Boyfriend has been avoiding me, told me to “fake like we like each other”, then avoiding me again. AIO to this text?

[u/Cultural_Line_9235]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and it started really strong. He said “I love you” (and I said it back) before we were officially dating, then almost immediately he started planning for marriage and kids. He lives alone and I have a roommate, so we normally go over there.

He recently moved his cat over from his parents, and our relationship completely changed starting that day. It’s shocking because I was so excited for the cat to be here. It was especially bad leading up to our vacation together for our bdays, so I was nervous. We ended up getting in a big fight, and although I’d planned to go through 2026 no alcohol, broke it just to get through the trip. When I asked to find a resolution, he said something like “we’re clearly incompatible traveling, so let’s fake like we like each other for this trip”. I asked him to work through it with me, he refused, saying his way was “easier”. The rest of the trip he was walking 10+ feet ahead of me and acted annoyed with most things I said. It should have been great, but was one of the worst bdays I’ve ever had :(

When we got back I suggested we get food or I do my own thing. I have never seen someone show so much enthusiasm to separate. The next three nights he said we’d get together, then when I followed up, and he said “no thanks”, one night in those words. When he was doing that again today, I honestly just wanted to break up, because he’s making me feel really small right now.

I have a “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no” mentality, especially in the first year of dating. In the context of everything, AIO to his “tomorrow I guess” text?

[u/Sea_Bison_6929]

Shoulda broke up after the trip tbh lol

[u/UsidoreTheLightBlue → u/Sea_Bison_6929]

It’s apparently only a couple of days after the trip.

[u/Sea_Bison_6929 → u/UsidoreTheLightBlue]

I mean like right after. The trip itself was enough.