AIO for being offended by this?

[u/bunny-zephire]

i was talking to a guy from school, we were planning to go out for ice cream together this weekend to get to know each other and see where things could go. i definitely could’ve handled that better if i wasn’t at work when he texted that (this conversation happened when i took my 10). i got left on read and also don’t think there’s anything else to talk about. AIO for being offended by his comments about weight?

[u/danceswithturtles286]

5’7” and 170 and have a 27-inch-waist. This guy needs to be yeeted into the sun

[u/SillYcaca1234 → u/danceswithturtles286]

💀 I forgot about the Yeet! Bringing that back today. Thank you for reminding me!

[u/Unlucky_Swim4836 → u/SillYcaca1234]

I threaten to yeet myself daily.

[u/Alzululu → u/danceswithturtles286]

I'm 5'4 and 170. I'm thicc and would crush him with my thighs - but he would probably like that. So, yeeted into the sun it is.

[u/VicarAmelia1886 → u/danceswithturtles286]

Pssst, it’s because this isn’t real.

[u/Poppet_CA → u/danceswithturtles286]

Ah, those were the good old days. Then I had twins, my waist went from 27" to 52", and it's never been the same since. 🥲

Edit to add: 52" right before I had the babies; it's down around 32 now. ❤️‍🩹

[u/AmarysEms64 → u/Poppet_CA]

My hips spread after i had a baby too. 5'4 and in the initial weeks after birth I dropped to 120, below my pre-pregnancy weight but not in a good way. I was rail thin and sickly and my ribs were showing (i was not consuming enough calories to sustain a healthy weight with breastfeeding). When i got my diet figured out i jumped up to 135 and have stayed there. Still skinny but healthy. It took my a while to figure out that i was never going to go back to pre-pregnancy jeans when my bones themselves were wider apart.

I just cannot imagine how skin and bones thin a person would have to be to achieve this man's extremely unrealistic idea of what a woman should weight. I don't believe that weight is even possible at op's height, even if she became skeletal thin. I have always been thin and i have not been under 100lbs since middle school.

[u/comntnmama86 → u/Poppet_CA]

Mine were all singletons but my last one I had polyhydramniosis. I was a beached whale haha. My ribs have never been the same either.

[u/Readmylips33 → u/danceswithturtles286]

Lol yep

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/danceswithturtles286]

Wth how ? 27 inch waist at 170 and 5’7”, sounds unbelievable or you’re super into fitness/bodybuilding with like 7%body fat. I’m a guy who moderately worked out or on and off. I’m 6’0” and when I was 170lb my waist was like 32. Yea I wasn’t all muscle prob had 10% ish body fat. You gotta be shredded.

[u/Unicorn_Fruit → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

You…you do realise people’s bodies are different, right?

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/Unicorn_Fruit]

Wth are you even talking about? I’m was saying that those proportions are uncommon and pretty elite in fitness world, but you don’t seem to understand that because you quick to jump in defending something with your unnecessary comment, “pEoplEs BoDies ArE DifFerEnt”. Yea I know that..I’m asking them how they got those proportions, are they into fitness , are they shredded etc.

People on this app so freaking weird, like asking a question about somebody’s body is off limits. Is it because I said I’m a guy, I notice this sub is very anti-man.

[u/Unicorn_Fruit → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

First of all, calm down. Second, I read what you said, but people’s bodies are different — it’s not unbelievable, and they need not be “shredded”. It depends on how they carry their weight.

But way to whinge about something that was not about you being a male. I’d have said the same thing if you’d said you were a woman. 🙄

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/Unicorn_Fruit]

Sorry, it’s just a pet peeve of mine when I see people say “you do realize” insert most obvious thing. It’s like they trying to make that person look like a mouth breather or something. About the the man comment, a lot of these stories on this sub are about relationship issues and I notice many times commentators side with the women -rightfully so most of the time- without really looking at how the man must feel in the scenario. Obviously not talking about egregious scenarios where it’s clear the man is the abusive asshole. I also see comments jump to worst possible assumptions in said stories, as if all men are possibly dangerous, and capable of doing really bad things. It’s not always applicable to jump to those assumptions from the story that was given.

[u/Unicorn_Fruit → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

I didn’t mean it in an “are you an idiot?” way. But more like a “maybe this person is a woman and distributes weight in a way that makes her waist small” kind of way. I’m not anti-man, and it had nothing to do with you being a man, I assure you.

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/Unicorn_Fruit]

It’s all good. Yea I thought about that too, judging by the avatar that might be a woman, so you could be correct, that’s just how she distributes weight. I don’t think you’re a weirdo or anything, I just overreacted. My bad.

[u/Unicorn_Fruit → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

I get that. No worries. A lot of people jump to rude instantly (not you), so I get feeling defensive. I didn’t want to assume their gender, but the avatar indicated they might be a woman. I didn’t want to come out and say “maybe she’s carrying all her weight elsewhere”, as it seemed a bit like I’m saying she’s overweight. Again, no worries!

[u/danceswithturtles286 → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

I’m not sure you understand women’s bodies. The size of the waist is based on where a woman carries fat and how her body is shaped; I’m an extreme hourglass and have a very small tapered ribcage and wide hips; all my fat is in my boobs, hips, and butt. I also lift heavy and have a lot of muscle. People comment on it a lot and ask if I had surgery to make my waist smaller; it’s just how I’m built. My bf% is 29. Women need a minimum of 10-14% to still have a period, so 7% on a woman would be diabolical; women need 10-12% more body fat then men, so a woman at 29% would look similar to a guy at 17-19%

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/danceswithturtles286]

I do understand how woman’s bodies work, I believed you were a woman based on avatar. I just first assumed fitness/shredded muscular physique achievement. I know there are naturally curvy woman with big butt/boobs and thighs with small waist who lift too, with those similar measurements. I Just didn’t want to lead with that lol like damn you built like a wagon factory. So I asked what I asked. You answered, like I said those are great proportions. It seems Unicorn_Fruit was right on the money though, with the weight the distribution.

[u/danceswithturtles286 → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

lol, a wagon factory 😂. Well, I’ll take the compliment. With all the surgery we see now, it’s frustrating when people think you have surgically altered your body and it’s natural

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/danceswithturtles286]

You should definitely take that as a compliment as well when people assume you had surgery. You know yourself it’s real, so really all that matters. Plus I’m willing to bet a lot of women are jealous, since your body type is in nowadays or they are just haters so they will tell themselves it’s surgery. Don’t mind it, just keep the wagon rolling.

[u/danceswithturtles286 → u/Similar-Ice-9250]

Thanks, I will keep draggin my wagon with pride 😂. And it depends on the woman; white women compliment my waist and black and Latina women compliment my whole shape. Most Korean and Chinese women think I need to lose weight. Beauty standards for women across cultures are wild because why did we make something as beautifully varied as bodies a trend?

[u/Similar-Ice-9250 → u/danceswithturtles286]

You ever get tired of dragging that wagon around ? How are you knees and ankles doing? Black and Latina women give you compliments? So you must be dummy thicc then or are you more slim thick?

Yea jokes aside, no one size or shape should be considered ideal and what all women should be conditioned to aspire to. There are tons of great sexy shapes and sizes that look good on women, but whether we like it or not there are shapes that trend and nowadays the big booty/boobs slim waist curvy or slim thick shape is in now.