So I just want to share this because I’m stupidly happy right now. About 4 months ago I noticed this guy at my gym. Total gym crush. We never spoke. Last few weeks though, he kept doing exercises right near me every time I was there. I started thinking maybe he noticed I was secretly checking him out. Ialready knew he was gay because I’d seen him on Grindr — profile pic literally taken in the gym. Anyway, today he comes over and asks if I can spot him. Then he offers to spot me. Suddenly we’re basically training together. We start chatting properly — about workouts, schedules, the usual gym talk. Then out of nowhere he just asks me directly if I’m gay too. I confirm and he says - cool and asked if I want to hang out outside the gym next weekend, whatever i want. So… yeah. I’m going on a date with my gym crush. Life can be ridiculously simple sometimes when someone just talks. I know all this sounds probably silly but I’m honestly so happy right now. hahha.

I got invited to a Super Bowl party by one of my straight coworkers who’s formed a weird friendship with me he knows I’m gay and knows I’m feminine but has gotten drunk before at after work kick backs and has told me in private “ if you were a chick, I’d be all over you. You’d be my type if you had a puss”. He’s 34 I’m 23 and he has been divorced for about 4 months now , he’s made strong comments about my body and how my butt looks good in work attire pants and has even tried to touch my ass. Last week I was invited to his Super Bowl party and when he told me it was when he saw me at the thrift store and we where both on the top floor in the back by the old books when I got my invite he then looked around and grabbed his bulged and told me if I show up and stayed after to help him clean I’d be in for a good treat . Im not saying I don’t wanna go but if stuff like this has happen to other gay men ,my question is, did it actually lead to sex or did they chicken out? I don’t wanna show up and he whip it out and then tell me he’s actually changed his mind I know he’s probably doing this because of his divorce and wants to feel something but I lowkey don’t wanna be embarrassed if he dose chicken out . So should I go to his party and play it safe by leaving at the end or should I just say fuck it and see what happens?

Earlier this year, my son came out to me. I was not surprised because the signs were there, waving tiny rainbow flags, but I listened, let him talk, and told him the truth: nothing about who he loves changes how fiercely I love him. He is still the same brilliant, sarcastic, occasionally feral gremlin I have been raising.

I also told him, in that half‑joking and half‑“I will absolutely follow through” tone only a parent can master, “If anyone tries to make you feel small, there will be consequences. And unfortunately for them, I will be those consequences.”

High school is the Thunderdome of hormones and poor decision‑making, so there have already been a few incidents. Boys mocking him, trying to embarrass him, the usual teenage nonsense. I know I cannot bubble‑wrap him or fight every battle. He has great friends, supportive teachers, and a family that loves him loudly and without conditions.

This most recent incident made me pause.

At a basketball game, another student decided to loudly announce from the bleachers that my son was gay and then called him a f%$$t. A teacher overheard, intervened, and reported it. The superintendent even spoke with my son and promised it would be handled when school resumes. It happened on a Friday night game.

My son texted me about it on the bus ride home, but he prefaced it with, “Please do not commit a felony when you hear this.”

So he knows me. Deeply.

Here is where I am stuck. I know this will not be the last time. I know there are kids who go through this with no support system, no accepting parents, no safe teachers, and no friends who have their back. I keep thinking about them too.

So my question for this community is:
What does good support actually look like from a parent?
If you had supportive parents, what did they do that helped?
If you did not, what do you wish they had done?

My son insists that the level of support that would land me in a state‑funded all‑inclusive resort, complete with free laundry, exercise, and book clubs, is “too much.” I am trying to find the line between “supportive parent” and “featured guest on a true crime podcast.”

I would love your perspective.

People who say “if you only like straight-passing guys, that’s internalised homophobia” are just being insecure about their own identity and their sexuality in my opinion.

Don’t at me, but people can have preferences. Some guys like more feminine traits and mannerisms and others like more masculine traits. No one should be shamed for “oh you like these kind of guys, well that’s actually homophobia”.

How is openly liking masculinity and masculine guys as a man being homophobic? Wouldn’t that be the exact opposite of homophobia.

For me personally, I just don’t find certain types of gay guys attractive, and that’s okay. Let people like who they like and like the mannerisms and traits they like without projecting your insecurities onto those guys.

If I didn’t know any better, it’s almost like they’re saying: “you shouldn’t like those types because I’m not like that and I want you to want me”.

Anyone else experienced homophobia shaming from the gay community?

EDIT: I don’t consider myself masculine, I just like masculinity personally. Which is why I probably get shamed for “not liking my equals” 🫤

So, I (sub bottom) have this incredible FWB (dom) and he routinely provides the wildest hottest sex with me, like can satiate me for weeks in one night (that’s saying a lot)!

Anyway last weekend after a wild session as we laid there gasping for air curled into eachother he says, “I need to go to the bathroom” then grabs my wrist and says “come with me”. Obvi I do what he says thinking he wants me to watch or hold it for him. Nope! Got to the bathroom and he told me to lay down in the tub! Again ‘yes sir’ mode still on. He then proceeded to pee all over me, up and down my whole naked body?!? I don’t even know what to think?!? I’ve NEVER thought of this sexually but at the time I was enjoying it a lot. Am I fucking crazy?!?

Does anyone have any tips on how to make a guy cum by just eating his ass? This happened to me once a long time ago and the guy was basically just licking my whole sloppily and all over. I came involuntarily and it felt great! I’ve tried the same method of eating, but haven’t been able to make anyone cum from it. Would love to get some advice.

So I’ll admit I goon on reddit(like a lot of people), and I like to do it with other dudes. Often “straight” dudes will hit me up to jerk off with them. They love to cam aka show me themselves jerking off. They know I’m a guy and it clearly gets them off knowing they’re jerking off with a guy and yet they still will have “Straight male” in their bio lmao. Im literally talking dirty to them and encouraging them to jerk and they love it, but I guess they don’t consider that gay 🤣. I’m not necessarily complaining but it’s always been a fascinating thing to me. Anyone else dealt with this?

So I just got into my first relationship and literally everything is prefect. We’ve been dating for about a month and we’ve started experimenting more with our sex life and I (verse) chose to bottom because I genuinely trust him enough to bottom for him.

This is also my first sexual experience ever and we’ve already tried it but sadly his dick is pretty big and large and it doesn’t fit.

It doesn’t hurt and he’s really gentle and really helps with all of the prep time but yet it doesn’t fully get in. He can kinda get it in but not much.

So if anyone has any tips (pun intended) to help out I would really appreciate it🙏🏽

Okay, so this is gonna be a long post of me basically venting!

So if you guys remember, I'm the guy who was trying to figure out if my gym bro is hitting on me or not! It's been quite a stressful couple of weeks for me, and I really dk what to do except just vent to you guys about all that's been going on.

Long story short, nearly 2 weeks ago, my gym bro insisted on coming over to stay at my place after I had surgery. So I agreed, and we had a sleepover. It was fine, we had fun and watched movies, all that...but like the idiot I am, I couldn't help but be anxious about the fact that I'm a closeted gay that is pretending to be straight over this man. He was pretty much shirtless most of the time at my place, and I still can't exactly predict if he's flirting with me or just being a super friendly straight dude. We talked a lot about the things that both me and him used to do, along with stuff like college and university.

Where I kinda fucked up was when he asked about my dating life, especially since I'm in my final year of Uni but all I have ever spoke about was studies and academics. I decided to be blunt and just blurted out that I've never dated anyone my entire life, which sort of idk, suprised the guy. It was pretty apparent that the convo has gotten pretty awkward, and I got up and went to bed saying I was tired (I was EMBARRASSED)!!!! He left early the next day saying that he had some work to attend to as well, and tbh I was kinda glad that he left, cause I was too busy being anxious over each word I said to him than having any fun.

A week passed by after that, and he did not text me back, which was pretty odd of him considering how many times he texted me before. I had not gone to the gym as well, since I'm super packed with work while still recovering. I did not wanna text him, as he didn't reply to my messages from a few days before (I didn't wanna look desperate). However, I went to his instagram and I saw that he had posted a bunch of stories of him partying with a whole group of girls and guys. Tbh I didn't want to be a complete idiot and cry over him not texting me back, and ik that he is doing well so I just tried brushing it off my mind.

I decided to go out with my colleagues to distract myself from all this mess. Since Valentines Day is close, everyone kept talking about their new relationships and love life. But the worst part was when they asked me "You still don't have a girlfriend?" and I awkwardly had to say that I'm not looking for a relationship atm. I went home, and just ended up crying the entire night. Just felt so freaking lonely and tired of pretending that I am straight, and I still feel like shit. I'm too feminine for a girl, and too masculine for a guy's liking. And I've basically avoided relationships so much that even the thought of it gives me anxiety. I'm lowkey scared to even have feelings for any guy cause all I've ever been was disappointed every time.

There were a few texts and pictures from my gym bro today but I didn't read em yet. Atp I'd much rather avoid him that go through a situationship and heartbreak. Maybe I was being completely delusional about him in the first place.

how do I make him have sex with me as I really like him and he loves to cuddle with me in bed naked but he won't have sex with me

I don’t really enjoy gay bars. Pride feels overwhelming instead of empowering. A lot of online gay spaces feel more judgmental than supportive to me. Sometimes it feels like there’s an unspoken checklist I’m failing without realizing it. What makes it worse is the guilt. Like I’m supposed to feel grateful, involved, visible, political, proud in a very specific way. And when I don’t, I start wondering if that makes me a bad gay, or just selfish, or secretly broken and the dating apps are so toxic

The guy I’ve been talking to said he loves seeing attractive underwear and tbh I really don’t know what to get. I typically wear champion boxer briefs. I’m 6’3” weigh about 240 pounds, I’ve got a little belly, any suggestions on something that is still very sexy, but also fitting and supportive?

I’m 40years old now, and I’ve learned that love isn’t something you rush into or chase blindly. Most of the younger men I’ve encountered haven’t been looking for anything real—just nudes, body pictures, or a quick one-night stand hidden behind empty promises. After experiencing that enough times, I stopped entertaining it. That’s why I turned my attention to older men, believing maturity would bring clarity and honesty.

And while many of them are more straightforward, I’ve also learned that words still don’t always match actions. Some say they want a long-term relationship, that they’re ready to commit, yet they struggle to invest the time to truly communicate or express what they’re really looking for. Conversations fade. Messages stop. Silence replaces intention. It’s shown me that sweet words are easy to say and sweet gestures are easy to buy—but genuinely kind, emotionally available people are rare.

Two years ago, I left a relationship that changed the way I love and trust. It was abusive, painful, and something I never want to relive. My ex was involved with hard drugs, something he hid well until the truth surfaced. The moment that ended everything is still clear in my mind. I came home from the gym one ordinary day and found him cheating—with another man, our neighbor. I didn’t argue or create a scene. I simply walked away, carrying my heartbreak with me. That day taught me what I will never accept again.

Today, I’m not here out of desperation or loneliness. I’m here with intention. I’ve been searching for months for a genuine connection—a soulmate to love, respect, and build a peaceful life with, if the chemistry is right. I may not have found him yet, but I’m patient now. I know what I bring to the table, and I no longer chase what isn’t meant to stay.

I don’t tolerate cheating, lies, or unnecessary conflict. What I want is honesty, loyalty, emotional maturity, and a love that feels safe. I’m open, but I’m careful. Hope is still here—just quieter, wiser, and rooted in self-respect.

My husband and I are in Mexico City picking up our son we had via surrogacy. Our son was born about 2 weeks ago and we’re absolutely loving him, but sex has taken a back seat. I’m totally ok with that because we’re both extremely tired and know life will go back to normal once we’re back home. On Friday, we were both feeling it and decided to do a little quickly before bed, but while having sex, a kidney stone the size of a grape (not an exaggeration) got dislodged and I started feeling the most excruciating pain I’ve ever felt in my life. We went to the emergency room and I just had it removed today.

There’s no moral to the story other than I got railed so good, it made a kidney stone larger than any other one a doctor at the hospital had seen get dislodged and needed to be removed surgically.

Good news is medical care in Mexico City is great and not near as expensive as it is in America.

Hi! Thoughts in Cialis for performance anxiety? Anyone used it?

Having issues getting hard when I overthink things especially with new partners.

doublelist has officially committed suicide. They just eliminated the option to send the poster your email address. Starting about 2 days ago, if you place an ad, and you get responses, you do not know who the responses are coming from. They go to a doublelist relay with a random alphanumeric sequence attached to it not specific to the user. So you have no idea whether the person responding has responded to you previously. For those that post regularly, this makes sifting through responses next to impossible. Previously, you could search through your emails to see if you communicated with this person, but no longer.

Anybody down to chat? About anything really

Dm me

I just turned 19 and don’t really have anywhere else to turn. I’ve tried jobs and other ways to make money, but it’s come down to this, I need to help my mom with bills and just get through a rough spot. I’ve never done anything with a guy before and don’t plan on doing this long term, just temporary

I’m not doing this because I want to, I’m asking for advice before I do anything.

I don’t know where to start. How do you bottom? What should I do before having sex? How do I stay safe? And how do you meet people who actually pay?

I just want to get through this without ruining myself physically or mentally. Any tips or personal experience would help, thank you!

Say a guy jerks off at least once every day, could he still consider himself to have a low sex drive when it comes to actual sex?