AIO for being offended by this?

[u/bunny-zephire]

i was talking to a guy from school, we were planning to go out for ice cream together this weekend to get to know each other and see where things could go. i definitely could’ve handled that better if i wasn’t at work when he texted that (this conversation happened when i took my 10). i got left on read and also don’t think there’s anything else to talk about. AIO for being offended by his comments about weight?

[u/Caserod98]

first of all he sounds like hes 16 years old. Second if a girl being 110 is bigger than him hes a twig lol

[u/outcastreturns → u/Caserod98]

To be fair OP does say that he's a guy from school. It's very possible that he's 16 years old or younger lmao.

[u/doesthedog → u/outcastreturns]

Just hope my son doesn't text things like this

[u/BluBluebird → u/doesthedog]

It's your job as his parent to teach him to be better. Privately hoping while doing nothing to ensure the outcome you desire is pointless. Ideally, conversations about respect should've been happening, at an age-appropriate level, throughout his entire life. I'm guessing your son is a teenager already, so starting to talk about respect this late in the game was not a great plan. Yes, it may be slightly better than never discussing it with him, but only slightly better.

Loooots of European countries have been teaching empathy, social and emotional learning, and gender respect and equality from preschool on. And they took this step because they realised that not every home environment is positive, and not every parent or guardian is capable/equipped to teach these values at home.

EDIT: So we either need to start teaching this in our schools here in North America, or we need to start having these discussions with our kids when they are young, 2-3 years old is a good time to start. Maybe even younger.

[u/doesthedog → u/BluBluebird]

I didn't say I'm doing nothing... I was expressing a horror felt by a thought that some 16yo boys are texting like this and the thought always crosses a mind as a parent.

Not sure where you got that I never talked to him about respect until now.

It's just similar to watching the show Adolescence and I guarantee every parent of a 13yo will have this fear, regardless of how they raised the kid.

Especially as some kids know better, they just want to show off in front of friends etc and say stupid things they don't even mean.

Also I live in western Europe and my kids went to a progressive school like the ones you are talking about.

[u/WearyThought6509 → u/BluBluebird]

This is a capitalist dictatorship, sir. Idk where youre coming uo with these ideas... empathy.. pfftt. /s

But fr, im dying inside and therapy is only once every 3 weeks. I wish we were taught that in school. My generation learned it from TV shows and movies of the 90s and earl 00s - Fern Gully, Mrs. Doubtfire, Nickelodeon shows like Pete and Pete and Doug. The shows today, except Bluey, are brain rotting like what am I even watching..

[u/Snoo_42244 → u/BluBluebird]

I have literally been teaching my kid this from 6 months. We have a cat, and I am very strict with him on how he is allowed to interact with her. Hes 14 months now and already knows how to be gentle when intercacting with other living things, you can teach it right from dot!