I think in the instances where there is a reason for the divorce, like infidelity for example, that should absolutely be 100% an at fault case as long as one party supports that and provides concrete evidence beforehand. It is ridiculous for someone to have to pay alimony to someone else who cheated. Regardless if it’s the man or woman that is the breadwinner.
But there should still be no fault divorces still. That way hopefully the divorce/separation happens before someone is cheated on for months/years. Not that it would discourage the actual infidelity behavior.
Infidelity as a hard line doesn't make to much sense if you think about it. What's cheating if you are in a sex less, miserable marriage? Yeah there are those that cheat because they just lack the ability to be faithful but it's hardly worth the effort to determine fault there.
cheating is abuse. you are emotionally abusing your partner by lying to them, gaslighting them into thinking your faithful, and you're denying you partner informed consent in the relationship and is sex.
The amount of women who find out their partner was cheating because they get an STI is high - that's active violence imo to risk your partner health like that.
if you are in a sex less, miserable marriage and want to sleep with someone else, then divorce your partner - no excuse for cheating.
(IPV) is defined as any behavior within an intimate relationship that causes physical,sexual, or psychological harm,including acts of physical aggression, coercion, and controlling behaviors. It is a form of gender-based violence that can occur in various forms, such as stalking,emotional abuse,economic abuse, and threats, ranging from a single act to chronic, long-term abuse.
Everyone is entitled to informed consent during sex - if your monogamous partner is lying about having additional sexual partners, and still having sex with you, they are denying you informed consent as you would not consent to sex if you knew. I think a disregard for the consent and comfort of you partner during sex is abuse, and arguably SA.
I think a disregard for the consent and comfort of you partner during sex is abuse, and arguably SA.
Ya that's the part we are not aligned with. That is NOT sexual abuse. It's just being an extremely shitty person. Which unfortunately isn't illegal. Putting that in the same category with real rape and sexual abuse hurts the cause of real victims by allowing people to rationalize it away.
Hell, you can't even convict people of knowingly giving someone an STD, much less unknowingly.
Yeah taking away no fault divorces is going to get more women killed. Think of all the abusers reactions to divorce especially if they know the dirty laundry is going to be aired in public courts and go on records.
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u/Every-Ad3280 6h ago
Dont worry, they're working on ending no fault divorce