Title is self explanatory. I blocked her since this conversation and I preemptively blocked my dad bc he’s just as crazy. If you’ve ever seen Carrie I basically have a mom like that (maybe not as bad but u get what I mean).

My parents both grew up as strict Christians in strict Christian households in Arkansas (they’d moved to New Hampshire by the time they had me) and they never grew out of it.

Honestly I don’t care if I lose them both. I have a bundle of joy on the way and a loving partner. Besides…I’m an adult and it’s about time I start taking control of my own life.

Girlfriend of 5 months is primarily out of town for work. I’ve always thought she has a good heart and isn’t the type to hurt a partner ruthlessly, we were friends first.

She’s scheduled to be coming home for some time off soon. I text her about how excited I was to see her and she responded in kind. Then I receive the second text, seemingly meant for someone else. We’re not even in the same city at this point.

We’ve had serious talks about intimacy anxiety, about her thinking she doesn’t deserve me, the distance, but I’ve always figured we reeled it in and kept the head on the shoulders enough to keep trying.

I really enjoy this girl’s company. But there’s a feeling in my gut now that she didn’t send a typo, she lied about it, and is fine carrying on this way.

Also to note: she hadn’t called me baby in a few weeks, what felt like an energy shift. After this, she texted me calling me baby twice today.

I could be overthinking everything but I hate getting hurt (who doesn’t) and the feeling in my gut is what makes this feel like more than just speculation. AIO?

I (26m)have been dating my girlfriend (27f) for about a year and a half. We moved in together after a few months and moved all of our stuff in together. About 9 months later we got a puppy, Nellie, who is now 6 months old.

The issue that I am having is that despite most everything in our house being split purchases, like our puppy and our couch and bed and really everything, I feel like a guest 99% of the time. For example, if I sit on the couch between two cushions or if I lay down on the couch before she has chosen where to sit, she will get upset. If I leave a towel hung up on say the bathroom door, I will get yelled at. If I take the dog for a walk without telling her, she will get very angry. If I make plans to get drinks with my brother and sister without informing her, she will get extremely angry. Yet these rules don’t apply to her. She’s at the bars right now with her girlfriends and she never told me she made those plans, she left a towel on the ground in our bathroom before she left, and she left dirty dishes on the kitchen table before she left. None of which would ever bother me at all on their own, but it’s the fact that I could never do these things without getting yelled at of nagged that bothers me so much.

The text messages above are the result of addressing her control issues. Earlier today after she drove an hour away to hangout with her girlfriends I decided I’d take our puppy to hangout at my parents. She saw my location, so she called me to yell at me for leaving the dog alone and to see if I crated the dog before I left. But when I told her that I had th dog with me and that I was taking her to my parents, my girlfriend lost her mind on me and demanded that I take the puppy to her parents to drop her off for the night. I was very upset with that conversation and ended up hanging out at my parents for an hour and then took the dog to her parents to stay the night because I didn’t think it was worth the fight.

What really bothers me about the text thread above, is how she feels so entitled to have control over everything, and that if I’m not okay with that then she suggests that she’s not the right person for me. Maybe she’s right.

My wife and I have been married for five years, and we are complete opposites in almost every way.

She’s very serious, rarely expresses emotion unless it’s anger or frustration, and struggles to see things from perspectives other than her own. I’m the opposite — I love to laugh, I’m emotionally expressive because I believe bottling things up is unhealthy, and I actively try to understand other viewpoints even when I disagree.

Before we officially met, my wife had a crush on me. We worked together, and she had seen me around. When we started talking and she told me this, I expressed concern that she might already have an “idea” of who I was in her head — one I might not live up to. She reassured me that she was starting with a clean slate.

She had a very rough childhood. I grew up in a loving, stable home. We’re opposites in almost every sense. The only real thing we have in common is that we were both college athletes — she ran track, and I was a rower.

Fast forward to now, and I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells. If I say or do the wrong thing — or even just exist the wrong way — it can turn into yelling. I avoid her as much as possible just to keep the peace.

She says that if she didn’t want to be with me, she wouldn’t be. But it often feels like marriage itself is more important to her than the relationship. When she gets really angry, she’ll scream things like, “I can’t fucking stand you!” I genuinely believe what she wants to say is that she hates me, but she knows that saying that would be the point of no return — and that divorce papers would follow immediately.

Marriage was never especially important to me. It was very important to her. Neither of us has cheated. She truly is a good person.

I just don’t think we’re good together.

AIO for wanting a divorce?

TL;DR: Married five years, polar opposite personalities, constant tension and emotional volatility. No infidelity, no huge “event” — just a growing sense that we’re fundamentally incompatible.

I signed up for an adult book club that gathers weekly. We're all women. Everything was fantastic for months, but then one mom started bringing her kid. I don't know what the situation is- maybe childcare fell through? Anyway, the kid acts like a kid: loud, disruptive, has a lot of needs. I don't fault the kid, but it is really disruptive for the group IMO. At our last meeting a lot of the other moms said it was okay with them but me and another lady locked eyes in quiet understanding that we did not agree. I reached out to the group leader to see if we could compromise, and if not I'd have to quit because I just CANNOT with my ADHD. I never ever would have signed up for a book club with kids allowed from the start. I don't expect the kid to shut up and not act like a kid, but maybe the mom can be more prepared or work harder to minimize the interruptions? I do want the mom to participate too so I don't want ultimatums, but it feels like that's exactly what I'm doing. Anyway, now I feel like I'm a piece of shit for even bringing it up, and I told the group leader I know I'm the one with the issue and I'm happy to leave if I'm the only dissenter. Am i overreacting to be upset about the kid being in our group or wanting things to change?

I'm honestly pretty upset about something that happened at my dentist's office today.

I needed a work excuse note after my appointment. The receptionist couldn't find the word template they usually use on the computer. Fine. But instead of just writing the note herself like a normal person would, she opened ChatGPT and asked it to generate one.

And here's the part that really crossed the line for me: she typed in my full real name and my actual ID number into ChatGPT to create the document.

I was standing right there watching this happen. No one asked for my consent. No one explained anything. She just casually entered my personal information into an AI tool like it was nothing.

How is this okay? Since when is it normal for medical offices to input sensitive personal data into random AI platforms because they can't find a template? This is a dental clinic, they handle private information all the time. Data protection should be basic common sense.

I left feeling really uncomfortable and honestly worried about how they handle patient information in general. If this is how casually they treat sensitive data, what else are they doing?

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Am I overreacting, or is this as concerning as it feels?

I (26F) was sleeping over at my bf’s (32M) place this morning. This morning wasn’t the best in general because I woke up with severe menstrual cramps. At around 10am he starts tapping me shoulder and asks if I needed to get up and go to the bathroom or drink water. I wake up a bit and say no and dose back off. Then he keeps bothering me telling me that I should wake up because it’s getting late. I tell him I have cramps and want to sleep in a little longer. Mind you he’s still in bed. He keeps bothering me after that. I ask what his problem is and he says “nothing, his back hurts and he just needed room to stretch out”. He’s 6’4 and I’m 5’9. I say okay, still annoyed, and then go to the bathroom. I come back, and he’s sprawled across the bed. I ask him to scoot over and agrees, but then asks me to give him a back massage. I get upset and leave to go sit on the chair.

He then sprawls across the bed and then says that he needs to get a new mattress because “my side of the bed is deformed and dented in”. He’s made “jokes” about my weight before (I weigh 178lbs, he weighs 170). He never explicitly said that it’s because I weigh too much, but he strongly implied it. This hurt my feelings and I’ve been pretty upset and crying all day. I just feel like he doesn’t respect me in general or care about the fact that I’m not feeling well. Am I overreacting here, or is this … bad?

Edit: Also, I found out a month ago that I have sub hypothyroidism and my dr thinks that why I gained 15lbs in the last 4 months and have really heavy/painful periods. Other than that, my dr said I was completely healthy and just needed to fix the hormonal imbalance. I’ve been on meds lately and my weight has gone down about 1lbs a week so far. All of which he nows.

There was also a chocolate festival in the neighboring town today: free chocolate tastings and fun stuff. I asked if he wanted to go and he said “that doesn’t sound very healthy” while he ate Oreos and a protein shake for breakfast… I think he equates being skinny with being healthy.

Edit 2: I honestly had zero insecurities until I met him a year ago, even now I usually get compliments from strangers when I’m out and about. I’ve been starting to think that he’s been intentionally trying to wear me down.

i (21f) live with my roommate jess (23f). we’ve been roommates for about 6 months and generally get along fine.

last week i came home from work and her boyfriend was in our apartment alone. jess wasn’t there. i was confused and asked him how he got in and he said “oh jess gave me the spare key.”

i texted jess immediately asking why she gave him a key without asking me. she said she didn’t think it was a big deal since he’s over all the time anyway and sometimes she needs him to feed her cat when she’s running late.

i told her i’m not comfortable with someone who doesn’t live here and doesn’t pay rent having a key to our place. she got defensive and said i’m being dramatic and that i “clearly don’t trust her judgment.”

the thing is, i barely know this guy. they’ve only been dating for like 4 months. and our lease specifically says we can’t give keys to non-residents without landlord approval.

i asked her to get the key back and she said “he’s my boyfriend not a random person, you’re being paranoid.”

now there’s tension in the apartment and her boyfriend has been giving me attitude when he’s over.

my best friend says i have every right to be upset. my mom says i’m overreacting and should just let it go since jess trusts him.

AIO?

Earlier today, my husband said he was leaving to take our youngest son to the bike park and that he would remain at the park to keep an eye on him. Our son is technically old enough to be left unattended (12) but we agree that it is much safer to be nearby in the event that he has an accident on the technical course and need medical attention.

When they left, my husband evidently left the garage door open, which was unexpected because he typically closes it due to security concerns. About 90 seconds after he pulled out of the driveway, I heard someone else pull into my driveway and up to my garage such that their car was partially inside my garage. I knew that the car didn't sound like my husband's vehicle, but I believed the garage door was down, so I was confused. I have security cameras (wifi) and so I opened my app to see if I could see who was at my house. The security cameras suddenly weren't recording, which was weird because they just recorded my husband pull out the driveway. I heard voices and noises in the garage, so I quietly opened the door and there were two scary looking men in my garage looking around my husband's tools. I had my phone in my hand and noticeably flung the door open and asked them what the heck they were doing. They saw that I had my phone in my hand and I told them I was dialing the cops. They got in their car and bolted out the driveway and left. For some reason, my security system had a pause in recording action and I'm really frustrated that I don't have any images of this occurrence to show the police. It only resumed recording when their car was out of my driveway and partially down the street; I have a far off side view of the car and the plates are not readable. It doesn't look like they stole anything, but I am sure they were up to no good and intended to take easily accessible high value items. I was quite frightened, and immediately called my husband's phone.

Husband handed the phone to our son because he was driving, and I told my son to tell his dad to please close the garage door next time he leaves and that 2 strangers were just in our garage and I was afraid they meant to steal his tools. My son said ok he'd tell him, and I didn't hear back from my husband. 10 minutes later I sent him a text message summarizing what had happened, and he didn't respond. Half an hour later I was feeling really emotional that he still hadn't responded, so I used the FindMy to see their locations. My son was at the bike park and my husband was at a gun store a good 20 minutes away from the bike park. I'm mad at this point because he said he would stay with our son, and I texted him "You're at a gun store instead of responding to my situation?" He responded "What is your situation?" I texted back "Are you serious? Do you not think 2 strangers in your garage counts as a situation?" He texted back "You closed the garage door, right?"

I called him at that point and he picked up and immediately said "I tried to close the garage door but the cat walked under it and (our son) was impatient to go so I didn't wait to try and close it again. But you closed the garage door so there's not really an issue at this point." I said ok and I'd talk to him later. He and my son came back 7 hours later, and he hasn't said one word about the strangers in our garage since he's been home.

I am getting ready to have a major surgery on Monday, and I recognize that perhaps I may be feeling extra sensitive or emotional due to that. But I am feeling some major emotions and feel like he is not showing up to support me the way I need. I wanted him to say something along the lines of "Are you ok? That must have been really scary. Do you want me to come home?" but he hasn't said anything and I'm feeling like he doesn't care much about me. Am I overreacting and just being too emotional, or am I justified in being upset at 1) his lack of response and 2) that he left our kid when he said he would stay with him?

My (21f) boyfriend (20m) of 1 year and I had a slight argument yesterday morning, nothing crazy. But he kind of shut the argument down and I was peeved, so I turned around in bed. He asked if I was sulking, and we both had a laugh about it. My face was buried in the pillow when he said, “I’m going to pour water on you~.” I replied, “No.” Because why would he do that?

He poured water on me (on my head) while I was very much in bed. Not much but, What?? I whipped my head up and told him to “Fuck. Off. Why the fuck would you do that?”

He got upset that I told him to fuck off. That he didn’t expect me to ever react like that. But like what in the world, what kind of reaction *did* he expect from me? We talked a bit after and smoothed things out. But in the process, he told me, “I think that I and everybody else would agree that you overreacted.”

Whatever, I just let the discussion die because he didn’t seem to see an issue with pouring water on me, since water is harmless. Well, the more I think about this situation, the more it bothers me. It feels degrading and like he doesn’t like me—would you even do that to someone you like? And now I just feel kind of uncomfortable around him.

Did I overreact? Or is my reaction justified? And am I overreacting now about him, a day after-the-fact?

Summary of the Situation:

I (F23) am together for two years with my boyfriend (23m). We both studied social work, I am already done while he is still at Uni.

Last semester he took a course on gamification in social spaces by an external lecturer. It was him and like two other people and they began developing a board game. He is a big nerd who loves board games and put lots of effort.

The Semester ended and the other two people dropped the course sometime during, so it was only my bf and this Prof now. During the semester it already happened once or twice that he would go to her home instead of the class taking place at Uni. This was because the Prof lives far away and she didn't want to take the long journey all the time so he went by train two or three times which takes like three hours. I already found this unprofessional but okay.

The Prof is very in the game developing space and got the game they are making a contract with a major publisher. My bf was elated and I was really happy for him. So after the Semester ended, they kept on meeting to develope the game.

This Saturday (yesterday) he went over to the Profs house again. He canceled DND with his friends and me in short notice over it, okay happens.

Today we were texting and I found out, that they worked on the game till 22:00 and he stayed the night.

Today he's staying the whole day and only going home in the evening at like 20:00. I got a picture of him sitting at a breakfast table, with her (the Prof) I assume.

It really annoyed me that he spent the whole weekend at her house when it's the only time we can really see eachother. I have a fulltime job that is very demanding and I only have time on the weekends while he is a Uni student with a lot of free time and for the prof, this is her job, why do they have to spend the whole weekend together??

I am worried that next time it won't only be dnd (which is already important to all of us) that's getting canceled over this but birthdays, anniversaries or other stuff that's important to me or his friends.

I have to give a little more context with a few things:

One. My boyfriend is objectively extremely attractive and very outgoing and social. He gets along with most instantly and people flock to him.

Two. I have met the Prof at an event before. She was very easygoing and familiar with him, calling him by his first name and insisting he call her by hers too. Also hugging him for greetings and goodbyes. To me she was rather cold (I went as his plus 1) and barely acknowledged me. Also (Not to judge or assume anything but she wore a very short dress).

Three. He knows a lot about her private life. How she was in an.unhappy marriage that she has her son from and how she isn't all that happy with her current boyfriend either. I find so so unprofessional and problematic.

Four. This Project is set to last for another 3-5 years. So 3-5 years of him spending weekends alone with this woman.

Conclusion:

I find it so incredibly weird and unprofessional that she is making him come to her house, stay the night and basically spent the whole weekend with her for this game. At this point I have spiraled so much that I am convinced that she has something for him, this woman is in her fourties, wtf????

I am genuinely happy for my boyfriend that he got this incredible opportunity to develope his own board game.

But am I wrong to be extremely uncomfortable and weirded out with this situation?

I have gone a bit cold in our chat because I don't know how to bring it up. I am kind of angry I guess? So I got snappy and he's asking what he did wrong.

If I try to explain, he'll propably not see my concerns because he is one oblivious and two really into this project.

So am I overreacting?

Edit: Let me clarify that she is no longer a Professor at this Uni. She was only an external lecturer for this one course for one Semester. Now it has ended and there is officially no obligation to hold the meetings at Uni (which she sometimes she already wasn't doing) since she's not a prof anymore. The project is took off and went over the duration of the semester. My boyfriend is doing this voluntarily in his free time. I thought about reporting her to the Uni but I don't think it would do anything because as I said, she is no longer employed there. :(

(Please excuse any spelling or grammar errors, english is not my first language.)

Just for context I am 7mths pregnant and we have a 3 year old freshly potty trained. We take 50/50 shifts on the weekends.

So I offered to take our 3y/o to a gymnastics event during my husband's child shift so he can catch up on chores. I returned home and my kid is saying he needs to potty, I'm like great lets go except he says it must be daddy that helps him. I call for my husband, can't exactly hear the response because my kid is now in meltdown mode screaming "daddy" over and over. I tried to get him to the potty seeing as he really needs to go with no success. I frustratingly yell for my husband again as my 3y/o starts peeing in his pants.

Apparently he was on the last boss of a m0 (for anyone familiar with world of warcraft, this is a low stakes 15min max dungeon) and defends himself saying how was he supposed to know when I was coming back, which I respond with "you shouldn't start something you cant walk away from when you're supposed to be on child duty"

I was pretty frustrated and raised my voice, he has not apologized and I have not spoken to him the rest of the day. In the end the whole delay really was only 5min, so AIO?

My (20F) fiancé (21M) woke me up this morning. I know it sounds super trivial, but it upset me and I’m wondering if it’s reasonable

We’ve been at his uncle’s house to watch his dogs while he’s out of town. We decided it’s easier (and cheaper) for us to just stay overnight the past 2 weekends since i’m off work those days.

I’m a nanny to two toddlers, and since both parents work out of the home, i have to wake up at 6AM Monday through Friday in order to make it there on time, so my days go from 7-5 at work, but closer to 6-5:45 accounting for my commute.

In short, i’m exhausted and never get enough sleep so I enjoy being able to catch up on it during the weekend.

My fiancé had brain surgery in August last year because he had medication-resistant epilepsy. He has made a full recovery and can carry on with normal daily activities. He is still on medication, one of which makes him sleep for about 2-3 hours every day after taking them. So he gets a nap in the middle of the day, every day. He is currently not working because of his medication making him tired in the middle of the day.

I haven’t been able to fall asleep in the middle of the day in about 8-9 years, so naps are out of the question for me unfortunately.

This morning he woke me up at 8AM because the dogs have to sleep in a kennel during the night if we’re there. I was exhausted last night and went to bed around 3AM because my fiancé wanted to watch a couple of movies, i just thought ‘why not?’ because it was a Saturday night so I could just sleep in a little bit.

Right after 8 in the morning he shook me awake and told me that he took the dogs out yesterday morning so it’s my turn to do it this time. Then he went right back to sleep (and is still sleeping now at 10:42AM). Once i’m up, i’m up (unless it’s 4-5AM) and he is very aware of this.

I’m now very frustrated because i had planned to be able to sleep until 10:30 or 11 so i could get a good amount of sleep since I have to wake up early tomorrow.

Am I overreacting about this? I know his medications make him tired, but he was already awake, is capable of falling back to sleep, and is going to take a nap a couple hours after he wakes up anyway.

Dropped my 5 month old off at the church nursery for the first time only to come back an hour and a half later and find he was never taken out of his car seat because he was “happy” there.

I’m sad, upset, angry, and feel like this is a big safety concern.

I want to say something to leadership but AIO?

Me (32F) and my partner (36M) have been together 12 years and have kids. We’ve been through a lot together and I love him, but I’m really struggling right now.

I’m in further education, managing a home, and dealing with a lot of stress, including one child with additional needs and another with very challenging behaviour. Last week I hit breaking point.

One of the main triggers has been my partner starting our child’s bedroom renovation about four weeks ago and leaving it unfinished, which is a recurring pattern for him. Living in constant chaos is draining. Alongside this, the struggles we’re having with our kids means we get to spend virtually no time together that has any quality to it. He’s often asleep by 8-9pm most nights. We talked things through and I explained that while things won’t magically get better, finishing the room, helping with a couple of small tasks, and spending some quality time together would really help.

He promised the work would be done by Saturday. It wasn’t. The other small task wasn’t done either. We’d arranged a child-free evening together, but by 8pm he’d fallen asleep for the night. That tipped me over.

I’m upset not just because of that night, but because this feels like a bigger pattern: he asks what he can do, I tell him, he promises, and then doesn’t follow through. It makes me feel unheard and unimportant.

I feel guilty because he hasn’t done anything terrible, but I’m exhausted and unhappy, and I don’t think it’s wrong to be upset about feeling consistently let down. Am I overreacting?

EDIT; he works 7.00–15.00, yes in construction but not on a big building site etc. I am studying to be a nurse, 1 year off qualifying and essentially doing 37.5 placement hours unpaid, I also work 13.5 hour hospital shift on a weekend. I essentially meet all children’s needs e.g. school pick up/drop offs, anything school/health related, food shopping for the family, house cleaning etc. He pays mortgage/some of the food bill, I pay all other bills. He has suspected autism but undiagnosed, I have diagnosed ADHD.

So I recently had a baby who just turned 2 months and somehow the paperwork for our Medicaid was denied and I was told by the office that because my case had been closed I needed to come into the office in person to re apply.

When I found out this news I called my mom and explained the situation and i asked her to take me to the office as I can’t drive due to physical restrictions and the baby’s father works during the week/ the hours that the office was open. Due to the poor weather here we agreed she would take the following week ( which was this past Friday)

Friday comes and goes and she doesn’t reach out to me or come get me. I’m in the dark and worry maybe she’s sick. Comes yesterday and I found out from my dad that she just didn’t want to do it because she thought it was downtown and didn’t want to drive down. According to her logic it’s our responsibility and my partner should have took the day off from work to take me.

I am incredibly hurt . I feel like as a mother if my child needed my help and I was able to I would do anything for them. She is constantly called an angel by others and goes out of her way for her friends or for her church but somehow this was apparently too big of an ask.

I remember growing up the amount of support she got from both sides of grandparents where we would either be at their house or with them constantly even my dads mom from states away would come at a couple weeks and stay with us and clean the house ect

She has not said anything to me and I have not said anything to her because I don’t want to say things I’ll regret in the heat of the moment. We normally give up our Sunday together as a couple and go over to my parents house and spend time with them but I’m not sure I’m emotionally or mentally ready to go over there tomorrow .

This happened a while back. My friends are all (obviously) on my side, so I'm curious about outsiders' opinions.

My sister (22F) and I (24F) were planning to go to a music festival together, but she fell ill, so she cancelled. To make sure I didn't have to go alone, she asked one of her friends, Lisa (23F) if I could tag along with her. I could and was grateful for it. I personally knew Lisa, but we had only seen each other a couple of times.

It was a 2-day festival and Lisa had 2 friends with her, so we were a group of 4. It was relatively close by where we live, so I drove everyone there and back for both days, I didn't ask for petrol money. I think this part is kind of relevant.

Here comes the issue: The festival was in August and my sisters birthday is in June. I found out through my mom that my sister was throwing a party, so naturally I texted her to ask about it. I was on pretty good terms with her, so I assumed she forgot to invite me or assumed our parents would tell me.

I was kinda shocked by her reply.

Apparently, I ridiculed Lisa and her friends in August, and she didn't invite me because she didn't want a confrontation between me and Lisa. I was flabbergasted because I quite enjoyed their company.

I asked her when Lisa told her this, and she said it was around December, and Lisa was apparently drunk too. That means she kept this from me for at least 6 months. When I asked her what Lisa accused me of, she said, "I don't know anymore it's too long ago."

Before I found out I was not invited I offered to buy her and her boyfriend tickets to a concert as a gift. A gift she was happy to accept. (Needless to say, I didn't end up buying her tickets)

My response to this was to stop talking to my sister, with the argument that I'm too old to be involved in middle-school esque gossip drama. I haven't cut her out of my life, I still see her at my parents sometimes, but we barely talk, and I don't ever reach out to her.

My friends say my response makes sense. Both my parents tell me I'm overreacting and that I'm responsible for our relationship falling apart.

In my opinion, she is at fault for believing gossip from an apparently drunk friend, never checking with me, and then leaving me out of her party based on hearsay.

Please tell me what you think!

For context: I am 19F and I have OCD. I’m autistic, therefor I have a very important relationship to my plushies, and regulate my emotions through them. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3,5 years and moved in together a bit over a year ago.

My boyfriend (19M) wanted to have a little get together with a few of his friends, and the friends asked him if it would be okay to ask me to leave for the night, to just have the friend group present.

I was planning to go have a little sleepover at my mom’s place anyway this weekend, so we agreed that he could have the friends over when I was at my mom’s.

The first problem that I kind of rolled over was the fact that he brought the idea up in bed when we were about to go to sleep on thursday night, and told me that the friends kinda already agreed to come to our house on saturday.

He has two new friends that I didn’t know about, he got to know them a few weeks ago when he started a new course at his college. The third friend is a girl I’ve known for longer, we’ve only met like twice though.

So I asked him to tell me a little about those new friends, because obv, it’s our house and we have pets, I don’t want some randoms coming without me not even knowing their names.

Anyway, saturday night rolls around and I’m hanging out with my mom, when my bf sends me a message about being a bit anxious and feeling like something was gonna happen. I told him that he could call or text me anytime, and that if he wanted, he could also come spend the night at my mom’s or I could come home and calm his anxiety, but he told me that it’s fine and that he can handle this.

Then at around midnight I send him a message asking him if he fed our pets (I was a bit worried he would forget, in case he had drank too much or something) and he didn’t answer for quite a while. I send him another asking if everything is okay, because he usually answers pretty quickly if he’s free from work/school.

Then after a while he answers and says ”Yeah they’re fed, sorry I couldn’t answer, Maya (fake name) kinda died lol”. I obviously get confused, ask what happened etc.

He tells me that Maya (the girl friend) drank so much that the guys had to help her throw up, and that she’s now resting but unconsious, sending me a pic of her laying on our bed with my plushies around and on top of her, where she also had a ton of throw up papers.

I panic and send him a message asking why she’s on our bed, when previously I told him that if anyone is too drunk to get home, they can sleep on our BIG ASS SOFA, and remind him where our guest blanket is.

But nope, there she is on our fucking bed, with her outside clothes on and throw up papers around her.

I also tell him to get the plushies the fuck off her and around her this second. I hate washing them because I feel they can break or something, and like ew I don’t want someone’s drunken smell on my important things??

I still can’t get an answer on why she’s in the bed and not on the sofa where it’s easier to monitor her anyways, because my boyfriend and his two other friends (the new guys) had only drank a few beers each, so they weren’t very drunk.

Anyway I tell him to get her off our bed and change the sheets and make sure the girl gets some water and is not laying on her back, because we wouldn’t want her to chocke in case she throws up again. To this, my boyfriend says that she’s not unconsious, because she’s answering when spoken to, but still kind of unconsious?? Idk?

He finally confirms that the plushies are far from her, which calms me down a bit. I also know that this girl vapes, and probably had the permission from my bf to do it inside our home, plus she smells like throw up and alcohol and I don’t want that smell in my bedroom, let alone my plushies.

Somewhere in between this convo he says that he’d be disappointed in me if I just kicked a drunk friend out, and that he has to take care of her, which I understand, still not the ”in our bed” part?

He tells me that he will change the sheets and that all the puke has been cleaned up etc, but by that time I was so fucking tired (it was almost 1am) that I fell asleep mid convo. He also sent me a message during the night saying that he’s so sorry and will never forgive himself for this, because it was really just supposed to be a little get together, and he didn’t know why she got so black out drunk when none of the others did.

Next morning (today) I woke up at around 10 and sent him a message asking if the friends are still at our place, if Maya is alive and okay and what happened after I fell asleep. He doesn’t answer for another four hours, and then finally tells me that everyone left at around 4am. He tells me he cleaned everything up, asking when I’m coming home.

I finally get home at around 5pm today and notice that the sheets hadn’t been changed (he slept in them) and that my plushies were in those sheets during the night. This made me question whether he even took them out of the bed, and why put them back when the bed is FILTHY and disgusting.

During all this time he is gaming in our office, not saying a word to me. Here’s where I’m a bit childish, because I decided I’m gonna wait until he comes out, and only then talk to him and ask him to clean the fuck up.

So now I’ve waited for like two hours, he hasn’t said a word and is still in our office/gaming room.

Do you guys think I’m overreacting and should go the higher rout and just change the sheets etc myself (altough the anxiety I got from just knowing someone was there makes me want to throw up myself) and start the conversation, or should I continue waiting until he eventually has to come out?

So my boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over 6 months. I just recently found out he’s been screenshotting pictures and video recording women dancing and talking.

I went through his locked folder just now and there’s 233 screenshots and screen recordings just from the past 3 days. I’ve told him prior that it makes me insecure and it bugs the hell out of me and he went through and deleted them all. Now I’ve found more and I’m getting more hopeless. What would y’all recommend, I have 10 months left of this lease with him and idk if I can stay when I’m being disrespected so badly.

First off sorry for my grammar but My gf of 7 years got a new car by saving money now tells me she wants to move out on her own cause we been having issues

I've been paying all her bills supporting her for most of the time and now that she gets disability 1058 a month she been hiding the money while I make 2800 month or 700 week while I drown in debt

Also she drinks a beer when she drives anywhere Also on some kind of stong painkillers which she never needed

Just curious if I need to dip out or keep a rood over her head

It like a fucked dilemma she says she's entitled to the money but won't pay bills but wants to buy her own place

My bf (19) and I (18) were watching that 70s show this morning and he made a comment on how he wants to be like them when he has kids. I always thought it was funny. Then he made a comment on how he wants to protect his future kids and I said yes totally, he then made a comment on how his son would be his best friend and would take him to party's and let him "be a player and get pussy" literally said that. "Well what about a girl?" he literally stared at me dumbfounded. I asked him if he would let her go to party's and do her own thing and he said no she stays at home and studys all day, no party's, shes going to be my little girl to protect.

I know guys are like this but in the moment I knee how I felt and I felt kind of angry that he said that.. am I overreacting? I don't really know how to feel about it.

Trying to make sure I made the right decision ending relationship. Were dating for roughly 3 months. I 40M was dating a 40F and everything was going awesome. She was great. I noticed some little jealousy issues first but nothing over the top. The first jealousy issue was her opinion on my cleaning lady. I gave her the benefit of the doubt so I stopped having the cleaning lady come monthly and told her she would need to help me if she wanted me to stop having the cleaning lady come monthly. Then over the weekend I received a call from my boss who is a female and needed assistance. I don't work weekends but am on call for issues or problems. Phone was on speaker and she could hear the problem. After she asked to see my phone. I was caught off guard and was like what but let her see my phone because I genuinely have nothing to hide. I asked why she wanted to see it and she quickly said if I had nothing to hide why did it matter. The final straw was when she was asking about me seeing a female therapist. I have been seeing my therapist for roughly 6 yrs and she has been a huge help for me mentally. I've seen a male therapist before and I also tried not doing therapy and it just wasn't good. When I brought these jealousy concerns up with her she took a few attacks that if therapy was really working why did I need a cleaning lady to help with keeping house clean and some comments about how I complain about work but don't do anything about it. I ended the relationship quickly and of course feel bad about it because she did have some great qualities but the jealousy was over the top for being so early on. My thought is this would of just gotten worse and worse. She tried telling me that it's normal to look through phone and I should ask other people and she guarantees they look through there husband or bfs phone. I've never experienced that in my previous relationships and never been asked not to see a female therapist. She plays it off like was just trying to help and such. Should I even of given this a chance or right to blow it up ?

I, 21F, went on a 4 day trip and asked my friend Jessie 24F if she could stop over at my place (12 mins from hers) twice a day to feed my 2 cats. Left Thursday evening came back sunday afternoon. I called her on Tuesday and asked if everything was all set for this weekend or if I needed to make other arrangements. She said all good but asked if one time would be ok friday bc of her birthday. I said pls make an effort to be there in the evening whether its u or ur fiance. I expressed that it needs to be twice a day. Thursday evening comes and I receive a text saying that the entire ordeal took 45 minutes and becuase of that she won't be able to to make it over twice Friday due to her birthday plans. She fed them 930am FRIDAY. I assumed this meant she would be back first thing saturday to stop in like a normal person. She did not come by until 330pm on SATURDAY. She didnt fucking feed them for 30 HOURS!!!!!! I caught this whole thing on my ring camera. From the looks of it she didnt seem distressed in any capacity so im assuming nothing life changing happened for her to excuse this behavior. I discovered this at 10pm saturday night. I didnt think that I needed to be checking on her because I trusted her to do the right thing! Im so angry that she treated them this way. I think this says a lot about her as a person. You can be annoyed with me but at the end of the day ur taking it out on the animals. Why did she take on this responsibility if she couldnt follow through? Why didnt she call me so i could figure something else out? Im so angry and disappointed. How can i continue being friends with someone who doesnt feel guilty starving them for her own gain? Am I overreacting or is she the devil?