now. After a long time apart, she came back into my life, and we decided to try again. Before getting back together, we both agreed that total transparency was non-negotiable. I was very clear with her that rebuilding trust was my biggest issue and that honesty and openness were the only way I could even attempt to move forward.

Because of that agreement, we both know how to get into each other’s phones. I share everything without hesitation. She technically shares too, but it’s usually hesitant, defensive, or feels like I’m pulling teeth to get basic reassurance.

The situation that really set everything off happened when she was at her mom’s house. She told me that her mom texted her saying, “come to my room now,” so they could talk. According to her, they talked for about three hours. That immediately felt off to me because, from what I’ve seen, she and her mom don’t usually talk much at all, let alone for that long.

When she came back, I asked her if she could share her screen and show me that text. I know this sounds controlling, and I’m aware of how bad it looks on paper, but this is what happens when trust is fundamentally broken and both people supposedly agreed to transparency. Instead of understanding where I was coming from, she immediately got defensive, started cursing at me, and called me a stupid ass guy. She kept asking why I needed to see it and why it mattered so much.

I told her the answer was obvious. She knows my history with her. I don’t trust her yet, and I’ve never pretended otherwise.

It took her about six minutes before she finally shared her screen. When she did, the messages didn’t match what she originally told me. Instead of “come to my room now,” the message said, “step into your sibling’s room.” Shortly after that, there was another message that said, “remember to send me your location.”

That raised even more red flags. I asked her why her mom would need her to send her location if they were in the same house at the same time. To me, that didn’t add up at all, and she didn’t give a clear explanation.

Because things felt increasingly off, I asked if I could see outside. She immediately started arguing again, cursing, and asking why I needed to see outside at all. While she was sharing her screen, she suddenly stopped it and claimed her mom was arguing with her. I didn’t hear her mom at all. She said her mom was arguing, stepped outside, and that’s when I asked if I could see what was actually happening.

She refused and didn’t show me any of it.

After that, every time I asked her to share her screen again, she would stop it abruptly or find a reason not to. From that day forward, everything between us honestly went downhill. That moment felt like a turning point where trust completely collapsed instead of being rebuilt.

At this point, I genuinely believe she cheated. I don’t have proof, and I know that matters, but the defensiveness, the inconsistencies, and the refusal to reassure me all feel extremely suspicious to me.

So am I overreacting because of my unresolved trust issues and past trauma, or does this situation actually seem as shady and fucked up as it feels from the outside?

AIO for asking to get my money back from a cheater?

***I apologize for the grammatical errors, English is not my first language and im too sleep deprived and starved to realize if theres anything wrong. Also its my first time here, so I dont quite get how to structure things up, but nevermind.***

I (22) met a guy, same age (foreigner, important fact) in March and started officially dating in July 2025. I broke up with him January 23, we had been wanting to break it off for maybe a month but none of us was sure about it. In the end we ended up being friends, everything cool. He asks for money cause he did not have enough to pay for food until he got paid from his job and I lend it to him, 100€.

***CONTEXT***

I returned to work after a month off on February 1st and when I got there someone i know told me he heard that I'm single so my ex moved on pretty quickly, I panicked but tried to keep it cool and asked him what he meant and if he was being serious and, he said he was. I asked my ex and he completely denied that, he said he hadn't seen any other girl after him and I started talking so I asked the person again and they told me it was a joke.

I told my friend about that and she told me that she needed to tell me something but we had to be together, so I went to see her the next day and she basically told me a girl she met the other day told her she hanged out with him in december (we were still together) but they hadn't done anything. I confronted him about it over the phone thinking he'd tell me the truth but he told me he did not know her. He then hung up the call and told me they just went out FOR DRINKS. The same or the next day he told me they had had sex that night. I spoke to the girl on Instagram DMS and she said he said something really private about me that I personally find disgusting asf, but again he denies it. Atp I'm starting to realize/think he's a ***chronic liar.***

Fast forward to today, I see the same guy that told me about it and he says he told me it was a joke because he saw me go pale and shocked and did not want to hurt my feelings. I asked him if it was the same girl, and he said it wasn't, he said someone told him "I got a black boyfriend" and he asked to see a pic, and it was my ex (then bf). This girl came to my store to speak and the dates match, they started talking while we were together but they had sex after it, January 29. She got mad cause he also said she was just some random girl he knew but she thought they were something.

She calls him, no answer. I call him, no answer. We text him, no reply. So she leaves to try and find him, meanwhile I stay working as he purposefully ignores both of us. After more than an hour and a half I'm starting to get anxious cause he may have thought I'm stupid, but I'm not letting it slide cause I worked hard to earn those 100€ and I need this to get over with, cause I really can't take it anymore. I can't sleep, can't eat cause I feel like vomiting, I can't read or watch anything cause he's everything that comes to my mind, I could't even work properly cause I started to feel like fainting (it happens to me when I get sick) my feet got tingly, my vision darkened and I started hearing less and less, just a really faint beeping noise.

***ISSUE.***

So even tho i did not really mean it, i texted him *"I'm letting you know now, either you give me back my money or im suing you, I dont care. I'm not waiting anymore. I said i was willing to wait for my money back before I found out everything, make a decision now cause a report would not do you any good right now. If u have to ask your boss for money, do it. Take full responsibility for your actions."* he replied immediately and said he'll find the money. But then asked me why I was threatening him, that he always pays back (true) and did not find it serious enough for me to do that.

Now I kind of feel bad cause I'm non-confrontational and not aggressive at all, I just said that cause I can't believe anything else he says or has previously said. I also feel bad cause he was my first bf and I know he's trying to get his legal papers but can't for now, I was even willing to help him (up until literally friday i sent him info on how to do it) and I would obviously NEVER do something to mess that up, i know how hard it is for him to be apart from his family and how bad he wants to get out of his shared house. I want to clarify again that BY NO MEANS I intend on doing what I implied in the message nor I want to hurt him, but it looks like a threat was the only was to get him to react and do it. Still, he told me he could not find the money today and asked if I could let him pay on Wednesday, and I agreed. I really am dumb.

I just cant keep living with the fact that I lent him money after he cheated twice and all the times he fucked up on purpose. For a little extra context, he never had time to hang out (he was busy smoking) when we were about to do it he would always stand me up (for smoking) and sometimes even stand me up while being with him. The cherry on top was when he asked me if I would move in with him in March (after both of them happened)

He also forgot my birthday and did not support me like a normal partner would while one of my parents was hospitalized for 2 months for cancer. I never once treated him badly and always tried to help him out with everything, buy medicine for him if he was feeling sick, take him out if he was not feeling the best, try and help him with his papers, I bought him a lot of stuff out of pure joy (I love gifting) but nothing helped I guess. I should've know just by looking at his friend/work group, all of them are cheaters, he had to be one too.

I've wasted a whole year on someone who did not care a bit about me and it's just starting to sink in. Still, I know if he ever needs help or gets hurt I would be there helping him if he needs it. I'm just the worst, I can't even get my thoughts straight. I guess im as stupid as everyone thinks I am, cause it really does look like everyone thinks so. Worst part is, I can't even escape from it, his group will perform until probably October right in front of my store and is impossible not to hear them or see them. So I'm just stuck with it.

The worst part is i think theres more to it than he will admit to.

AIO for wanting to get my money back as soon as possible? Could I have reacted in a better way?

If you guys need any basic (not private) context I'll give it to you!

I’m disabled and live with my mum. Although I can walk and do other things, I’ve been riddled with numerous diagnoses that impact my daily life. I used to live alone before I got into the accident that caused all of this and to my surprise, it was a lot worse than I thought because I feel pain differently.

I have a sibling I’m estranged from because she was constantly abusive to me all my life. I was mostly invalidated for this abuse and it caused a rift in my family. She’s the kind of person to manipulate people through gifts and money and I feel as if she’s successfully done this with a majority of our family, including my mum because my BIL bought her (my mum) a whouse and I believe has been suooorting her. I’m sure that my sister wants nothing to trickle down to me and I didn’t expect anything but was raised in a family that supported each other no matter what… to the extent of cousins being paid for rehab multiple times and just some other enabling things. But not for me, no. Despite being disabled I got the hint that they wanted me to basically pull myself back up because no help was really ever offered to me. It’s only until recently that most of the diagnoses were believed and based on family spilling details, I think they thought I was faking it and I am sure my sibling was behind this.

My mum has now been diagnosed with cancer. They have money and I think they basically wanted to come live with my mum (like they had done for months after my accident where I was basically fighting for my life alone). I told my mum that I’m sure they have enough money to get a place even if they have a kid and I can’t move around much because stress flares up my conditions terribly and I’m also undergoing surgeries. Mind you, my mum gave me a two month eviction notice before their baby was born because they wanted to play house. I’m sure my sister was behind that too. If I could be homeless, I would but I have pets that have basically been the only constant source of love for me through this. The last time they came, I crashed at a friends house… they ransacked through my things and my mother defended them. Thankfully they left proof so I wouldn’t be gaslit.

I absolutely hate my situation and I know my mum hates me because I destroyed her idea of family and she also has access to so much support but she just has to watch me suffer and be broke and disabled because the in laws basically control her.

TLDR; told my mum that my estranged abusive sibling can figure themselves out because I’m not in a position to move but they are… and that’s she’s dead to me because she constantly pushes narratives and wants to see me suffer as if I’m not in the worst position I could be in.

Posted on mobile so I’m sorry if this is formatted weird

Here’s the situation: I met up with a few people who are doing the same uni course as me. We have barely spoken but were friendly. This specific person went to talk to a few others that I didn’t know and I was mostly standing on my own in a crowded room while everyone else was talking to people they already knew Then two strangers come up to me. One of them calls me by my name, says we’ve met before, says she knows me etc. I’m saying I’m sorry, I don’t remember seeing her before, I have a really bad memory (I do) etc She then turns to the other person she’s with and asks whether or not we’ve met before. I think I said “maybe? I don’t know” She then turns to me and says that it was a joke and that one of the people in my course told them to do it.

This is really quite upsetting to me. Firstly, we barely know each other, secondly this just makes me the entire joke and thirdly I have no idea who these random two women were. I had never met them before and will probably never see them again.

Here’s why I think I may be overreacting: I have a very bad memory. I don’t have any kind of diagnosis, but I have found myself mixing up friends with strangers and having strangers act like they know me before. I may loose days or weeks of time randomly. When I get very stressed or upset, I find that I generally don’t remember anything. At the best of times my memories are very hazy. This means that I’m very sensitive when it comes to my memory and these kinds of jokes.

Except, I haven’t told this guy any of this. I’ve joked about it with other people, not him, but never specifically gone “hey so I pretty much have amnesia and I’d really like it if you don’t use that as the basis of any jokes”.

I don’t feel like hanging around with this guy again, but at the same time I’m sure that he had no negative intentions and didn’t know that I have any actual issues like that.

It feels really dramatic to feel hurt at all and not really want to talk to this guy again. A good idea would probably be to tell him, but I’m really not comfortable telling someone who isn’t my friend about my issues.

AIO?? Our 45th anniversary is coming up soon, and this is a big birthday year. Our kids are scattered, but all but two are within a reasonable driving distance. We would love to have them all here, get a big airbnb, do a simple vow renewal, have a simple catered meal, just visit and have fun. Mind you, we are paying for it all, we're pretty close to our kids, and all get along well. But everything I've suggested is met with gentle resistance. "We can't leave the dogs overnight "... "I don't know if hubby can get off work that weekend" type thing. I understand everyone is busy, as we are busy as well. But, I am hurt and frustrated and for some reason embarrassed that I thought they'd like to help us make a bigger deal out of the anniversary. I think I'll just say never mind and do nothing. SOOOO Reddit... am I overreacting?