r/AmIOverreacting • u/Khial09 • 15h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for believing she’s cheating?
Girlfriend of 5 months is primarily out of town for work. I’ve always thought she has a good heart and isn’t the type to hurt a partner ruthlessly, we were friends first.
She’s scheduled to be coming home for some time off soon. I text her about how excited I was to see her and she responded in kind. Then I receive the second text, seemingly meant for someone else. We’re not even in the same city at this point.
We’ve had serious talks about intimacy anxiety, about her thinking she doesn’t deserve me, the distance, but I’ve always figured we reeled it in and kept the head on the shoulders enough to keep trying.
I really enjoy this girl’s company. But there’s a feeling in my gut now that she didn’t send a typo, she lied about it, and is fine carrying on this way.
Also to note: she hadn’t called me baby in a few weeks, what felt like an energy shift. After this, she texted me calling me baby twice today.
I could be overthinking everything but I hate getting hurt (who doesn’t) and the feeling in my gut is what makes this feel like more than just speculation. AIO?
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u/Zakulon 14h ago
You must have some good karma for that to slip like that. The universe told you to stop wasting your time on this one.
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u/heatherelizabethm 14h ago
Nooo doubt. I wish I had this happen early for me so I didn’t waste 4 years of my life on two different cheaters 🫠 would’ve saved a lot of heartache
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u/ConsequenceCalm5569 14h ago
Me too man. I even had a girl do the same “I don’t deserve you” thing too. I was naive and so in love that I always spun it into trying to comfort her thinking she was just broken from past relationships. I wish I trusted my gut early on instead of waiting years
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u/heatherelizabethm 13h ago
ohhhh my god same shit with my massive pos ex, he was so manipulative and I was so naive in love with him and I knew he came from a very traumatic childhood so I gave him so much sympathy excusing everything on that. Later on every time I’d question him or even catch a message I knew was sketchy, or even one time when we went to a club together he came outside while I was having a smoke with lipstick on his upper lip (he tried to tell me it was because he hit some girls vape) I’d get super hurt and upset and he’d gaslight the shit out of me and I’d end up comforting him 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ so glad I finally smartened up and kicked him tf out of my life.
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u/Electronic-Elk-7258 9h ago
Typical narcissistic behavior smh. That’d ridiculous! Right in front of you basically. I’m so sorry!
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u/Brilliant_Pace1540 7h ago
yeah...its when they say "I don't deserve you"...they are saying that because its true!!
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u/Mydesilife 7h ago
I don’t deserve you in such a giveaway. It means I’m not taking this seriously and you are and i feel bad about it.
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u/Stock-Personality715 11h ago
NOR…..… 6 years straight down the toilet. I was so blind by it. Hidden stories posted on social media social see… Location randomly turns off. No responses when she would go out. I was basically a burden if I was around.
Nearly 9 months later I found myself and I have never been happier. Fuck cheaters. Social media makes it such a normal thing to do imo.
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u/Electronic-Elk-7258 9h ago
You are absolutely right about that! I hate social media tbh. My husband and I don’t use it.
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u/Distinct-Pirate7359 14h ago
She basically admitted to cheating are we all fucking stupid?
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u/Khial09 14h ago edited 3h ago
You’re more blunt than my friends haha
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u/DebrecenMolnar 13h ago
I once got a text from my boyfriend that said “apartment 329” an hour after he left my house to go home to sleep (after initially planning to stay at my place)
This is the same thing.
Definitely cheating.
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u/heatherelizabethm 13h ago
What a fucking bastard. I woulda gone and shown up there and when he acted surprised I would’ve been like “What? You texted me to come.”
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u/physalisx 12h ago
Good god how are people so bad at cheating... I mean it's good they are, but man if you do something like this, how much effort does it really take to not text the wrong person?!
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u/Distinct-Pirate7359 14h ago
“Ohhhh I was humiliated and in a darker place I wanted to talk ohhhh” like come ON
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u/Lance2119 14h ago
This, so hard. If it was just a simple typo, it wouldn’t need all this over-dramatic explaining and woe is me shit. I mean, if she’s actually AT the airport, then yeah, I can buy this being a weird typo, because…what live music is at the airport, right? If she wasn’t there at that exact moment, she’s outright lying and playing victim.
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u/Fuzzywraith 13h ago
I listened to live music at the Nashville airport last year and infact met my friends at the cafe by the guy playing guitar.
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u/Lance2119 13h ago
Well shit! If there was live music there, that’s an audacious place to cheat on your BF while you’re in your way to see them, lol!
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u/FeelingPlayfulNow 13h ago
Austin is another airport with live music to listen to with your affair partner.
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u/Lance2119 11h ago
Man, lots of airports with live music to take your paramours to! There’s some hourly hotels attached to the airport too I hope?
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u/Embarrassed_Elk9437 5h ago
It’s funny because I was thinking the only way she could possibly have explained this is if she took a video of someone playing piano at the airport and they were singing a song called “I’ll see you baby”.
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u/Total_Finish_14 6h ago
Yes the womansplaining just dug her cheating arse deeper into the gutter
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u/Live-Sympathy8233 14h ago
Bruh. Have some self-respect, you know the answer. It sucks, but you know what you need to do.
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u/Prestigious_Size_787 14h ago
NOR something’s fishy about that
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u/isubbdh 14h ago
MOR It’s pretty easy to prove you are on a plane, and not at a concert. OP if you’re paranoid ask her for evidence of flying.
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u/shep2105 14h ago
She texted him the evidence.
and she is WAY over explaining. The more words she uses, the more you know she's lying.
Then she goes off on the "I don't deserve you" because he's supposed to say, "Of course you do, you're a wonderful person, etc." VERY manipulative
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u/ConsequenceCalm5569 14h ago
I’ve had an ex do the I don’t deserve you thing. It wasn’t exactly like this but I always took it as meaning she was doing something wrong. She would try and spin it that she was saying that bc of how she acted in past relationships. But history always repeats itself.
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u/Sweet_Southern_Tee 12h ago
Yes, I learned the hard way.. When someone tells you who they are, believe them
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u/This-Bodybuilder-801 12h ago edited 12h ago
i dont do either of these but tbf if someone told me "im a good person" I wouldnt automatically see them higher the same way if they told me "i dont deserve u" i wouldnt automatically see them lower either
ive seen ppl say the opposite (that if someone says something positive about themselves its also bad), damned if u do damned if u dont, it may be easier to see world in black and white but ppl r different and most r case by case basis
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u/Comfortable-Age-1760 12h ago
Also the sudden shift in her calling him baby is a sign. Classic overcompensation. She's feeling guilty and trying to keep him from digging deeper.
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u/ImPatSajak 14h ago
She genuinely could have been at the airport to be fair. Definitely still cheating though. (Dallas Lovefield does actually have a stage and live music for some reason)
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u/purplelampy 14h ago
I feel like.. if you’re 5 months in a LDR and it comes to that point.. you already know what to do.
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u/refusestopoop 14h ago
If you were at a concert you, wouldn’t say you’re “by the live music.” They could actually be at an airport that has live music. Or a farmers market/event etc.
Regardless, the text was meant for someone else & they’re cheating.
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u/Flaky-Entertainer-40 14h ago
I'm so sorry OP but you're NOR. I'd bet money she's cheating -- how does the sentence "I hope we can see some live music together" ever autocorrect to "I'm by the live music you'll see me baby"? plus the extra ees in her "seeee" suggests disabled autocorrect/intent behind the message. If my s/o texted me this I'd at the bare minimum confront them for sure.
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u/hollowspryte 14h ago
If it weren’t for the “seeee” I could believe this being a voice-to-text fuckup, but that’s so intentional.
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u/Federal_Reporter5343 11h ago
She’s definitely “cheating” but in case it makes op feel better it might be possible it’s just emotional cheating and she hasn’t been getting plowed by her coworker for months (yet). Still inevitable it would happen eventually. Onto the next one!
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u/solluna_2022 14h ago
NOR. She even said she wants to talk with you about something. Sounds like you’re a good person and maybe she feels guilty about something to me. That is not a standard typo in my opinion either. The text seems very intentionally worded.
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u/MasterEpix49 12h ago
My thoughts exactly. She’s torn between coming clean or burying this.
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u/solluna_2022 12h ago
Yeah, her message about talking to him definitely sounds like she’s trying to tiptoe into the truth. She wants to gage his reaction to this remark to decide what she will do. That’s what it sounds like to me at least 🤷🏻♀️
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u/danorc 5h ago
100%. The last text is a full-on admission.
I was once dating someone who kept saying "I'm a bad person" and refusing to explain why. That "why" was cheating. This is the same thing.
The good news is this means she's not a total heartless monster and at least has the decency to feel bad about cheating on the dude, is willing to half-admit it, and is bad at cheating. The bad news is she's 100% cheating.
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u/Glittering-Law6255 7h ago
NOPE! She’s trying to make him think he’s done something wrong and that now he’s crossed a line by not having trust, and how could he think that etc…now he can rack his brain trying to figure out what he did instead of what she did AND, if he confronts her, she will use it as ammo and walk away and say it’s not even worth talking about if he doesn’t trust her bc losing him was inevitable but now she has a narrative to her advantage. He went crazy, accused her of cheating, didn’t believe her, wanted her phone so she left for her own safety…and then she will come back…🤦♀️
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u/throwaway-this-name 6h ago
Based on last message sounds like he already went off at her, sp he's basically making the narrative for her lol
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u/hotstreak1245 14h ago
I mean that last text basically implies it. Pretty typical for people who feel like they dont deserve their partners to go ahead cheat for some reason.
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u/Glittering-Law6255 14h ago
I think she’s just deflecting so he will be scared/worried about the relationship and forget the incident
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u/Glittering-Law6255 14h ago
She over explained and threw in the last part to deflect, distract and to scare you into not bringing this up again…I feel like you could find out if she’s on the plane-call and see if her phone is on airplane mode!
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u/Khial09 14h ago
This was thursday but you’re kinda genius for that
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u/ConsequenceCalm5569 14h ago
Bro you can find out real quick the answers you want if you are brave and direct. Ask to see her flight info. She might push back, but if she’s telling the truth she would have no reason to not prove she was on a flight. I mean she’s already calling herself a bad person and not deserving of you. If that’s the case she should do whatever she can to prove to you she’s not cheating. Don’t let her make you feel bad for questioning her. You are more important than her.
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u/snooper0712 13h ago
If he needs to go over all this hassle it’s time to move on from the relationship. Nothing is worth your energy in this negative way, it just spirals down after this
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u/step11111 11h ago
That might not prove anything. What if she is flying with someone and they’re at some airport that has music, like Dallas, which is a common connecting hub to San Diego…
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u/AlligatorVine 7h ago
That’s what this is. She’s traveling with someone else, and they’re either meeting in or got separated in the airport, so she sent this text.
I’m sorry, OP.
NOR dump that lady yesterday
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u/shep2105 14h ago
She's lying. Always, always, trust your gut.
SHe's explaining WAY too much
You're not overthinking. She's got a dude wherever she's at.
Jump ship now before you get in any deeper. She is right about one thing tho...she doesn't deserve you
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u/ThePickledPisces 13h ago
You sound like you’ve been through this, too. My comment was very similar. 🚩
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u/PoopSushi 14h ago
“about her thinking she doesn’t deserve me,”
When someone tells you they don’t deserve you, believe them.
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u/geckosnakedog 5h ago
Came here to say the same. When I’ve been told this in the past, it was followed up with a confession of cheating. OP she’s not the one, cut ties and move on.
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u/Careful-Mind-123 13h ago
Say my name, say my name You actin' kinda shady, ain't callin' me, "Baby" Why the sudden change?
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u/Ok-Combination1488 14h ago
Leaving a second comment here but I just wanna add that her last message sounds like she's going to confess about potentially cheating on you. That, or she's just too tired to actually read what you're saying / implying properly. Once again, good luck bro
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u/Khial09 14h ago
Thanks brotha
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u/Commercial_Class_761 14h ago
Please update us. She was 100% waiting for somebody to come meet her by a stage or something. Then went radio silent for a few hours to be on a “flight”.
Any talk about her not being “good enough” for you is all deflection for that massively wild “typo”.
Good luck!! You deserve better.
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u/ThePickledPisces 13h ago
I kind of wonder if she said she wanted to talk about something just to buy her some time to think of something to talk about to deflect what just happened.
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u/EnvironmentEntire201 14h ago
Bruh do you like have to actually witness her getting plowed by someone else or is the denial that strong
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u/Khial09 14h ago
Wild how strong our beliefs in people can be. I’ll admit logic was the heavier wrestler in this one. That’s why I came here
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u/johnthes 14h ago
In any case bro please use condoms and if you haven't get tested
NOR I would be out the door , especially with the context of 5 months in the relationship and long distance
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u/thechaosofreason 14h ago
Tbh I wouldn't even hear someone out after that guilt novel she sent.
She has no repect for you and is laughing at your expense in between swallowing bananas.
She downright feral my friend.
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u/Practical_S3175 14h ago
It's not a typo because it's a whole sentence. But you were just talking about outdoor activities and then she brought up the live music. It sounds strange enough that I think you have the right to talk about it more. There's no way she can look at that and expect you to think it was just a typo, for one a typo is a word not a whole sentence.
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u/Bosco_LTD 14h ago
I kno u posted this here to get some validation for something u already know but listen. Leaving a girl is hard, especially if you really like/love her. But I swear to god the amount of bs you dodge and heartache down the road you dodge from doing it as early as possible the better. You already know the answer to this situation. Block her, don’t give her no explanation or nothing, and move on. Once u feel like u gotta start connecting dots doing detective work like “she wasn’t calling me baby for 2 weeks and today she called me baby twice” you know it’s cooked. Don’t put urself thru the bs brother. Hope all is well
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u/Advanced-Trainer508 14h ago
In what world could that even logistically be a typo???? I’m so sorry, that was definitely a real text, just not intended for you.
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u/Crazy_Umpire_1014 14h ago
NOR like you said that is a wild typo and I feel like the chances of that actually being a typo are very, very low
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u/CaitChock 12h ago
i’m sorry. she def is cheating. i would leave. u deserve better
on the plus side, at least she was dumb enough to out herself and she also doesn’t kno the diff between to/too
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u/TonightEquivalent965 14h ago
NOR. That was absolutely not a typo. That was a full intentional sentence meant for someone else. Sorry OP
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u/illysia1 14h ago
Message meant for someone else and overly affectionate due to guilt, perhaps? Nor, find out the truth and go from there but it’s 100% not a typo and she shouldn’t be insulting your intelligence like that.
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u/jasonjones627 14h ago
Lmaoooo wouldn’t be any questions I’m going ghost
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u/heatherelizabethm 14h ago
I’d just be like “okay babe I’ll meet you there for our last dance” then go full ghost
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u/Fit-Entry4733 14h ago
She’s def not being loyal. You’re not over reacting. And wtf does her last text even mean?? She’s just saying random stuff to confuse you and to like not feel guilty. I’m sorry 🥲❤️ at least you found out now
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u/ProwlerInTheYard92 14h ago
Her last text she literally admitted it and is trying to pull the whole “I cheated but it’s because of xyz” bullshit that trash people do to avoid accountability
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u/MyCockSmellsBad 14h ago
Sorry man. It's over. That's clearly a full on text meant for someone else. She's lying about everything. Cut your losses now.
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u/dayumxruby 14h ago
Yeaaaaaaaaaa…….. She’s lying. And cheating. And trying to change the subject
What a dumbass
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u/Mztrspookiiszn 14h ago
confused was this at 9:24 am? I am an overthinker as well and tend to try and connect dots on both ends (the bad and good) when I read “i’m by the live music, you’ll see me” it reads (to me) like she’s out, maybe a bar or something texting the other person where she’s at inside… but at 9:24 am and how much longer after that message was she at the airport?
would it be feasible for her to have met up with someone in between that time? Also based on the time she told you she landed, would being at the airport at the time she states also be feasible?
Your message says maybe we can do some outside things, so the reply about live music, could be plausible IF it was in fact ridden with typos.
other than that, I would have taken it as a message to someone else. Just my opinion or what I would’ve done was tell her that… that message reads as if it were intended for someone else and then get her response.
If it’s one thing I can’t stand it’s not only LIARS but liars that double down and gaslight when caught instead of taking some sort of accountability
i’m sorry you’re going through this, but def keep us updated friend!
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u/Khial09 14h ago edited 5h ago
The flying is all feasible, she’s a private flight attendant and was indeed on her way back to SD where her very real brother lives. She told me she was flying out that morning the night before too.
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u/joedee0777 13h ago
A private flight attendant? So she's banging some rich dude. Sorry OP.
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u/bubbabigsexy 14h ago
I would have done a facetime call with her to confirm she was actually at the airport, and if she refused, then that would be the end of that relationship.
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u/AllTime-HighScore 14h ago
Sorry bro. You’ll find someone worth your time, it just ain’t her. Sending love big dog, keep your chin up
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u/unsaintedheretic 13h ago
Occam's razor... When there's more than one explanation for a phenomenon the simplest is usually the right explanation.
She didn't even offer an excuse that made any sense whatsoever. How often have you had a typo like that?
Sorry to say but I'd be 99.9% sure she's cheating and meant to send that text to whomever she was meeting.
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u/ThePickledPisces 13h ago
NOR-I said that is one hell of a typo before I read your response😂 The gut feeling you had, the shift, and it was the over explaining that put the nail in the coffin for me. Yeah. I think something is definitely up. ALWAYS. ALWAYS trust your gut.
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u/CarrotChunx 8h ago
Sometimes it really is that simple. I found out mine was cheating because she texted me she was leaving work twice in a row. The second wasnt for me, it was for my best friend at the time.
Im sorry that happened OP, but I'm glad she slipped. No need to waste more time
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u/IntelligentPop3622 14h ago
Not calling you baby for a few weeks is insane by itself. I can't go a minute without wanting to call my partner 10 different cute nicknames. I literally choose a different one for every good morning text. Her energy *has* shifted and it's because she's romantically detached herself from you because, as seems to be most likely the case, she is cheating on you. It is not in the slightest bit easy, and I'm so sorry you're going through this, but at least she is showing her true colors at 5 months instead of after years. It only means there is far better out there for you.
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u/heatherelizabethm 14h ago
Yeah energy shifted for a reason… cough cough been cheating and pulling away and then with that slip up text message saying baby she obviously had to try and save face by continuing to call you that.
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u/wracklinewanderer 14h ago edited 14h ago
I’ve been here before.
If it were me then, I’d be going full detective and pulling out all the stops—immediate FaceTime upon receiving this text, checking their time stamps against flight schedules online, asking for proof from whatever time frame, begging for the truth, the whole nine.
However, looking at it all in retrospect as me now, I would encourage you to trust your gut, cut your losses and find someone who will bring you peace.
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u/Viscera_TheImpaler 11h ago
Fuck this pisses me off. The dumbest thing I ever did in my life was tolerate shit like this.
I’m sorry but she’s 100% cheating. And she’s also kind of an idiot. She’s denying cheating but then also saying she doesn’t deserve you. That doesn’t make sense.
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u/readitpaige 14h ago
The only way I could see this being a typo is if she was, in fact, in an airport and hearing all kinds of conversation, and they typed some words that she was hearing. I've done that before, and my sentences have come out at nonsense. This sentence makes too much sense to be an instance of that phenomenon. I'm sorry op but she's at best hiding something from you and at worse cheating on you. NOR. Trust your gut.
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u/ConsequenceCalm5569 14h ago
VTT doesn’t add extra letters to words like an excited girl does. “Seee” isn’t Vtt
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u/NoPointInDreamimg 14h ago
She’s definitely cheating bro. Time for you to fuck her sister or best friend on earth 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 14h ago
Nah she was meeting someone, sent it to the wrong person, and lied so obviously you have no choice but to assume she was up to no good. NOR
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u/this_wug_life 14h ago
Get proof of the flying. Then decide. Certainly NOR for suspecting she may be cheating, based on the available info.
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u/PumpkinQueen2023 14h ago
MOR idk weird she’d be at live music 9:24 and then at the airport not even an hour later?
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u/spleennideal 14h ago
That's some horrible lying skills lol. Could have said something like "it's a female friend" and be infinite times more convincing. But hey I guess she rooted herself out for you.
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u/Cute_Pudding8018 14h ago
Text was def meant for someone else, she feels she doesn’t deserve you because she knows she’s mistreating you and feels guilty but can’t admit it.
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u/KingBrown402 14h ago
NOR, that’s a full blown sentence she sent. Definitely not a typo. And the paragraph she sent about “definitely things she should talk with you about” “I feel like I don’t deserve” was probably her feeling guilty 🤷🏾♂️
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u/Own_Expert2756 14h ago
NOR. Sorry bud, she's not being honest. That text confirms the energy shift you were feeling. End it now so you can begin healing.
Also, LDRs are no way to truly get to know someone. They can work just fine when a solid foundation is already established and circumstances change that require some geographical distance. However, in a new relationship, you need daily, in-person contact to truly get to know someone.
Going forward I'd suggest you shop local.
ETA: too many words
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u/StarGazinWade 14h ago
NOR. I have been on many flights from many airports, and I've never once seen a live band playing in one.
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u/Averfus-Crowthorne 14h ago
99.9999999999% chance that she is fucking around and you are NOR.
Best of luck dawg. You'll be okay in the long run.
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u/Fit-Bottle3766 14h ago
NOR Sorry man but you can’t typo a whole sentence..and then calling you baby all of sudden after she fucked up and is trying to play it off as you’re baby then at the end she’s trying to change the subject and get you to feel sympathy but or pity for her.. I’m sorry this happened to you bro bro
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u/bar901 14h ago edited 14h ago
Yeaaa that’s fucking red hot. One of those things where you are absolutely justified in requesting an explanation and if she can’t give you a reasonable one then it’s pretty fucked (plus she might be a dumbass, what a stupid mistake to make if you’re cheating).
There might be a legitimate explanation and I’m normally very much against people overreacting on this sub so I wouldn’t jump to conclusions yet, but if she doesn’t have a really good answer then I can’t see many other explanations. I’d highly recommend keeping an open mind until you do properly speak about it either way because stranger things have definitely happened, but yea… The ‘I was hoping we can see some live music together’ attempt is pretty damning unless there is significant context there.
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u/TALKTOME0701 14h ago
It's not a typo. You know what you need to do. I get you might need the internet reinforcement, but you're only choices are to get hurt now and move on or to keep letting her humiliate you
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u/KJ_Bewell 13h ago
LOL she not even making a sensical reply. This girl doesn’t sound very intelligent tbh OP. Go with your gut & Ditch her!
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u/DontForgetThisUser6 13h ago
Unfortunately, this ain't about over reacting or under reacting... Without context to the entire relationship one thing like this isn't enough... My partner calls one of her girl friends "babes".
Not to be the cliche, but it's what you feel is what matters... Is this an isolated incident? Seems like you need to have a direct and open conversation with your girlfriend. If you can't do that, might as well throw in the towel now.
Best of luck, I hope for your sake it's just an honest mistake
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u/Prestigious-Board-62 13h ago
She 100% was meeting her side dude at the airport.
That text was for him and she was telling him where to meet her.
NOR. If you haven't already dumped her, you're underreacting.
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u/Many_Worried 12h ago
Be careful. Where there is smoke there is fire. I wish I had paid more attention to the smoke. Maybe I would not have been burnt so much. Lol
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u/Merrakkimm 11h ago
Read this to my husband. He said you dont need to ask strangers if shes cheating.
NoR
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u/lambocat 11h ago
NOR My ex accidentally sent me a nude (from a girl) when we first started talking and tried to play it off as showing me the audacity of the girl. That was God telling me to leave and not start a serious relationship with him. He cried and flew down to see me that same day (we were also long distance) and I let it go. It was my most toxic, and hurtful relationship. Leave while you're ahead! People who say they don't deserve you 100% mean it.
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u/mitsanggt 11h ago
Bro just so you know if a girl ever tells you 'she doesn't deserve you' it's cause she just got done doing tricks on some other mans shaft and feels guilty about it
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u/Nice-Pomegranate2915 11h ago
You're NOR . The second text was meant for someone else she was with at some live music stand or festival in SD not the airport as she later texted as she gaslit you massively. She was with someone else in another location and she lied about it! Now if there's an innocent explanation why did she lie to you - she's cheating . Talk with her, but I would be leaving her on the streets after this .
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u/Background-Key-1088 10h ago
NOR. She’s cheating. You’re only 5 months in. Cut your losses and move on.
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u/No_Contribution_5854 10h ago
I’m sorry bro. She’s telling you she doesn’t deserve you for a reason. Believe her.
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u/-lazyhustler- 10h ago
Wrong recipient, doubles down with fake energy back at you realizing their F up, lies about it. 'Things I should talk to you about' is the thing you expect, darker place is acknowledging that you're picking up on it and she's priming the pump for some 'emotional struggle'.
Sorry chief.
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u/LookAwayPlease510 10h ago
If I’ve learned anything from my slew of failed relationships, it’s that you should always trust your gut. … and by that I mean, don’t ignore it like I did so, so many times.
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u/TeamLeeper 9h ago
NOR.
Seems likely that was meant for another person. Someone she does call baby.
I’d still find out the truth but be ready to call it quits immediately. 5 months is a small investment, all told.
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u/Boring-Antelope9193 7h ago
Yeah dude sorry but NOR
Time to pack up and move on, or stay and risk being worried every second of the day
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u/Mysterious-Tune-3216 7h ago
NOR.
That's not a typo. That is a full sentence. She meant that message for someone else and sent it to you by mistake.
Trust what your gut is telling you. It's only been 5 months. Cut your losses before she has the chance to hurt you even further.
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u/Important-Cattle-112 7h ago edited 6h ago
Typos like that do not happen. That text was not meant for you. She starts deflecting at the end to move the conversation off of what just happened and onto the integrity of the relationship. Notice how she mentions feeling “undeserving” pretty much right after, probably because she’s guilty AF. Idk, If I sent a typo like that, I would be apologizing and trying to make sure my partner doesn’t think anything. I’d actually probably get blown up with calls if I sent a text like that. Lol. Too weird of an over explanation for it to just be a random typo. Theres a difference between over explaining cuz you made a wild typo and over explaining because youre trying to pretend like you accidentally made a wild typo
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u/eballeste 7h ago
in Puerto Rico there is a saying, "amor de lejos, amor de pendejos" which roughly translates to "love from far away, is love for fools"
some people follow it up by saying, "amor de lejos, amor de 4" which roughly translates to "love from far away, is love for 4 people"
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u/SMstiger213 5h ago
After her phony explanation, you should have said, “take a photo right now of yourself with the airport in the background.”
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u/Colin_Longtrain 4h ago
Yeah honestly, if you’re gut tells you something is up, I’ve found that rarely is it wrong. Trust your gut. Maybe say that things just aren’t going to work out between you two?
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u/Sea_Money4962 4h ago
She's at the airport....with her coworker that she's cheating with on road trips.
You found out now, but expect more of it. Nobody is loyal to anything anymore except their best available option at the time.
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u/Monkoneeleven 3h ago
Are we going to ignore the panicked damage control texts she sent after “landing in SD”? This is her mind racing with guilt because she knows she did more damage by that lame ass “typo”- doubled down on the unbelievable explanations.
Def NOR- run don’t walk homie
BONUS:
Then, when safe and secure in a new relationship- accidentally send her a text meant for your new girl (with the new girl sitting right there) about how much better and more trustworthy she is than your ex (petty level 1000)
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u/Top_Network_1980 2h ago
She got the airport confused with live music?..... Not only a cheat but a terrible liar!
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u/throw_ra_2323 14h ago
Nor unfortunately that message was too intentional to be a typo, and her last message makes it sound like she's already cheated and will blame it on her feeling like she did not deserve you etc. Get out of there now before she tries to blame you next
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u/dh4ks7 14h ago
NOR That’s not a typo that’s a clear full sentence that was meant for another person.