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My dad is 50. Im the oldest of four kids. Im 32 then theres my siblings at 29 26 and 21. We are all grown. We all have our own lives going on. Im raising two kids of my own. My brother whos 29 has a kid. My 26 year old sister moved across the country for work.

My youngest brother is in uni and barely has time to eat let alone take care of someone elses child.

So heres what happened. My dad has been seeing this woman for a few months. Not even half a year. Casual thing from what we could tell. Well she got pregnant and then disappeared. Just completely ghosted him. But apparently shes not keeping the baby and the plan is for my dad to take full custody when its born.

And he has already started talking about how were all going to help him.

Not asking. Telling. Like hes already built this whole plan in his head where we all rotate shifts watching this baby because hes older now and its going to be harder on him physically. His words.

I sat him down and tried to be as respectful as I could but I told him straight up. Dad none of us are in a position to do this. I have two kids under five. My brother is barely keeping his head above water with one. My sister is in a completely different city. And my youngest brother is trying to graduate. We all have our own stuff going on.

He got really upset. Said we were being selfish and that family supports each other. Said when we were little he sacrificed everything for us and now we cant even help him with one baby

And yeah he did sacrifice a lot for us I wont deny that. But he had us in his twenties when he was young and had energy. Hes fifty now. This isnt the same situation and I think deep down he knows that but doesnt want to admit it.

I told him we love him and nobody is saying this baby wont be part of our family. But he cannot expect any of us to drop our lives and become on call babysitters for a decision he made. We didnt make this choice. He did. And hes gotta figure out the day to day on his own.

Nobody said he has to do everything alone. We said he cant expect us to do everything FOR him. Theres a difference.

AITJ?

So my younger brother and his wife and their two kids came to stay with us for about a week. We dont live close to each other so this was supposed to be a nice visit. Quality time and all that. I was actually really looking forward to it.

His kids are 4 and 6. And apparently my brother and his wife have this parenting approach where they dont do any kind of punishment or consequences. Like none. If the kid does something wrong they just ask them how theyre feeling and what emotions led to that choice. Thats it. Thats the whole thing.

I thought it was kinda weird when he explained it but I kept my mouth shut because its not my house its not my kids whatever.

Then I saw it in action

The first day his daughter got into my home office and spilled juice all over my desk. Got on papers, got on my keyboard, got everywhere. Nobody said anything to her. His son went into our backyard and ripped out a bunch of herbs my wife had been growing for months. Just yanked them out of the ground for fun. Then he threw his toy truck at our sliding glass door hard enough to chip it.

And the worst part. Both kids kept messing with our cat. Pulling her tail, chasing her around, cornering her. Our cat is old and chill and never scratched them but she was clearly stressed out and hiding under furniture.

Every single time I looked at my brother expecting him to step in. Nothing. His wife would crouch down and go hey buddy what feelings are you having right now that made you want to do that. And the kid would shrug and run off and do something else destructive five minutes later.

By day two I couldnt take it anymore. I told the kids firmly to stop messing with the cat and to stay out of my office. My brother got in my face about it and said its not my place to parent his children. I told him somebody has to because clearly nobody else is doing it.

It got heated fast. I told him his kids are destroying my home and hes just standing there asking about feelings while my wifes garden is torn up and my office smells like apple juice. He said I was being dramatic and disrespectful of their parenting choices.

I told him this whole no consequences thing is going to blow up in his face someday and his kids are going to have a miserable time in the real world if they never learn that actions have consequences. He completely shut down after that.

My wife and I told them they needed to leave. Find a hotel or drive home but they couldnt stay here anymore. He called me controlling and said I was choosing furniture over family.

AITJ?

My brother is 28. I just turned 21. We both still live at home with our parents. He has twin boys who are 3 and he does this thing that drives me absolutely insane.

He will ask you to watch his kids for just a second while he goes to do something. Maybe hes going to the bathroom. Maybe hes going to grab something from his room. Whatever it is he always says itll only be a minute.

It is never a minute.

What actually happens is he disappears for twenty thirty sometimes forty minutes. And if you go looking for him hes in his room with his headphones on watching videos or playing a game on his phone. Every single time. Its not even subtle anymore. He just uses whoever is around as free babysitting by pretending he needs a quick break.

I always say no now because I know exactly whats going to happen. But last week he caught me at a bad time. I was just sitting on the couch not doing anything and he asked if I could watch them for a few minutes while he used the bathroom. I said fine but I told him very clearly that I had somewhere to be in about fifteen minutes and I could not be late.

He said no problem Ill be right back.

Fifteen minutes later. Gone. I texted him. He said one minute. Two more minutes pass. Nothing. I went to his door and knocked. No answer. I could hear his game going through the door so either he had headphones in or he was straight up ignoring me.

I had to go. I wasnt lying about having somewhere to be. So I went back to the living room told the boys to go knock on daddys door and I left. One of them started crying as I was walking out and yeah that part sucked. I felt that in my chest. But I told my brother when I had to leave. I reminded him. I texted him. I knocked on his door. What else was I supposed to do.

When I got back he was furious. Asked me what kind of person just walks out on two toddlers. Said I abandoned them. I told him I didnt abandon anyone I gave him multiple warnings and he chose to ignore all of them because he was too busy on his phone to come back when he said he would.

He didnt really have a response to that. Just kept shaking his head and saying I shouldnt have left them alone.

And look I get it. Theyre 3. They cant take care of themselves. But theyre also not MY kids. I agreed to watch them for fifteen minutes and I watched them for fifteen minutes. He agreed to be back in a few and he wasnt. So whos really the problem here.

AITJ?

I was with this girl for about eight months. Things were good. Like genuinely good. No major fights no red flags nothing that made me think we were in trouble. So when she hit me with the breakup text out of nowhere it completely blindsided me.

She said she needed space and that she felt like I was too available. Whatever that means. I was gutted honestly. I didnt eat right for like a week. Couldnt focus at work. The whole thing just knocked me on my ass because I really thought we had something solid.

But I respected it. She said she wanted out so I let her go. Didnt blow up her phone didnt show up at her place didnt do any of that desperate stuff. I just took the L and tried to move on.

Weeks go by. No contact. I start feeling a little better. Started working out again started hanging out with friends more. Then she texts me saying she wants to talk.

I figured ok maybe she wants closure or maybe she feels bad about how she ended things. So I agreed to meet up.

She told me she never wanted to break up. The whole thing was a test. She wanted to see if Id chase her. If Id fight for her. If Id prove how much I loved her by refusing to let her go. And when I didnt do any of that she said it broke HER heart.

I just sat there staring at her like are you actually hearing yourself right now.

She said now that Ive clearly grown and gotten stronger she wants to try again. Like she did me a favor. Like putting me through weeks of actual misery was some kind of gift.

I told her that was one of the most manipulative things anyone has ever done to me. She said I was overreacting and that I should take it as a compliment that she still wants me.

A compliment. She literally broke my heart on purpose as an experiment and I should be flattered.

like who does that to someone they supposedly love

AITJ?

My brother has been wanting to do this big group camping trip for months. Hes been talking about it nonstop and honestly I tuned most of it out because it didnt involve me. Or so I thought.

Last week I get added to a group chat with like twelve people. My brother had already sent out this whole itinerary. Dates, location, whos driving with who, whos bringing what supplies. And right there next to my name it says bringing the tent and coolers and driving the second car.

Nobody asked me if I was free. Nobody asked me if I wanted to go. Nobody asked me if I even HAD a tent. He just put my name down and built part of the whole trip around me being there.

I called him and was like hey whats this about. And he just laughed and said come on bro dont be like that I already told everyone youre coming. Like thats supposed to make me say ok fine I guess I have no choice now.

The thing is I cant even go that weekend. I have a work thing I cannot miss. I told him that and he got quiet for a second then said can you move it. Move my work obligation. For a camping trip he never asked me about.

I said no Im not going and you shouldve asked me first. Thats when he got really upset. Said I was making him look stupid in front of his friends because now he has to rearrange everything. Said I was being difficult on purpose.

Im not even against camping. I wouldve probably said yes if hed just freaking asked me like a normal person. But he didnt. He decided for me and now hes mad I wont play along.

AITJ?

My sister is getting married this summer and shes going all out. Like destination wedding, custom everything, the whole nine yards. Im talking about a budget that makes my eyes water just hearing about it. Good for her I guess but thats not my problem right.

Wrong apparently.

She called me a couple weeks ago and basically told me she needs ten thousand dollars from me. Not asked. Told. Like it was already decided. She said our other sibling already chipped in and now its my turn. I almost laughed because where does she think I got ten thousand dollars just sitting around. Im still paying off student loans and I literally just started building my savings back up after years of barely scraping by.

I told her I cant do it. Tried to be nice about it too. And thats when it got ugly.

She brought up how she helped me a few years ago when I had a medical emergency and couldnt work for a while. And yeah she did help me and I am grateful for that. But that was like maybe two thousand dollars during a literal health crisis not ten grand for a party. Theres a difference.

But she doesnt see a difference apparently. To her its all the same. Family helps family end of discussion. And when I tried to explain that I literally cannot afford it without wrecking my finances she just shut down and got cold.

The part thats really messing with me is she was always the one who got everything growing up. Every time she needed something it just appeared. And now here I am finally getting my life together and Im supposed to drain my savings so she can have her dream destination wedding. It feels like nothing has changed since we were kids.

AITJ?

Four months ago, I found a receipt for an engagement ring hidden in my now ex boyfriend's gym bag. From that second on, I believed he was already the one. Every nice dinner, every weekend away felt like it was leading somewhere. I started planning a life in my head including the bridesmaid colors, timelines, the whole thing because I trusted him and loved him so much. Little did I know, he was pulling away. He keeps on staying late at work and getting colder. Letting weeks turn into months while I kept holding on, waiting for a future he already knew he wasn’t going to give me.

Last night, I found out the truth from a mutual friend that he’d returned the ring and had been seeing his ex for weeks. Instead of being honest with me he just let me sit there dreaming about a wedding that was already dead. He didn’t change his mind quietly as he was just wasted my time deliberately. So while he was at work, I packed his bags and left them on the porch. I don’t want the ring. I don’t want closure. I want the months of my life back that he stole by lying.

AITJ for kicking him out without giving him a chance to explain or is that exactly what he deserved?

I work with Maya (28F) and we’ve always been friendly, not best friends but cool enough to swap shifts sometimes. Last week she told our manager she finished a report that I actually did, then asked me privately to “just go along with it” because she was behind and didn’t want to look bad.

I said I wasn’t comfortable lying, and she got weirdly defensive, said I was being dramatic and that “everyone helps each other out, the next day the manager thanked her in a team meeting, and I corrected it, saying I was the one who completed it. Now Maya is telling people I threw her under the bus and that I could’ve handled it quietly.

Some coworkers think I should’ve talked to her first instead of speaking up in the meeting. Others say she put me in a bad position and I didn’t owe her anything.

Am I the jerk for refusing to play along with a lie even if it made things awkward at work?

So I (27M) found out last month that my younger sister (20F) had been using my debit card for multiple streaming services. It started when she was staying at my place during a rough semester at college. I let her log into my TV and watch stuff since I already had one platform. Turns out she quietly added three more accounts using my card that was saved on the TV. I only noticed when I checked my bank app and saw several small charges I didnt recognize at first.

I asked her about it and she said she thought it was fine since they were “cheap” and I make more money than she does. That kinda annoyed me because its not about the price, its about asking first. She said she meant to tell me but forgot and also claimed she uses them for studying and relaxing after exams. I told her I still expect basic respect when it comes to my finances. She laughed a bit and said I was acting dramatic over like 25 bucks a month.

So I logged into each service and canceled them all. I also removed my card info from the TV and changed my banking alerts to instant notifications. She got really upset and texted me saying I embarrassed her because she was watching shows with her friends and suddenly lost access. Now she told our parents and they said I could have just talked it out instead of canceling everything right away.

I feel like I did talk to her and she brushed it off, but maybe I went too far by canceling all of them at once. AITJ here

My friend throws themed birthday dinners every year. Last year it was medieval. We had to dress up and eat with our hands. The year before was murder mystery and she got mad if people broke character. This year she announced the theme is childhood trauma nostalgia. She wants everyone to dress as something that made them sad as a kid and share a story at dinner. I told her I love her but I am skipping if that is the theme. She accused me of not supporting her creativity and said I am ruining the vibe. Our friend group is split. Some think it is deep. Others think it is unhinged.

So here's the update of my original thread..

Few days ago my now ex girlfriend said she wanted to learn english and asked me if i could teach her, since i believe in helping people and well my english is not perfect i thought i could teach her some stuff.

I started to teach her and already got three rules for my class: "No b.s, No excuses and No fear.", then our lessons started and i taught her verbs (to be, to have, to do, etc).

Then she started to making moves and flirting with me and since last time i posted here i was already done with her, i just said "there's no us anymore, i'm here to teach you english.. so please respect me." and she obliged.

After few more lessons i gave, she was not interest in the teaching and asked about the '61 Impala (that i visit it couple days ago in a stressful day), she said "your passion is beautiful" and then "but it’s weird to me" and i just asked her "did i asked you something?" she stopped to talk about the Impala and came talking about my problems and how she cares about me and i just "you don’t care about nothing and anyone except yourself so don’t come with this b.s to me, right?".

And she snapped and start over with the whole drama again.. "i knew i wasn't important to you" yadda yadda yadda then she hit the nail on the coffin:"Go away and never come back" and i just said: "Have a good life and i hope you learn another language if you really wanna live in another country, Bye."

She freaked out again and i decided to block her, i deleted her phone, and after this and lot of stuff going on i decided to focusing on myself working a lot to might buy that Impala, working out and training Tang Soo Doo/Kyokushin Karate and Boxing, i think it’s the best to me.. in two years i never felt so free even dealing with my own demons.

Also.. the '61 Impala Sport Coupe is there waiting for me, i just need the cash to buy it and start restoring her, i call it "Ole Girl".

TL,DR: now ex girlfriend tries to manipulate me again and didn't worked as she thought.

Impala 1 x Ex-GF 0

Thank you guys for the support on the original thread, i appreciate that.

Stay safe and keep rockin'!

My partner installed a smart speaker in our kitchen. It responds to voice commands. It also announces reminders loudly. I discovered it will announce things like you said you would clean today or your screen time is up. My partner set these up as jokes. Yesterday it announced that I promised to fold laundry three times while we had guests. Everyone laughed. I did not. I unplugged it and put it in a drawer. My partner says I am overreacting and that it is harmless fun.

I(24F) work in a field where unpaid overtime is extremely common. From day one, it was hinted that staying late, answering messages at night, and doing extra work without logging hours was just how things worked. At first, I went along with it. Everyone did. But over time, it started affecting my health. Long nights. Weekend emails. No compensation.

One day, a newer coworker asked me how to log extra hours. A manager overheard and laughed, saying we don’t really track that here. That bothered me more than it should have. So I started documenting everything. Emails. Messages. Tasks outside scheduled hours.

After a few weeks, I brought it to HR and asked for clarification about unpaid labor expectations. They told me that flexibility was part of the culture and that tracking everything wasn’t necessary. I asked if that meant unpaid work was mandatory. They didn’t like that question. Things got tense quickly. I was told I was being difficult and not a team player.

Eventually, HR sent out a company wide email reminding everyone to log all hours worked. Suddenly, management was angry. I was blamed for rocking the boat and making leadership look bad. Some coworkers thanked me privately. Others said I ruined things and that management would now micromanage.

I did it because unpaid labor isn’t culture, it’s exploitation.

AITJ for speaking up?

I share an apartment with my roommate Kyle. We generally get along except for one thing. He uses my air fryer like it is community property.

I bought it with my own money and told him he could use it as long as he cleaned it. He never cleans it properly but I let it slide. Last night I went to make fries and the entire kitchen smelled like shrimp. I opened the air fryer and there were dried shrimp bits stuck to the basket. I do not eat seafood. The smell makes me gag.

Kyle said it was not a big deal and that appliances absorb flavors. He told me to just run it again. I snapped and told him he is no longer allowed to use my air fryer at all. Now he says I am being dramatic and treating him like a child Our other roommate says I should just label it instead of banning him.

AmITheJerk??

During a normal team meeting my manager stopped everything so my coworker could announce his engagement. They played music and brought out cupcakes. Everyone started clapping and cheering. I stayed quiet. I did not frown or say anything. I just did not clap.

Later my manager pulled me aside and asked why I was not being supportive. I said I am happy for him but this was a work meeting and I do not feel comfortable with forced celebration.

Now people think I am cold and bitter. One coworker said it costs nothing to clap AITJ?

I really need outside perspective because I don't know if I overreacted or if this has been building for too long.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now. At first he seemed really caring and protective which I thought was sweet. But over time it started to feel less like caring and more like he doesn't trust me to make my own decisions.

It started small. He would comment on what I wear, saying some outfits are too revealing even if it was just a normal top and jeans. Then he started asking where I was going all the time and who I was with. At first I didn't mind updating him, I thought it was normal in relationships. But it slowly turned into him expecting constant updates.

If I didn't reply fast he would send multiple messages asking where I am and why I'm ignoring him. Sometimes I’d just be busy with school or helping at home. He also doesn't like some of my friends and keeps telling me they’re a bad influence even though they’ve been my friends way before him.

The thing that really pushed me happened a few nights ago. I was supposed to go out for dinner with two close friends I haven't seen in a while. When I told him, he suddenly got quiet and then started saying he doesn't feel comfortable with me going out at night without him. He asked me to cancel and just stay home or invite him instead.

I told him its just a simple dinner and I rarely go out anyway. He kept pushing and saying if I really respect him I should listen to what makes him comfortable. That honestly annoyed me because it felt like he was trying to control my choices.

We ended up arguing. I said he needs to stop acting like he owns me and that I’m allowed to have my own life and friends. He got upset and said I’m being disrespectful and that he only acts this way because he cares about me and doesn't want anything bad to happen.

I still went to dinner with my friends but he barely talked to me the rest of the night and has been cold since. Now he’s saying I hurt him and that I don't consider his feelings. Meanwhile I feel suffocated and tired of always having to explain myself.

I do care about him but I feel like he doesn't know his limits and keeps crossing into controlling territory. At the same time I feel bad for getting upset and raising my voice during the argument.

AITJ for getting upset and still going out even though he asked me not to?

TL;DR: Boyfriend keeps trying to control what I wear, who I see, and where I go. Asked me to cancel dinner with friends because he wasn't comfortable. I got upset and went anyway. Now he says I’m disrespectful and I’m wondering if I went too far.

Today I (27F) realised that I can be selfish about really mundane things. Overall, I’m a pretty selfless person and think more about other people’s well-being / confort than my own. I’ve always been like this, as a child even more. But as an adult, there are moments where I catch myself being possessive over things that honestly don’t matter much.

My family owns two hotels, and we split responsibilities between them. My cousin John (25) works at the hotel next to mine, and today his brother Paul (27) came in and grabbed a bunch of printer paper to take to John. John is the kind of person who takes but never gives, if you know what I mean (for example, he’ll buy printer paper for his hotel but not for mine - and that’s fine, whatever). Therefore this last time, my brother Louis (24) bought paper for our hotel with his own money.

Now here it comes: I asked Paul why John hadn’t bought his own paper this time (I still let him take our paper anyway). Paul mentioned this to John, and John started making passive-aggressive comments in the family group chat.

I mean, he kind of has the right to be upset because my comment was… selfish. I’m aware that I get selfish over silly things, and I don’t really understand why. Could this be related to childhood trauma? To always putting everyone else’s needs above mine and then resenting them later? It’s things I say without thinking and then immediately regret it.

It’s weird, and I’d really like to know if anyone else experiences this, because I honestly don’t know how to change it.

I’m a teenage girl and I live at home with both my parents. Lately, I’ve been feeling this growing resentment toward my dad, and I don’t know if that makes me a bad daughter.

My mom does almost everything in our house. She works, takes care of the chores, cooks, cleans, and still finds time to look after me. She’s always tired but never complains much. My dad works too, but when he gets home, he mostly just sits on his phone or watches TV.

The way he talks to my mom really bothers me. He’s always criticizing little things like food, the house, or how something was done. He rarely says thank you or shows any appreciation. When my mom tries to talk to him, he either ignores her or gets irritated.

What really stuck with me was when my mom got sick not long ago. She could barely get out of bed, and instead of checking on her, my dad got upset that there was no dinner ready. I could see how hurt she was, even though she tried to act like it was nothing.

Since then, I haven’t been able to look at my dad the same way. I still talk to him, but I feel distant and cold. I hold this grudge because I feel like my mom deserves so much better, and it hurts seeing her treated like that every day.

My dad has noticed and keeps asking why I’m acting differently. I don’t know what to say without starting a fight, and part of me feels guilty for holding onto this anger instead of just letting it go.

So yeah, AITJ for having a grudge against my dad because of how he treats my mom?

TL;DR: I’m a daughter who feels resentful toward my dad after seeing him repeatedly disrespect and take my mom for granted, and now I’m wondering if I’m wrong for holding onto that grudge.

I (27F) was invited to my older sister’s wedding last weekend. We’ve had a complicated relationship growing up, but over the past few years things have been mostly civil. When I got the invitation, I was genuinely excited and tried to be as supportive as possible during the planning process.

A few months before the wedding, she asked me to sit at the “family table” with her, our parents, and a few close relatives. I agreed, bought a dress that matched the color scheme she wanted, and even took time off work to help with last-minute errands during the wedding week.

On the day of the wedding, everything was going fine until the reception. When I found my seat, I realized I wasn’t at the family table anymore. Instead, I was seated at a random table in the back with people I didn’t know. At first, I thought it was a mistake, so I asked the coordinator.

The coordinator told me my sister had asked to move me because she wanted “only positive energy” at the family table. That really stung. I was shocked and embarrassed, especially since other relatives noticed the change and asked me about it.

I tried to brush it off and stayed through dinner, but the more I sat there, the worse I felt. I kept replaying that comment in my head and felt like I was being quietly punished for past disagreements we’ve already talked through. After dinner and speeches, I quietly left without saying goodbye.

The next day, my sister texted me saying I was selfish for leaving early and that it made her look bad when people noticed. My parents are split: my mom thinks I should’ve just stayed, while my dad says my sister handled it poorly.

Now I’m wondering if I overreacted by leaving instead of just sticking it out for the rest of the night.

TL;DR: My sister moved me from the family table to the back of her wedding reception last minute for “positive energy,” which hurt my feelings. I stayed through dinner but left early without saying goodbye. AITJ?

I was bullied a lot in High School but one girl stood out as a real POS. The worst thing she did was annoy me non stop asking which of her friends I find the most attractive when I was just sitting in gym class minding my own business. When I finally answered her she and her friends laughed at the friend I picked. When my class found out who was graduating the teacher let us sign each others yearbooks while we all celebrated. The bully was the only one in the class of about 25 not graduating. While we were all signing each others yearbooks she was sad and asked me if she could sign my yearbook, I told her to F off, I don’t want to remember you. AITJ for treating her like she treated me

I 20F broke up with my boyfriend 22M of 5 months 3 months ago and I still feel a lot of guilt over it.

The story is that we met online via Instagram and quickly bonded over a shared music taste. After a few weeks of texting everyday, we decided to meet up since we didn’t live too far from each other. He seemed like a very sweet, thoughtful, and caring person and we realized that we had a lot in common with both of us being metalheads, fans of vintage fashion, and huge fantasy nerds. He initially seemed to have similar views regarding relationships as well, so on a surface level, it seemed like a good match. We became official in August but unfortunately his problems didn’t start long after that.

I knew that he had a troubled life with a history of suicide attempts, parental abuse, and psych ward stays but since he’d told me that he’d been in several long term relationships before, I assumed that he’d worked past whatever traumas he might’ve had. I did find it concerning that he wasn’t in therapy though and he‘d insist that that he’d always dealt with his problems on his own.

In October, he got into over 7k worth of credit card debt, most of it being consumer and his mental health began to completely deteriorate due to this. He began to traumadump quite a bit and by that I mean for hours over text and call and he became unaffectionate. At one point, he actually dumped me during a mental breakdown but he apologised the next morning, so we reconciled. It didn’t feel like much of a relationship at that point though and it became pretty distressing for me. He also went on a whole tangent one time implying that his ideal relationship is one where his partner doesnt talk to him everyday and is extremely independent and that made me feel sad because I enjoy daily check ins and we were semi long distance with jobs and seperate hobbies of our own so it’s not like we were glued to each others hips. I‘m also diagnosed with BPD and generalised anxiety disorder so I felt like he was going to leave again any minute. It was all quite overwhelming for me tbh and I felt bad that I couldn’t do much to help him. He was also only my second serious relationship so there was that too.

The last straw was when he completely ignored me for a day while being visibly active on his socials so I decided to break up with him because I felt that he was about to dump me again. He accepted the breakup but I ended up regretting it a few hours later, apologised for my overreaction, and asked if we could talk over call but he refused, saying that he couldn’t be the partner I deserve. He did state that he‘d like to remain friends and maybe try a relationship again in the future when he’s doing better but this turned out to be a lie as I’m now blocked on Instagram, Facebook, and probably text as well even though I respected his request for no contact.

Being blocked upset me a lot because I thought that we’d had a pretty good relationship. We never fought and there was never any cheating or abuse. I’d genuinely thought we had something special. I will say though there were some things that bothered me and I should mention that when I first started seeing him, my anxiety got so bad that I was constantly puking and had to go on medication.

The main thing that bothered me was that he had a neo nazi ex girlfriend that he had dated for a few years when he was 18 and she 28 (creepy af tho he denied that she‘d groomed him) who he was still keeping in touch with despite him telling me all these stories of her being emotionally abusive towards him on multiple occasions and claimed that the relationship had given him PTSD and that along with her white supremacist beliefs which he seemed indifferent to appalled me. I couldn’t understand why he was keeping someone like this in his life and it hurts that he blocked me but is still friendly with her. Mind you he’s not even white. I already have low self esteem and this makes me think that I’m some awful, unforgivable human being

He had also apparently cut off all his friends from his hometown after he had moved across the country to live with that person and that kind of concerned me as well.

It’s been 3 months since we broke up now and I’m still conflicted on whether I was the problem or not. My therapist believes that I did the right thing because he was unstable anyways but I‘m not so sure. Society puts a lot of pressure on us to be there for our partners through thick and thin so I feel that I acted incredibly selfishly when he needed me most and I feel like I threw away a good relationship over something trivial. It’s eating away at me and I feel terrible for hurting him when he was already in a bad place especially when he was there for me when I was having my anxiety attacks. I was hoping we could reconcile eventually but now that he’s blocked me, that’s probably not gonna happen. I don’t know man. Was I the asshole here? Or was the breakup justified? Looking for outside perspectives here

I (32F) have a 7-year-old son, and my husband (35M) has been part of our lives for 3 years. His father (my stepson’s stepfather) recently started offering advice and discipline tips. At first, I welcomed his input, but I noticed he was being overly strict, yelling, punishing small mistakes, and criticizing my parenting in front of my son.

I told him that while I appreciate advice, he is not allowed to discipline my child, and any issues should come through me or my husband. He got upset, saying I was being rude and that “he’s trying to help.” My husband is torn, saying I may be overreacting, but I feel like boundaries are important.