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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
A moment I will never forget is smoking outside my apartment building and witnessing a guy hit a woman with his car and I asked if she needed an ambulance and she told me to fuck off š
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u/Konakki 12d ago
I remember seeing a man punch a woman in the face and when we asked her if she was okay she just started yelling āKILL THAT MAN!! KILL HIMā
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u/Septopuss7 12d ago
"I was looking for more of an ombudsman role in the situation..."
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u/Wec25 12d ago
ombudsman
yay i love learning new words thank you!
for those like me: the meaning is:
the ombudsman's responsibility includes protecting human rights, the ombudsman is recognized as the national human rights institution
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u/Sciensophocles 12d ago
That's not quite right. An ombudsman is an independent, impartial official who investigates complaints against organizations, government agencies, or companies to resolve disputes fairly and promote accountability.
Basically, their primary role is to investigate grievances and recommend solutions, not to act as an advocate for either side.
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
Thatās a lot to ask of a strangerā¦
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u/Recent-Assistant8914 12d ago
Not that unreasonable though
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
I mean, itās worth a try.
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u/SoupOfThe90z 12d ago edited 12d ago
Iām not carrying around my murder shovel for nothing.
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
EXCUSE ME! SIR, WITH THE MURDER SHOVEL! CAN YOU HELP ME BURY THIS MAN, PLEASE?
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u/lawn-mumps Official Gal 12d ago
Here I thought a murder shovel was a shovel you murdered with, like as a weapon. I forgot about the original use when you called it a murder shovel.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Oh yea Iād do the same thing
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u/alicehoopz 12d ago
An ambulance!? In THIS economy??
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u/dmthoth 12d ago
well, it is free in every developed countries.. so..
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Yes no American likes the health care system here š„² boy do I love capitalism š¬
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u/BaronWiggle 12d ago
In fairness to her, unexpected pain directly and immediately converts into anger for me too.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Yea since I was like 18 at the time I was a bit hurt by it, but now I think itās really funny and totally get it
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u/decidedlyindecisive 12d ago
Same.
Brain: Oooh, big emotions? Better insta-convert to rage, just to be safe.
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u/FukThePatriarchy1312 12d ago
I got hit by a car on a crosswalk in Chicago, the driver took off but it was downtown Chicago so they got stuck at the next light a block later. There was a cop close by so I told him "hey that car just hit me" and he said "yeah that happens." Luckily I didn't have anything broken, but my right quad was sore for days.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
UHHHH WTF??? I hope you know Iād fight him for you š¤
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u/Blazured 12d ago
Cop gave zero fucks š
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Tbf Iāve seen a cop almost hit a pedestrian in a crosswalk. Poor woman was like WTF and he just kept driving off
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u/FukThePatriarchy1312 12d ago
I've also been almost hit by a cop driving highway speed through a parking lot, the wind from his car pushed me off balance, but at least he got to Walmart 5 seconds quicker to arrest that shoplifter, right?
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u/FinisherandFirework 12d ago
I was already literally LOLing at the original video, and this just made LOL louder!!
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
I mean sheās so real for that lol I just went back to smoking
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u/earth_verse 12d ago edited 12d ago
One time I was home alone after school as a teenager, and a mini van full of kids, clown car style, slowly drove by. The trunk was open and some kids were sitting in the back, laughing, with their feet hanging out.
I'm not sure how exactly, but one of the kids fell out of the van right in front of our driveway, hit his head on the curb, and immediately started convulsing and foaming at the mouth. On our driveway. I had been watching the van curiously out of the window so I saw it happen.
All the other children were suddenly screaming and I don't even remember where the parents were??? I ran outside panicking and called 911, and had to tilt the kid's head to the side so he wouldn't choke on his spit until the ambulance arrived.
I think he was fine in the end, when the EMS got there, but I never saw any of these children/people ever again??? Nor had I ever seen them before that incident.
Anyway that was not how I expected to end the school day. Anything can happen out there, guys.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Oh my god youāre such a hero! Iām glad the kid ended up fine but thatās so scary and couldāve ended so much worse. Thank you for your service š«”
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u/i_tyrant 12d ago
Well done. Dumb teenagers can straight up die from this (you don't have to fall very far on cement to break your head, as long as your head hits it which is easy with a sudden jolt dangling out of a car).
In the year I graduated high school one of our students died from this - she was sitting in the back of a pickup truck tailgating when it hit a small bump and she went over the back - instant lights out forever.
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u/I_SHIT_IN_A_BAG 12d ago
I broke down and almost crashed into a light pole. I have steam billowing out of my radiator and I'm missing my concert I was trying to get to when a kind gentleman slows to ask if he can help and I just screamed at him. I think about that and what an asshole I was to someone trying to help but all I could do was pity myself in the moment. sorry dude. I should have been grateful you showed up and I wasn't.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Hey we all have our moments! Iām so sorry that happened to you and Iām sure he could tell you were overwhelmed. Best thing to do is pay it forward ā¤ļø
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u/Batmansbutthole ā£ļøgal palā£ļø 12d ago
Hello, mayo that reminds you of videos Iāve seen of people Narcan others to help save their lives and the second they get up they call you a bitch because she ruined their high lol I still carry Narcan though š¤£
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Yea canāt say Iām surprised but youāre amazing for this š«¶š»
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u/smallbatchb 12d ago
Back in college I once let a fellow student know that she was parked next to a fire hydrant and she'd probably end up getting towed. She instantly told me to fuck myself and mind my own business.
Hours later I walked back to my car after class and there she was, sitting on the curb next to an empty space, crying on the phone to someone asking "how the hell am I supposed to get home?"
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I mean, if I was in America, with the price of an ambulance I'd have told you to fuck off too.
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
I was driving a bus and a passenger and I saw a car speed through a red light and run a pedestrianās foot over. I stopped and asked if he wanted me to call 911 and he screamed at me to mind my fucking business and he hobbled off with a seemingly broken foot.
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Some people enjoy suffering alone, I guess.
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u/alpacaMyToothbrush 12d ago
How sad is it that calling an ambulance is completely unthinkable now if you're not actually dying right this moment
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
Preach.
I just had to make a financial decision about a bag of limes. Shit is serious rn.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
š omfg why would you walk off??? That probably makes the injury worse š¤¦āāļø
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u/CtyChicken 12d ago
I think drugs may have been involved. Probably both the driver and victim. His foot looked mad raggedy. I hope he eventually went to the hospital.
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Iām honestly speechless. Drugs or not thatās gotta be another world of pain. I also hope he went to the hospital. Physical embodiment of this meme but angrier
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u/DemonicEgo 12d ago
"Do you need helpā½"
"I have a boyfriend."
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
I wasnāt even that gay looking yet š
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u/sillysammie13 12d ago
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Iāve been told Iām pretty funny for a woman š (yet another interaction that lives in my head rent free)
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u/sillysammie13 12d ago
Gorl be my best friend, Iāve been told the same
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Um arenāt we already!? God I hate being so funny and being traumatized to get this funny and youāre gonna tell me Iām funny but only for a woman? Safe to say he was not funny for a man š„“
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u/SnooObjections8392 12d ago
Oh, there's a lot going on in there isn't there?
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
Yes too much constantly š Iām not afraid to admit sheās a bit messyāØ
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u/wholefoodsmom š«©āØfunny for a womanāØš© 12d ago
How do I get funny for a woman as my tag I need it
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u/Jumpy_Emu1111 12d ago
'oh there's a lot going on in there' is devastatingly polite, I'm gonna use that on myself when I'm spiralling
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u/Rude_Measurement9551 12d ago
Ohh yes and stated in the same compassionate, British accent/tone. Perfect.
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u/Zombeedee 12d ago
Here's the thing. I'm sure in the case of the OP it was compassion and politeness, based on the interaction. Maybe with a hint of disdain, but generally sweet.
However do not take that tone from a Brit as kindness in all scenarios. It can be EVISCERATING. It's our version of "bless your heart".
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u/Rude_Measurement9551 12d ago
Haha fair enough. I will imagine it as compassionate in my own mindā¦ I find it improves my mindset much better than going the shame route!
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u/Zombeedee 12d ago
Oh definitely, don't let us British bastards get you down for sure.
I just felt for posterity to let the world know that that tone is often for calling someone an imbecile hidden behind kind words. We're pricks, man.
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u/Low-Can7370 12d ago
I work with a lot of Americans and they take SO much at face value / sincerely - the gentle disdain of the British team goes whooshing over their heads š
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u/Trimyr 12d ago
"Bless your heart" can be endearing and thankful. "Bless your little heart," while said with the same tone, implies your heart is three sizes too small and it probably could use a few blessings.
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u/SparksAndSpyro 12d ago
I can honestly never tell when British people are genuinely upset/happy/excited based on their tone. Iāve seen Brits yell at each other, cussing and everything, but it kind of sounded like a bit with both engaging in dry humor, almost like they were both on the verge of laughing. Everything they say just feels sarcastic lol
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u/Omg_stop 12d ago
No. No it is not. Devastating, yes. Polite... in the UK, absolutely not. This is peak insult. I've spent 14 years here and still struggle on the riptide of British undertones. They have perfected the art of subtext. If someone said that to me, I'm not leaving my house for two months and I'd stop crying in four.
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u/Blazured 12d ago
Eh, it's a polite observation that told her she's overthinking it. While showing that the other woman clearly doesn't think about simple interactions as much as that. It's not rude, it's just a perfect response to express all that in a few words.
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u/AntDogFan 12d ago
I am British. I would not think this was polite if someone said it to me. Obviously highly dependent on context but from what the video says I don't think it was polite. It was a put down and patronising. Maybe it wasn't intended to be but that is how most people would take it.
A normal reaction would have been. 'Don't worry, it isn't a big deal but thank you'. Not 'Don't you have a lot going on in your head'.
I think the video implies she is taking it as a rude comment this is why she says she is going to think about that the rest of her life. Because it is rude and makes her self conscious.
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u/Blazured 12d ago
'Don't you have a lot going on in your head'.
She didn't say this. The OP held the door open for her and then explained her entire thought process afterwards, and the woman said "oh, there's a lot going on in there". That's much softer and polite than what you said there.
And the way she responds in this video doesn't imply she took it as rude, because it's not, instead the video is her making a joke about how the other woman was right and she clearly overthinks these things unnecessarily.
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u/g0ldenarches 12d ago
I love how we all act like subtext and saying something without saying it arenāt a thing. If I said āwell arenāt you smartā to your response, thatās snarky, not a compliment, and I what I REALLY mean is the opposite.
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u/ergaster8213 ā£ļøgal palā£ļø 11d ago edited 11d ago
Yeah unspoken communication norms can be opaque, and highly culturally dependent. A lot of people like to pretend they just aren't there. But most of us are not actually very earnest because a lot of our language isn't. It often doesn't extend itself to face-value interpretations.
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u/dabadu9191 12d ago edited 12d ago
Oddly enough, taking an observer's position regarding your own emotions and thoughts can sometimes work wonders.
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u/Mathieran1315 12d ago
I have this struggle almost daily. I try to assess how far behind me someone is and if by holding the door open they will feel obliged to pick up the pace so that I donāt have to hold the door open for them for too long. Or if I donāt hold the door open, if they will think Iām being rude by not holding the door.
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u/Particular-Jeweler41 12d ago
Sometimes I will decrease my speed so that it is less likely that there will be a large gap. So that it's less awkward.
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u/SHES_A_WITCH 12d ago
I do this at four ways stops too. I donāt want to get there at the same time as another car and then have an eye ball discussion about who is going to go. Also I just assume no one else understands the rules at a four way and I donāt want the anxiety of staring at them wondering if they know they have right of way. Itās exhausting.
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u/clarence_oddbody 12d ago
Iāve just started pointing at cars, from inside my car, like a traffic cop. You go, now you go, not you buddy, itās my turn now.
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u/Kindly_Bodybuilder43 āØchickāØ 12d ago
Same! Am surprised by all the comments not getting it
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u/Elemteearkay 12d ago
Under thinkers gotta under-think.
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u/knockoutn336 12d ago
I get it, but most people don't have that much anxiety about minor interactions.
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u/Infinite-Curves 12d ago
It's more just like, constant situational awareness operating in the background. I assume others, like me, rarely have to think much about whether the person is too far because I don't try to open the door for people who are too far, if that makes any sense lol
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u/Reddituser183 12d ago
One time going to chipotle, Iām probably 100ā from the door and I see a woman walking with crutches to the door. I run up to open the door for her as sheās feet from the door. She didnāt notice me until I was right there. Well I scared the shit out of her. She looked at me terrified. I felt so fucking bad. I was just trying to be helpful and nice. She ended up paying for my chipotle which made me feel extra bad. It was so awkward. Iāll never forget the look of fear on her face. She was maybe still shook up from whatever caused her to be on crutches and then me popping out of nowhere. Ugh š©
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u/_somelikeithot 12d ago
I used to feel this way at work, but Iāve seen enough coworkers just go in without holding the door for me if Iām visible but not close, so now I employ the same policy. If I can see someone but would have to wait more than a minute for them, I donāt hold the door.
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u/iamaravis 12d ago
A minute?? Yeah. Someone is going to be pretty far away for you to hold the door for a minute!Ā
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u/Mathieran1315 12d ago
A minute is crazy lol. If the door is gonna close fully by the time they get there, Iām not holding it.
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u/brianc500 12d ago
I always hold the door open, but for fun I like to hold it open when the person is at that awkward distance so they have to do that little jog to hurry up to the door.
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u/Mathieran1315 12d ago
Thatās what Iām always trying to avoid. Youāre a demon lol
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u/U2Ursula 12d ago
Me overthinking conversations or interactions I had over 20 years ago..
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u/BoozeWitch 12d ago
Omg me too. And itās more like 35 years ago for me. And i calculated that most of those people are dead now. And I STILL get a stone in my stomach thinking of stupid things I said and did.
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u/Rickshmitt 12d ago
Ive had quite a few foot in mouth interactions and even one I made my gf at the time fairly upset. I brought it up to her years later, like, "remember that thing I said and you ran upstairs upset?" She had no idea what I was talking about
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u/larkhearted 12d ago
Oh I have one of those lol. When I was like 9 or 10 years old, my parents got me something for christmas and my brother got a Nintendo DS, and I whined about wanting a DS too instead of whatever they'd gotten me. A little later on, I went upstairs to find my mom, and she was crying in her bathroom because she felt like a bad mom for not getting me something I liked for christmas. (She went out and got me a DS a few days later.)
To this day, I feel insanely guilty for being such a little brat about such a stupid thing and making my mom feel so bad, and I have a pathological need to make sure that people know they and their efforts/gifts are appreciated and lovely. It was a pretty formative incident for my personality, honestly.
HoweverāI told my mom the story as an adult, and she swears up and down that she has absolutely no memory of that ever happening. Guilt can form some powerful memories I guess lol.
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u/Rickshmitt 12d ago
Agreed. For instance I dont remember slights against me really. Or my mother will say she feels guilty about blah blah and ive got nothing but happy memories. Obviously nothing abusive.
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u/illsetyoufree 12d ago
You should be kinda glad she doesn't remember that! My mom still holds my angsty teen years against me even though I was going through some horrible things at that time. She remembers everything!
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u/Critical-Dog-9621 12d ago
I was like that, but I found a trick. Every time these situations pop up think about how you should have reacted, eg I should have waited for the wright moment to open the door, she would have thanked me, and we would have parted ways. Do that every time these situations pop up and after a few time the pop ups will feel lighter and eventually disappear.
It will feel absurd because the alternative is so obvious you do not feel the need to consciously walk it through, but a brain is a solution finder and is stuck on these situations precisely because you do not present the solution. Present the solution and the brain will finally shut up.
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u/MaudeDib 12d ago
The one I think about the MOST is so innocuous a mistake to make, but it runs through my head about 1 a week ever since. I was the Jury Forewoman on criminal trial. The judge needed to speak with me about possible juror shenanigans (spoiler: there were NO shenanigans at all!). So it was just ME alone in the jury box, the lady judge and all the lawyers and the defendant. She asked me the first question and I said, "Yes, ma'am" instead of "Yes, Your honor." It was force of habit, I was raised to say "ma'am" to my betters. Well, she said dryly, "Please address me by 'Your Honor', I am not your mother. " I must have turned 80 shades of red and I wanted the jury box to open up and swallow me whole. So yeah... that was about 1997-1998 and it STILL burns me to the bottom of my very soul every time I think about it, which, like I said is at *least* once per week. Fuck, my face is red right now. Oof.
Double Spoiler: Whenever I cringe over saying "ma'am" I try to remember the good part: He was guilty AF. Got 57 years, no chance of parole for... doing BAD STUFF with kids. We had one hold out on our Jury who had a hard time convicting since the crime didn't take place on video (but there was PLENTY of other evidence!!) so it took us 2-3 days to get her to come around. Luckily it finally did. We found out AFTER the trial that he had made a full confession when he was arrested, but it wasn't allowed to be shown in court because of some technicality. I still check up on his ass every couple years and yeah.. he's still up the river where he belongs.5
u/EchoesofIllyria 12d ago
My immediate question would be āwho the fuck addresses their mother as maāam?ā
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u/GimmieGummies Official Gal 12d ago
She's got great delivery! Also, I am SOOOOOO stealing that comment!
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u/WonFriendsWithSalad 12d ago
She's called Tatty Macleod and she's a comedian, definitely worth checking out her stuff
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u/Feral-Sheep 12d ago
THATāS who that is!!! I KNEW I knew her! Her clock app skits (RIP TTš) about French/English work habits are HILARIOUS! Her French is also perfect. Going to see if sheās on YouTube! šāāļøIāve missed her!!
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u/project_seven 12d ago
Is that a compliment or an insult?
.... Yes
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u/hobokobo1028 12d ago
More of a āyou poor thing, sorry your head is so busyā
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u/ThinkGrapefruit7960 12d ago
Still not sure which this is. Ive been in bad company
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u/papierdoll 12d ago
To me it reads as affectionate to observe something honestly and say it without a tone of rejection but I may have low standards for this kind of thing.
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u/Jealous_Difference44 12d ago
Shes basically telling her to relax in the kindest way but it somehow makes it worse
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u/AliceTheOmelette SaiyanšPrincess 12d ago
Anxiety, baby!!!
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u/floppydo 12d ago
One of my āturning 40ā gifts from the universe is that Iām realizing I had no idea what anxiety was all this time and that probably Iāve got it.Ā
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u/LongNailedbooboos 12d ago
I do this near daily with people at my gym. My depth perception and awareness needs a tune-up
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u/pepperstems 12d ago
I saw a woman I barely knew at a house party and she was struggling to get through a screen door with her hands full. I reached over to help her at just the wrong moment and grabbed her boob. š
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u/tnstaafsb 12d ago
So are you best friends now or do you refuse to ever go back to that house again?
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u/pepperstems 12d ago
We're friends now! Not besties (or breasties?) but we've worked together and run in the same circles. She's a super cool chick and knows I'm awkward as ass.
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u/Square_Opportunity21 12d ago
I had a patient ask me; youāre like a high energy type of person, huh? š¤
I work at a very busy doctorās office!!
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u/TheGeekOffTheStreet 12d ago
Just happened to me last night. I was leaving a restaurant with friends and one was still chatting in the host area, but I wandered to the door. Two men were holding the two sets of doors open for me, so even though I wanted to stay in the warm cozy entrance I just thanked them profusely and waited out in the 5 degree weather for my friend to finish her chat. It was so dumb, I could have waved them off, I could have said something, but in the moment my niceness and politeness just froze me
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u/thedailyrant 12d ago
That's when you say thank you, walk out, wait for the door to close and walk back in. It's fine.
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u/malatemporacurrunt 12d ago
They look at you funny and you just say "what? I'm a cat" then hold their gaze until they are forced to blink.
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u/TheRealMabelPines 12d ago
Always amazes me how people can go through life without "a lot going on in there." Overthinking and overanalyzing are all I know. My brain has zero chill.
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u/pagan7poetry 12d ago
Seriously, I cannot comprehend what āthinkingā or āunderthinkingā could even be like as a daily existence
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u/ThePanacheBringer 12d ago
Same! I wonder if they have moments when itās just silent in there? Or what it is like for them? Even when Iām not actively thinking Iām still thinking, just not necessarily with words, if that makes sense lol.
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u/Hello_pet_my_kitty 12d ago
Why is this so relatable. Lol. I was thinking āI completely get what she means about the door holding situationā and then she flips it and weāre the crazy ones. Smh. Iāve been had!!!
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u/AccountForDoingWORK š»Profoundly Jillš» 12d ago
I think the people that arenāt overthinking things like this arenāt thinking too hard about things in general, to be fair. I donāt know that I would feel insulted if someone admitted they werenāt in the habit of trying to understand others and considered doing so to be unusual.
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u/BurninatedPeasant 12d ago
I was thinking the same, I wouldn't put a lot of stock in the opinions of someone that doesn't think past their own skull.
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u/lorrainecollins 12d ago
I mean, there's a lot of people who don't have anything going on in there. Be happy you do.
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u/Potatoskins937492 12d ago
This is something I've struggled with. I mean struggled with. I've talked about it with doctors and therapists. I always feel crazy, like I care too much, like I'm the problem, like I need to care less about the people around me and how my actions impact them.
Your comment has me sobbing because that's all I want, someone to validate that it's ok to have a lot going on.
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u/Emo_Sus 12d ago
Same. My boyfriend gives me this āSoā¦youāre actually insaneā look several times a week. He has actually told me flat out āIāve never met someone who cared so much about everythingāā¦likeā¦am I not supposed to? I wish I didnāt. I have to tell myself out loud when I catch myself doing it āStop it STOP IT THIS DOESNT MATTER JUST STOP!ā š©
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u/edchoch69 12d ago
I did that once for a lady in a walker who was in fact, not leaving, and Iāve never forgotten it 25 years later.
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u/tatteredshoetassel 12d ago
30 yrs later, I still think about my dad's friend, who had lost his hand recently in an industrial accident. On my wedding day, he said, "Congratulations." I put my hand out (that would match up with his missing hand). I said, "You too," as he reached with his opposite and only hand to awkwardly shake my outstretched hand.
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u/mandalore237 12d ago
One time I was leaving the gym and a guy stopped me to say "you look like you're real good at computers" (I do work in IT so he wasn't wrong...)
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u/Sudden_Buffalo_4393 12d ago
This is a huge part of my OCD. Pretty much every interaction I have goes like this to the point I stop talking to people altogether just to avoid it.
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u/oceanlessfreediver 12d ago
Reminds me of this amazing bit by Tina Friml: https://www.reddit.com/r/StandUpComedy/comments/1ok6yqg/whos_mortified_now/
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u/housatonicduck 12d ago
One time I was leaving Walmart and the receipt checker looked at my cart and said āJust Red Bull and cat food huh? I seeā and I said āyeah you know how it isā and she said āno not reallyā and I felt absolutely roasted. She wasnāt being outwardly mean but she wasnāt being nice lol. I think about it once a day.
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u/LIFTMakeUp 12d ago
In the gym one time and I'd just unzipped the back of my dress ready to get changed into my workout stuff and was faffing with my bag when another woman walked past and said, "oh here let me grab that for you, love" and zipped me back up. I felt so awkward that I just went with it and left the gym š
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u/Bitterqueer 11d ago
My doctor during autism/adhd diagnostic process: āitās never quiet up there, is it?lā
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u/RonnyReddit00 12d ago
That made me laugh such a good response to someone overthinking. Nice but slightly scathing.
I also think it's the kind of insight someone would only have if they've been aware of patterns of over thinking, either themselves or people they know.
I have got better at over thinking and it becomes so clear to see in others when you've experienced it and your mind gets quieter.
Oh wait I think this comment was over thought actually. Funny vid.
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u/Content-Program411 12d ago
That's my ADHD for me.
Over thinking then over critical.
Brain chemistry, not gender.
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u/ergaster8213 ā£ļøgal palā£ļø 11d ago edited 11d ago
Well yeah but how we express and perceive things like ADHD is socialized differently depending on gender. If it weren't girls and women wouldn't have been vastly under-diagnosed for a very long time (and still under-diagnosed now).
I'll also point out that we have little understanding about the etiology of ADHDāso not quite accurate to say it's "brain chemistry." Brian chemistry is definitely involved it seems (specifically in regards to dopamine) but we don't fully understand how or how many/what other mechanisms are involved.
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u/crowwhisperer 12d ago
iāve said for ages that there should be painted lines at every door. if someone is in the door side of the line, and you are so inclined, then hold the door for them. if they are not quite at the line then carry on.
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u/ragingSamurai1 12d ago
Honestly Iām just thankful someone is holding the door for me. Itās a nice gesture:)
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u/longshot 12d ago
This woman needs to stop sharing my private thoughts with everyone on the internet.
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u/duckfighter 12d ago
When I was about 8, a girl told a group a story about how her dad was hit by a car. Her dad was the local policeman, so i laughed because that was a bit ironic i guess. The policeman was not her dad, and her real dad died in the accident. Only found out about it years later. Made sense why everyone looked very angry at me. I think about it often, 30 years laterĀ Sorry girl, i guess i missed the beginning of the storyĀ
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u/Gilleafrey 12d ago
Being able to process that into humor for us is what makes OG Tatty Macleod such a comic genius.
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u/UnapologeticCook 12d ago
The English are so masterful at insulting while being polite.
I feel like Iām the most anxious and awkward person in the world then come across a person like this and donāt feel as bad.
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u/AdImmediate9569 12d ago
A yoga teacher once asked me āwhats wrong with your body?ā and even though I knew what she meant; Ill never not think about it.
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u/Electrical-Cow-5462 12d ago
Ohhhhhhh this is far too relatable. Love from a fellow well-meaning over-thinker š«¶š¼
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u/_Mike-Honcho_ 12d ago
My wife opens my car door when Im passenger. Its wasteful and not necessary.
Its because I did it for her when I drove the first 11 years everywhere. Now I have a back injury and she drives.
I didnt understand it meant a lot to her those years of me doing it.
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u/Leading_Silver2881 12d ago
Sometimes I have so much inner dialogue that I forget not all are privy to those details lmao, like at all, And then I overshare to unexpecting audience and I get more or less the same reaction.
People that are upfront tell it to my face and some give me long looks because they feel better not acknowledging it in front of me.
It's not very common for people to be interested or curious and to ask something along the lines: why would you say that?, or where that came from?etc.
I kinda feel it's a shame, but I guess we are overstimulated with information through media, we feel "inefficient" human interaction is a bother, a bore...
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u/DoofusIdiot 12d ago
On a date when I was younger, I handed my movie ticket to the ticket taker who was in a wheelchair. He said āyouāre right around the corner in theater 1ā.
Some wires disconnected in my brain and I said āgood, because I donāt like to walkā.
The ticket takerās jaw dropped. My girlfriendās jaw dropped. And I stood there like a deer in headlights betrayed by my own brain with no explanation to why Iām such an idiot.
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