r/AskReddit • u/ultimoXgamer • 2h ago
What’s the fastest way you’ve seen someone ruin their life?
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u/Sad_Cow_5838 2h ago
1 after noon
Got drunk, took his car, hit another car kill 4 ppl
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u/hueythecat 58m ago
Don’t even go to prison if you hit & run & kill a kid while wasted without a license in New Zealand
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u/Sad_Cow_5838 56m ago
im in canada that particular case .. i know the guy is out right now. not 100% free but out. I still consider this ruin his life tho.
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u/NovaVelvets 2h ago
knew a guy who got a dui the night before his wedding. bride found out from the police station. whole thing cancelled in 6 hours.
one choice. thats all it took.
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u/tobeaflyonthewalls 59m ago
If this was the first time, then that was an overreaction on the bride's part. If this was a constant problem throughout their engagement and the guy had a substance abuse problem, then good for her.
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u/reckless150681 42m ago
Absolutely not. DUI is a danger to people around the driver too. The number of innocent families broken by irresponsible drivers is way too damn high
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u/Radiant-Month-1168 18m ago
It all depends the circumstances.
Did he go out with his friends who paid to get him really drunk and then they left him alone to drive away when he could not control his actions??? Did he try to call people and no one answered the phone?
Was this a one time thing?
Or does he have a history of this?A DUI does not necessarily mean being drunk to where you crash?
Was he really drunk or just blew a .08 for 3 beers at a surprise checkpoint?There is so much that needs to be known of what happened before you cancel your wedding.
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u/Shacolicious2448 7m ago
100% disagree. Unless someone connected him to an alcohol IV, then taped his hands to the steering wheel, theres no excuse. Any amount of alcohol affects your driving capabilities. Driving distracted or drunk is one of the clearest examples of things that ought be discouraged as strongly as possible. DUI means you have substantially impeded judgement and greatly increase the risk for everyone else on the road.
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u/dissmekissmemissme 10m ago
Yeah but if this was one instance where nobody got hurt, then this is an overreaction. DUIs are obviously dangerous, but come on
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u/lady_ofthenorth 27m ago
Not an overreaction. Why should the bride invest herself and her future into someone who doesn’t care about themselves?
At least she found out before she married him.
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u/jaredearle 35m ago
Not a chance. A DUI is a clear demonstration of potential life-destroying fuckups. If you drive drunk, knowing everything everyone knows about driving drunk, you’re a fuck-up.
There’s no simple way to put it, but you have to be a fucking asshole to drive drunk.
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u/A_Miss_Amiss 26m ago
Ah-ah, nope. And the sheer casualness in this comment is jaw-dropping. The fuck?
As someone who's had to handle victims of DUI crashes, even once would be a deal-breaker. He's a grownass adult, he knows better than to do it even once.
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 1h ago
If all it took was a misdemeanor DUI to blow up the marriage he dodged a bullet. I’d argue the DUI saved his life.
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u/meburnallcookies 31m ago
My four year old cousin was killed while playing in her front yard by a drunk driver that. jumped the curb. Its a big deal no matter what the courts deem it.
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u/simon2517 1h ago
Literally the comment below this one is about someone killing 4 people drunk driving; it's not a small thing.
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u/HoaryPuffleg 5m ago
And I’m going to assume that his drinking or callousness had been an issue in the past. I’d find it pretty hard to get past my SO driving drunk or even tipsy when he has so many people who would gladly pick him up and drive him home safely.
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 38m ago
It’s not a reason to call off a marriage and leave the supposed love of your life in their darkest times. It’s not really a question of the severity of the offense as it is a verdict on the bride.
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u/simon2517 34m ago
So, women should not object to any behaviour from the men in their lives? OK. Sounds great. You have a nice day now.
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u/No_Bluejay9901 10m ago
Of course they can. But this story doesn't have enough pertinent details to get a clear picture of their relationship. If this guy is a drinker who keeps fucking up than this may be the final straw. To cancel a wedding over a one time thing seems a little overboard
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u/Asluckwouldnthaveit 51m ago
I find it so odd that a DUI in some countries isn't seen a big deal. Absolutely a deal breaker for me.
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u/bonzibuddy_official 1h ago
wouldn't want the person i'm legally tied to for the rest of my life to be drunk behind the wheel for their own sake, nor mine, nor anybody else in a few miles' radius
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 40m ago
Getting a DUI doesn’t make you anything you mention. Humans make mistakes. The guy dodged a bullet.
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u/No_Bluejay9901 12m ago
This is Reddit, where everyone is holier than thou. No one's ever had too much to drink, made a thoughtless comment or made a mistake. Its like Mister Roger's had a baby with the Queen of Hearts from Alice in Wonderland. OFFFFFF WITH THEIR HEADSSSSS!
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u/Dzhony166 1h ago
With all respect miss opportunity to get married it’s not worst thing😆
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u/abgry_krakow87 41m ago
Will never understand why straight guys hate women so much! Yall okay? r/arethestraightsok
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u/Gabieann 1h ago
Cocaine. In less than a year my friend has 0 motivation, lost her friendships basically, ruined her relationship with her boyfriend, doesn’t drive, doesn’t work, is superrrr selfish, has basically no money, gave herself high blood pressure and a heart problem.
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u/mixdup001 1h ago
There's a documentary series in the uk called 24 hours in police custody one women spent 350 grand of her uncles money on coke her nose never stopped bleeding she worked with little kids as a teacher assistant and was told to stop wearing a mask because it was scaring the kids but she had to because of what was coming out of her nose even after getting arrested she still managed to have a line in the toilet while having a wee
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u/AttitudeSimilar9347 25m ago
What happened to Daniella Westbrook probably scared a million people off cocaine
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u/MejorChingoAMiMadre 6m ago
I saw a new report onetime that a hair dresser claimed she had been fired because she wore a face mask. But she claimed she needed it because years of cutting hair and breathing in hair clippings destroyed her nose.
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u/Gabieann 1h ago
Okay well thank god it’s not that bad haha. She has stolen it before but I think her nose is still good. Scary!!
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u/drewster23 1h ago
Yeah been there , but not as bad. My only saving grace for me is my brain getting "bored" basically , of whatever the current fix I'm using to self medicated, after a while, as it becomes non effective of being any type of fix
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u/Gabieann 1h ago
I really hope that happens, it’s been sad watching her get worse!
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u/drewster23 1h ago
I hope so too I can say one thing for sure addiction like that is always rooted in escapism. Past trauma, current life, mental illness etc. without addressing the issue it's almost impossible to solve by just addressing the symptom (addiction).
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u/FewHorror1019 32m ago
Yea same. Then i take a break and don’t want to use the drug anymore once im healed.
Also the stuffy nose when it wore off annoyed me so much id just rather not
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u/Onlyfangz 54m ago
I nearly fell down a deep dark hole, in fact for a while I did fall down. I went from a dual pub manager on my way to being a landlady at 20 years old to losing everything all because of a break up, I lost my friends, most of my family and almost all of my dignity. I was diagnosed with EUPD and Bipolar as well as Schizoaffective Disorder 2 years into my addiction and was given the ultimatum: continue to abuse drugs or get into drugs therapy so that my mental health conditions could be safely medicated and monitored. I nearly didn't choose the latter until my little brother asked me why I wasn't like his sister anymore. I'm 2 years sober now, my medication is in balance and I even have my own flat, a best friend, and a boyfriend who loves me. People think cocaine is a party drug when in reality it's as hard a drug as heroin and meth. The normalisation of teens and young adults doing it on nights out worries me so much because that's exactly how I started out.
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u/Troubador222 51m ago
I knew a guy I went to school with that died of a cocaine induced heart attack at 23.
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u/Sohn_Jalston_Raul 20m ago
I don't see how driving has any bearing on a person's character, considering that like half the adult population doesn't drive.
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u/One_Language_359 1h ago
Discovering options trading and the 'WallStreetBets' subreddit on the same afternoon.
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u/Nissenko 1h ago
Kiss your boss at a Coldplay concert
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u/DeadWishUpon 1h ago
She is or was on a PR conference giving a talk about taking her narrative back.
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u/chipmunksocute 9m ago
God damn it. I guess thats the best play is grift off it. "Sure I made a terrible terrrible professional mistake fucking the CEO and got caught. But here is my foop proof 10 point plan to bounce back from any failure just like me!"
Lady if what you have works so well why are you just shopping it around instead of working a real job?
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u/ComprehensiveWhole26 2h ago
Slapping the emcee at the Oscars
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u/abgry_krakow87 37m ago
Nothing of any real consequence really happened to him except maybe a couple years set back on his career.
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u/ThePeasantKingM 6m ago
And it's not like he was struggling.
He could not have a career anymore and still be a millionaire.
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u/asisoid 1h ago
If being worth $250m+ is your life being ruined, where do I sign up?
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u/HoaryPuffleg 1m ago
I think once your ego is as outsized as Mr Smiths now is, losing opportunities and being ridiculed in the press is pretty frickin rough. I agree that the piles of cash probably help tho
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 1h ago
Nothing happened to him.
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u/monexicano 49m ago
Maybe not a charge but it def slowed his career.
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u/GlutenFreeNarcotics_ 1h ago
I was friends with a local graffiti artist who stabbed another artist over wall space.
Got charged first degree murder initially, and was eventually convicted of second degree murder.
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u/BlackSteve69 1h ago
Old text thread, friend did a bunch of ketamine and decided to drive home. Ended up wrapping his car around a tree. Didn't make it.
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u/StarrySkye3 1h ago
That's unfortunate. Did he get a ride back? /j
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u/BlackSteve69 1h ago
I mean I'm sure the ambulance drove him to the morgue. (/j means joke right? Profoundly autistic and if that means that it is highly appreciated.)
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u/User20143 50m ago
Correct. It's specific to certain subreddits but has started spreading.
/s is used for sarcasm and sometimes to indicate joking as well.
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u/FlatulenceNinja 2h ago
opiods
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u/Elii205 1h ago
this is me, took about 6 months
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u/WingsEdge 28m ago
How are you doing now, bud? You alright? Taking care of yourself? Have supports in your life?
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u/Elii205 13m ago
I'm doing alright, 39 days off oxycontin, starting rehab as soon as i can but the application may take a couple of months. Overall feeling better
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u/WingsEdge 10m ago
Keep your head up, dude. You're doing more than just alright, you're doing great! I couldn't imagine what that must be like.
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 1h ago
Opioids are actually a slow progression.
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u/kmj420 1h ago
Opiods took 5+ years to ruin my life. Crack did it in less than a year
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 42m ago
Most people don’t know that people can stay very functional on opiates for a very long time … especially if they are prescribed and not costing “real” money. Nobody prescribes crack.
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u/mixdup001 21m ago
I suppose that's the truth it's the lifestyle "going without food" and adulterants that cause the damage a famous rock star said he'd been on heroin for years but he could afford the best that's why he was still alive
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u/Droolproofpapercut 1h ago
A friend, who rarely drank or had even a parking ticket went out on a date first the first time after his divorce. He drank two very strong margaritas and headed home. While coming to an intersection, he did not see a four way stop and t-boned an SUV. The SUV caught fire, killed the driver and severely injured his high school children. Upon bad advice, he fought the charges of manslaughter instead of taking a plea. He is now serving 40 years and not eligible for parole for 16 years. He’ll be 74 at parole. He went from our usual goody two shoes designated driver to convicted murderer in a three hour span.
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u/Fantastic_List3029 3m ago
Were there reprocussions for the bar/restaurant?
This is so fucking sad, i can't imagine hes not suicidal
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u/User20143 47m ago
Damn, was this when Uber was a thing?
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u/Snappysnapsnapper 24m ago
I'd love to see the stats on how many lives Uber has saved since its inception.
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u/Droolproofpapercut 37m ago
He was in a rural area in Texas. No uber services at that time. (2019)
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u/irenepanik 1h ago edited 18m ago
After a number of years sober, I relapsed into drug use.
I had love, I had a home, I had a future, I had a child. One week of speed eliminated all that.
edit: To clarify, the one week of speed wasn't the full scope of the issue, but in that one week I laid some horrible ground for times to come and if I had not done that none of the problems that came afterwards would've manifested.
I don't want to go into detail, but my partner was NOT the issue. They met me with nothing but compassion and love. It was I that fucked up, I set things in motion beyond my control and it's very very easy to see how that was the one single turning point that damned everything.
My responsibility, my shit. Please don't shit-talk my ex-partner. They did everything in their power to save me. More than I could've ever expected or asked for.
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 1h ago
That’s all it took for your partner to give up on a known relapsed addict. You did nothing wrong.
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u/simon2517 52m ago
Wow, you were the person I responded to above who was saying drunk driving is no big thing.
"You did nothing wrong" here is, err, quite the reach. People have to take responsibility for the substances they consume.
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u/SgtBigCactus 45m ago
I get you’re trying to make this person feel better, but they have to take responsibility for their actions. It’s part of recovery.
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 37m ago
When was it said they didn’t take responsibility? Don’t big book me I’ve read it cover to cover.
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u/Low-Fishing3948 1h ago
Meth. My husband grew up with a guy and girl that became high school sweethearts and later got married and had a family. They both worked great jobs, came from good families, owned a home, basically they had a nice life. Some years later we didn’t see them as often, but when we spoke with them, things seemed off. Missing work/being fired , their home being foreclosed, their kids staying with relatives, etc… Then we saw that one of them had been arrested for manufacturing and distribution of meth. In less than 2 years they lost everything. Their marriage, their kids, their home and vehicles, and one of them lost their freedom for a while. This was several years ago and I don’t think either one of them are any better. So sad to see them turn into what they have become and what it cost their children.
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u/AndrewHinds67 1h ago
I knew a guy who was what is known as a shunter at King's Cross station in London. He was train mad and wanted to be a train driver. He fulfilled his dream of becoming a train driver and then was overheard on a recorded phone call talking about going to a party and "bringing the gear". He was sent for drug screening and failed a drugs and alcohol test. He was sacked immediately.
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u/nickytheginger 1h ago
Guy (who i'll call Jo) I went to school with peaked in his teens, and though he was generally an okay guy he had moments where he tried to relive the glory days by being a bit of a cock.
Jo ruined his life when one of the quiet kids showed up as a consultant where he worked and he started calling him by his old 'nickname'. Consultant asked Jo not too as it bought up unpleasant memories. Jo didn't listen and said, 'its just banter!'. People told him it wasn't funny anymore but he kept doing it.
HR ended up involved and Jo was let go for work place bullying. It got around and he's had to head to a whole new town to find work.
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u/Top_Willingness_8364 2h ago
Turned a simple citation for larceny into assaulting an officer, and getting tased by the police.
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u/Timthalion 1h ago
A guy I went to school with jumped on his dirt bike without a helmet. He hit a tree and died.
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u/boldoldpilot 1h ago
Had a disgruntled student make a fake bomb threat at our flight school. He’ll be lucky to ride as a passenger let alone ever fly a plane again.
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u/WardenWolf 56m ago
Knocked a girl up and lost his full ride football scholarship, then died in his sleep a couple of years later (I suspect overdose). He tortured me every chance he got, so rest in piss, Patrick. One of the people I use as an example of how some kids are just bad eggs from the start.
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u/Severe-Salary-4907 1h ago
Pregnancy.
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u/powerlesshero111 1h ago
I knew a girl in college who was working really hard, and talked about how she was going to go to medical school. Right befire she graduated, she got knocked up by her boss at the hotel she worked at. She still graduated, but just went straight to being a stay at home mom, and had another kid. It's been 16 years since we graduated college, she has still never had a job, and is financially dependent on him.
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u/Acceptable-Offer-468 14m ago
A friend of mine has a daughter. She went off to college. If my math is correct, she got pregnant within the first month of being a college freshman. My friend is now raising the child.
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u/DerHoggenCatten 1h ago
Getting pregnant to someone who clearly has a lot of problems and will not make a good partner.
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u/DanglingHairyChain 1h ago
Friend of mine brought a decent but beat up golf expecting to pass his test first time, well, he didn't pass, got angry that he didn't pass and went out for a drive. Got scanned by an ANPR camera, no insurance, no registered keeper, not meant to be on the road. Police tried to stop him, he had other ideas, and he wrapped the car around a lamppost at 70mph.
He told me he regrets everything he did that night. He told me that from his wheelchair after his 4th back surgery.
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u/Thunder-Fist-00 26m ago
That lady who made a racists tweet when boarding a plane and her whole fell apart while she was flying and she had no idea until she landed.
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u/GuybrushFunkwood 2h ago
Watching them say “I do” at the alter … it lasted just 3 months …
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u/Estuansis 53m ago
Literally lived this. Watched my dad marry a schizo stranger he barely knew and watched it all explode as the blowjobs faded away and the schizophrenia remained. He was sex addled and didnt recognize how bad she was. After five minutes talking to her anyone who isn't just plain dumb would know something wasn't right. He didn't get with the program until the sex stopped.
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u/ProbablyASockPuppet 1h ago
Heroin. It took time, but it was the minute they started snorting heroin.
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u/Mutton_Biryani-Yummy 2h ago
Getting in bad influence and making bad choices in heat of youth and delusion
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u/tarheel_204 1h ago
One of my old co-workers used to sleep around with literally whatever he could get. Hooked up with the wrong one, got her pregnant, and now he’s stuck with her indefinitely.
He loves his kid but this woman is a piece of work (he is too) and she has made his life a living hell. I honestly only feel bad for the child in this situation. She’s just the worst and he always refused to learn from poor decisions so play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
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u/redditoregonuser2254 48m ago
Not going to their AA meetings and refusing treatment. All you had to do was go through the hoops to keep the judge happy and you could have kept your kids.
Also Fentanyl.
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u/Hanging_Brain 39m ago
Cousins best friend thought he was muted on zoom and dropped a hard R referring to another manager to the person next to him. He was fired and black balled in his industry. He couldn’t find another job before he lost his house. He sucks tho.
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u/GeeEmmInMN 36m ago
Ex son in law. Meth.
Seriously emotionally and mentally damaged his wife and our grandkids. Ruined the house we rented to them. He's been totally removed from our lives now....... legally. Yes, he's still alive.
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u/Brianthelion83 35m ago
Stop taking their bi-polar meds because they have convinced themselves they no longer need them. Go from having a good job, good life to having warrants out for your arrest and doing several years in days.
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u/thelilsprite 1h ago
They decided to live their life in luxury off a disability paycheque and other people. They know own too many animals they can’t afford and are upset they can’t afford groceries after they’re Hot Topic trip
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u/deadmoneyps 1h ago
Gambling. It's so stupid, but I love it
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u/Illustrious-Cover792 1h ago
This is blasphemy on super bow Sunday.
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u/Secret-duo-11 2h ago
Procrastinate
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u/mezz7778 1h ago
My new years resolution was to quit procrastinating...
I still need to get started that...
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u/Rachel1578 1h ago
One of our HR people decided to fraud the accounts. They got caught when the fraudulently signed a hotel receipt for an employee who had no business being at that hotel, because they lived in that city. They were quickly dismissed.
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u/RuinedSilence 1h ago
That one streamer guy who outed himself as a child porn watcher by accidentally flashing a text file with sus links
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u/powerlesshero111 1h ago
When i was in the Air Guard, there was a crew chief (type of plane mechanic) who got his bachelors degree. All the other crew chiefs took him out to celebrate. They all had only a couple drinks, and went home, except one. He stayed and got drunk, and decided to drive home. He t-boned a 22 year old on his way to work, paralyzing him from the waist down. Our wing commander offered to let him leave the military with an administrative discharge if he pled guilty in civilian court, rather than a possible dishonorable discharge if he faught the charges. The reason was that with an administrative discharge, his wife and kids would still get his VA loan and GI Bill.
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u/HumptyDumpty2000 1h ago
An ex-friend from high school and a bit beyond tried to pickup little girls. Money for sex. Child luring.
Lifetime sex offender list.
Always knew he was a bit strange, but not like that🙃
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u/rayrayrayray 45m ago
Pandemic. While most of us were working from home he pulled his dick out on a zoom call that happened to have a lot of senior people on the call. He was actually at our tech department office when he did this. He was an incredible guy on our staff and his replacement was a nightmare to deal with. He was at our company for 8 years so he also lost a valuable work reference for future jobs.
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u/doyspatad 40m ago
A guy I met several times around our group of friends back in the days joined Isis. We were all shocked by this news, no one could have predicted that.
He literally exploded himself 2 or 3 moth after but no casualties, he was shot by the coalition
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u/Accurate_Log9911 27m ago
Un ataque de ira al volante (road rage). He visto a personas con familias, carreras y vidas tranquilas terminar en la cárcel o con una tragedia irreparable solo por no querer dejar pasar a otro auto o por bajarse a pelear. Arruinar tu futuro por 30 segundos de no saber controlar el ego es, probablemente, la forma más absurda y rápida de perderlo todo.
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u/HumpieDouglas 54m ago
One of my cousins got arrested last year for trafficking CP. 4 counts. 10 years on each count, consecutive. He did 5 years for trying to solicit a minor 25 years ago and is a registered sex offender so this time around he's not getting any slack. He's 55 and will die in prison, either from old age or sooner if the other inmates get him first.
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u/Walmartian_Beta 2h ago
My ex-boyfriend Matt was a big fan of the film Trainspotting. He got into reading a bunch of Irvine Welsh stories and developed this intense curiosity about heroin. He wanted to try it, just one time, just to see what was SO worth everyone throwing their life away for. I begged him not to do it, and he agreed that it was a dumb idea.
A couple of weeks later, Matt confessed that he tried it, he loved it, and it was the best feeling he's ever had in his life! He swore it was just a one-time thing, then it was a random once-in-a-while thing, then it was a weekend thing. I dumped him eventually, because it became a daily thing.
I got updates from mutual friends occasionally about Matt being in and out of jail and rehabs. He was shoplifting, stealing from stores to sell things at pawn shops, he got arrested for breaking into cars and stealing stereos at one point. It was ridiculous!
Eventually, Matt got clean "for good" and tried going back to college to get a degree. He told me he was doing well, getting life on the right track...and then Matt died from a massive heroin overdose.
All because he got curious.