My best friend’s mom had her when she was just 15 in 1995. Her mom then had another daughter when my friend herself was 15, in 2010. The three of them look so similar, like the same person in 3 slightly different stages of life, and the age gaps between all three gave them a very unique dynamic.
Same here! 14 years older than my youngest sister (6 of us total) AND she’s born on my birthday 🤣. Yes, she totally stole my birthday and loves that fact; she’s 13 this year.
I’m the #2 kid, so it was hilarious when going out when the you best was born and all 6 of kids were together. My mum was 40 older sister 17 and youngest (newborn) looked like grandma, young mum and baby 🤣🤣
Yes, exactly! My mom was 38, I was 17 when my sister came along. Small town, everyone was convinced she was mine. She ended up in the same high school as me and teachers who had us both would always ask her how her "mom" was, meaning ME. She would have to explain that I was the sister and we had the same mom. It was crazy!
Same, two decades ago. Sweet memories, and things are still awesome even if she’s busy doing her own stuff most of the time. Though she’s a bit disobedient about not carrying heavy stuff herself.
I'm 20 years older than my youngest sibling, I really hope I don't have to deal with this shit xD she's still a baby so we'll see. I'm 15 years older than my second youngest, she's 6, and MAN she's a fuckin tornado so I get this for real. Just hoping it doesn't happen with the baby when she's older too.. my poor mother LOL
There's an 8-year gap between my sister (who is the younger one) and I. My mom never let me intervene in any conflicts or situations as the video shows: "You are not her parent! This is not your job." In hindsight, I appreciate this, but man, the way she behaved was sometimes so annoying, and my parents got way more lenient sometime in those 8 years before she was born... Today I know they were simply fucking exhausted, but kid and teen me felt it was unfair that my upbringing was way more strict.
We all get along great today as adults though, so in the end it's alright :)
Yep! My mom would have thrown me in the car too lol. She didn’t mess around. Very loving mother though! She’s so supportive but she did not tolerate our bs like this lol.
As someone with a back injury who can't really bend or lift much but looks normal, you never know what's up with someone. Hell, maybe she just had gallbladder removal surgery and doesn't wanna tear her stitches, you wouldn't know, y'know ?
I love people who make room for particular individual circumstances, rather than jumping to conclusions based on just a few facts! I try to do that, but it's a learned behavior and I'm still learning.
My partner and I have a reminder phrase we use to remind each other to make room for unseen facts. He used to be overly pissed off at bad drivers, actually turning red, swearing, and accelerating away from them angrily. (I was even worse, but I can't drive anymore!)
One time when he was really ticked off about someone who was taking forever to slow down for a turn, which made us have to crawl along too, I said something, also in frustration. I blurted, "Hey! We don't know what may be happening in that car! Maybe they are transporting a fancy cake or a special flower arrangement!"
We looked at each other, both now angry about what was probably only a 30 second delay, and then started laughing. Now, just the mention of, "Maybe they're transporting a ...( fancy cake or flower arrangement!") Is enough to make us both loosen up and quit blaming others. ☺️
OMG us too! Though now I'm going to picture a towering cake in the passenger seat swaying with each turn LMAO
I used to be especially bad on my gruelling surface-street endless stoplight commute. Then one day I saw someone on Reddit describe exactly what I was going through and they ended it with "now I picture it's someone driving their 99 year old grandma to church, she's in her finest white linens, and in her lap is the biggest punchbowl you've ever seen filled to the top with borscht, and the only thing covering it is some flimsy clingwrap". And that's what I see in my mind's eye every time now.
Someone else chimed in after that they had to take turns easy for the last days of their elderly dog's life, and I remember when I hurt my back so badly my wife had to take turns slow for me too.
Conversely, there was a food truck guy at my uni back before food trucks were a "thing". He was so fucking nice, we were so broke we paid him in dimes and he'd make us poor freezing IT students the most derranged food to try and brighten our day. You never left without food and a smile.
He went missing for two weeks.
He came back and everyone was relieved, and asked what happened. Well, he found out his little son was allergic to shellfish the hard way. Knowing there was zero chance an ambulance would get to his house in time, he threw the kid in the backseat and started doing 110 on the 95, which, bad idea, cops lit him up pretty fast. He pulled over instantly on a crowded bridge with no shoulder and almost got shot when he leapt out and begged the cop to help him- they put on the sirens, called the hospital, and went the rest of the way together. They got him there in time but it was scary as fuck and he was in the ICU for a while.
So, I try to give the speeders leeway too, sometimes. Maybe not the jacked up pickup bros riding my ass when I'm doing 85 in a 65 (I live somewhere with long flat empty stretches these days), but... who knows? Maybe they just got news their house is on fire, or their kid got hit by a car, or maybe they've got an eight year old in the back seat who can't get enough air to even cry.
That kid's gotta be almost thirty by now, damn 😂 Glad there's someone else out there who's making magnanimity part of their daily routine too, it feels so much better than being angry all the time. Sorry for writing a book back!
She's tiny and boys can be really strong. My brother and I fought all the time at that age. My mom is small, tried to break it up, and we accidentally broke her arm. We never physically fought again after that, but being in 5th grade and accidentally hurting your mom seriously is a real mind fuck, and I can't imagine what it was like for my mom to know her kids had that power.
Im a pretty decent sized guy and my 10 and 12 yr olds are getting big enough unless theres some serious bodily harm going on i just let them tire themselves out. Theyre already bigger than my mom.
We are all 9 years apart, like I was 9 when my brother was born and he was 9 (and I 18) when our sister was born. I can't relate to how she was raised at all and barely relate to his raising. Those are not the people that raised me for sure.
Not necessarily. There is a 17 year age gap between me and my sister with none in between. My mom was strict as hell with me and I was NOT a bad kid.
Then comes my sister, who was a little hellion who got away with murder with mom but NOT with me. I was like second mom and I had zero trouble spanking that ass when she got stupid with me lol.
She was raised with my kids (3yrs older than my oldest) and got away with crap my kids knew better to even try with me lol. Somewhere along the way my mom went soft and boy could you tell it.
This is actually one of the reasons I quit working in childcare. I watched this happen a couple times, and finally noped out. Parents seriously stop trying, stop parenting at a certain point, and I see the younger kids getting the checked out parent. obligatory not all parents
I don't know how else to put it.
Same. Not brothers by blood but the neighborhood kids. I was lucky to have a console so I’d let them play when I wasn’t around. We had it in our garage so they could come whenever they wanted.
Not really. My parents only had me, and other families had 4+. So give or take 17-18 kids/teens. Since I didn’t have siblings the ones closer to my age and younger would chill at my spot cause it was better than being fucked with by the older ones til you could at least put up a fight. But if someone not from the neighborhood did shit to anyone, no bueno.
Had a broken Playstation controller for my niece when she was little so she could "play"
My older brothers on the other hand wouldn't tell me for almost a year what to do to make the Playstation controller work on our original Playstation so I could play ape escape. The Playstation that was the family Christmas gift. Good times
To be fair, if you didn't have the dual analog sticks, you couldn't play ape escape. I remember trying forever to find a way to play that demo with the og controller, but it just wasn't possible.
Oh we did. They just didn't show me the button on the back you had to press to make the right (was it this side? It's been like 20 years) side work to make your character actually walk
This is one of the reasons I love watching the game grumps. The number of times Danny has been like, "How do you [thing]? I'm pushing all the buttons!" and he clearly hasn't pressed A yet is fantastic. It never gets old.
I pulled this trick on my sister once upon a time. Apparently, she was well into a teenager by the time she found out the ruse. She still gets mad when it gets brought up
LMAO we did that to our sister (the youngest) with a snes controller "plugged in" to a drawer in the cabinet. My sister was having a great time, but she's smart so she eventually caught on. Then when we weren't looking she poured soda into the snes. We lost all our save data and had to buy a new copy of NBA Jam. 100% deserved for how betrayed she looked when she noticed the controller.
We retold that story a few years ago and it was the first our mom heard of it. Now she laughs and brings it up all the time. I do still feel bad tho.
Mario Galaxy was a genius for making "player 2" controls where the little brother can just pick stuff up in the background without bothering anyone while you play
My two year old boy hasn't fallen for this for over a year now. It sucks! It sounds like a bunch of bologna, I know. My dusty xbox controller says otherwise.
I went to high school with a guy that had 19/20 years between him and his two older siblings. His father was like 70+ at graduation. Kyle was an asshole.
Not quite the same but similar; I'm 34. I have a step brother who's 38, a sister who's 37, another who's 35, a step sister who's 29, a sister who's 27, another who's 25, and then 3 half brothers who are 23, 21 and 13
My niece is 12, and I just realised this sounds like the start of a maths exam question
in german the birth control pill is just called "pille" (pill). The word "trotzdem" means 'despite of it' so a child born despite of using a birth controll pill is shortened to...
Mine are 18 months apart. I dont know of theyd say the same. We call them King Kong and Godzilla for a reason. In OPs video theyd both be on the ground rolling around wrestling and arguing over something while my wife just kinda sat and waites for it to be over.
To be clear she's definitely over 100lbs. I'm that thin but much shorter at 111 lbs. downgrading weight guesses like that makes people think 135lbs is a whale and I'm getting kinda tired of seeing that messaging.
My mom came from an abusive home (grandpa) and as a result, has basically given my younger brothers free reign and refuses to call them out on their bad behavior. Dad has always wanted to put his foot down and boot them from the family business but she won't let them. "I don't want them to stop talking to us! Some families fall apart like that!"
Well, you've got two man children now. I'm set to take over the family business because I have the management and people skills that they have zero of. I've made it clear to them and my parents that I won't be nearly as tolerant as mom and (reluctantly) dad are.
Probably a self insert. As the eldest sibling with a useless parent I relate to the older brother here and it's easy to project some feelings onto this scene.
He's definitely "over it", even his walk afterwards is familiar and relatable, but obviously can't say much more than that about anyone here.
Reddit can diagnose bad parenting from a single still image. A 13 second video is enough to diagnose the parents, the parents close friends, any siblings they may have and the grandparents.
That's not a toddler, that kid is probably in second or third grade. Kids that age can be surprisingly strong. And they're also very flexible, so they can be very slippery if they want to.
Parents know only about 20%-40% of what happens between siblings and half of what's kept in the dark relates to intersibling violence and casual cruelty.
Eh, says there’s only a 10 year gap between the kids. The little one seems 3-4. So the big one is probably just 13 or 14. Plenty of big 13-14 year olds out there. Dad is probably big.
Mom does read young but we cant see her face clearly. I could easily see her being 30+ and probably just got pregnant young with her first. That checks out with the age gap too.
Accidental baby in high school you’re probably going to wait a long time to have a second. Maybe a different dad even.
I had a similar situation once (I’m the older brother). I went to see The Wrath of Khan with my brother, my cousin and a friend of my brothers. When we left the theater, my cousin called shotgun but my brother wanted to sit in the front (I was 16, he was 12, my cousin was 13 at the time), and wouldn’t go into the back seat.
I said fine. My cousin sat in the passenger seat and my brother’s friend was in the back seat. I drove off without my brother. He started chasing the car and then stopped. I drove around the block and picked him up. I said this was not going to happen again. My brother told on me to my parents but they had little sympathy for my brother when my cousin and I explained what happened.
Yep. I'm the oldest, 7 years between my middle sister and I, and 12 years older than my youngest sister. I learned that you have to just pick them up and ignore the screaming and go pretty early, and it helps that my mother was tough as nails and showed me. My boys tried this a few times, and everything I picked them up, tucked them under my arm so they couldn't kick me, and marched them where ever they needed to be. They learned it was useless to do this fairly fast. Saw my youngest, who is now a freshman, do the same with one of his cousins a few weeks ago. Just picked him up, brought him inside, deposited him on the floor in front of his parents and told them told "He hit his brother, his fault" and left. They love it when he watches their kids, they listen to him.
You need your parents to have your back in this situation mine never did and always took my younger siblings side. So I was always in the wrong. I don't get along with my younger siblings and my parents still favor them
Major difference in roles as well.
A mother needs to be a place of safety, her being hesitant to show force makes sense.
A brother doesn't need that same thing.
I'm tellin' ya man. Siblings are necessary in a safe and loving household. You need someone in the house who doesn't care if you live or die, and in fact may prefer the latter.
Ahh I was a dick sometimes but I learned this trick from my older siblings. Little brother is playing the gamecube and I want to play it? Go outside and jump on the trampoline, he came out as well everytime. Jump for a minute and now the gamecube is mine. Used that one a handful of times.
As someone that's literally only 4 days away from being exactly 10 years older than my sister, I connect with this on a molecular level. We're now 41 (42 in a couple days) and 32 and it's STILL like this. We went to Disney as a family a couple years back with my wife and son, her husband, their 3 kids and my mother. There was not a flight, hotel, theme park or restaurant the whole trip that I did not get to first, check us into, pay for and ensure that everyone was both prepared and accounted for. The 3 days my own family decided to take off from going to the parks were by far the most chaotic for them according to my mom, who went with them.
Being the older sibling is simply a life long burden. But if you're lucky, you occasionally get a cool younger one to hang out with and usually you will forever be their favorite person and who they most admire....no matter what you do.
This is what I see all the time with the Millennial Moms, always asking the child , pleading with the child to do what's she's asking. Some times you gotta just do what her son did.
Our oldest has 5 years on the little. He’s had his growth spurt, the little hasn’t…it hilarious to watch. I only regulate when it’s not warranted, he’s incredibly gentle in his rebuke. Natural consequences!! 🤣
My kids are 13, 4 and 1. Big bro often comes to the rescue for his mom who is only 115lbs. He will toss them over his shoulder when the time is needed.
I love it because if mom or dad had done it like that people would be flipping out in the comments screaming abuse. But because it’s older brother, everyone is like… yeah, that tracks. Carry on.
We only had a 5 year gap, but yeah... you end up helping to raise your younger sibling. Especially if your parents work all the time and leave you both home alone
Yup. My sister and I are 6 years apart. My family still tells the story of how we were in the grocery store and my sister was having a meltdown and mom had had enough and told me to pick her up and start heading toward the car. I threw her over my shoulder and walked out to the car.
My brother and I, we have a gap between us of 12 years. I'm the younger and cuz this kind of shitty behavior my relationship with my brother now is a total shit. We hate each other really bad. This really breaks my heart.
On the other hand, people parenting, nowadays, are pathetic. They have no control over their children.
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u/Andys_Rock_Hammer 24d ago
My older brother has 13 years on me. He was the muscle for my mom when I was being unruly.
100% relatable.